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Frequent
Fry HerTM
CrazyLive-InMIL
Age: 35 MIL
Age: 62
I need to vent !!!!!!
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- CrazyLive-InMIL, 1 of 4 needed
/Posted: 15-AUG-06
The things I do to avoid seeing my MIL: I would
rather go to my friend's house and spend all day and all night there
with my children than stay at home and watch her cook one of her "home
cooked" meals. I can't bear to smell, hear or see the things
that she does in my kitchen. I would rather stay at work another
hour or two later than normal just so I can get home and not see her
that day. She usually stays in her room in the evenings.
I would rather go window shopping after work than go home early to
see MIL. I miss my children and do end up arriving home in time
to spend some quality time with them, but I really do not want to
see her every day in my home. I would rather lay in bed, dying
of thirst for some water, than to go into the kitchen while she's
in there doing her usual morning routine of coffee and breakfast.
I would rather wait in my room if I hear her moving around the house
or walking through the hallway, than to have to walk past her and
say hello. I would rather stay in my room watching a movie on
DVD, than to sit outside and make conversation with her. And,
while I am lucky that my MIL hasn't directly been vicious or extremely
rude directly to my face, I do have to deal with my own feelings of
living in the same house as her, and not being able to control anything
that ends up in my guest bathroom or my kitchen.
Signed - I Would Rather
MIL Not Live With ME!
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- CrazyLive-InMIL, 2 of 4 needed
/Posted: 15-AUG-06
My MIL recently came back from her vacation from us.
She went to her "vacation" home for 3 1/2 months.
I am still trying to adjust to having her around again, since she
lives with us. It's like having a 3rd child; one who is permanently
15 years old, instead of 62. First, I have to get used to her
getting into my space again. I am territorial and like my kitchen
space to be a certain way. This includes keeping my good knives
cleaned and put back where they belong, using certain rags for certain
uses, and not leaving the sponge soaking in dirty dish water.
The usual anal little things that some of us have. Second, for
one person she accumulates all kinds of groceries, pantry food items,
cooking ingredients, freezer food, etc. So much so that it took
over a month to finally eat up or get rid of her various food items
after she left to go on vacation. To this day, there is still
a whole shelf of canned and dried goods piled in my pantry.
I came home the other day after she had been shopping in the local
imported food market to find over 12 containers of instant noodle
soup, a huge bag of some mysterious item tied tightly in a large yellow
plastic bag, and more canned cookies and crackers. Every time
I have to open the pantry door, something of hers fall out.
I finally realized that instead of watching what I buy and where I
put things, I should try the reverse and just start stocking up on
things that I could use so that she would have no room to store any
of her things. She comes along and buys too much of everything,
and then shoves everything into the space that I could have used for
something of mine. I've already reorganized a lot of my bakeware
and pantry goods to accommodate giving her a whole shelf. Even
that isn't enough, because now she's starting to slip things in on
the other shelves again, and she's only been back for less than a
month! I sometimes wonder if I might be stressing too much about
these little things, but for all my attempts at trying to not hurt
her feelings (as she's been known to over-dramatize a situation and
overreact to some things), I feel as though my efforts are in vain.
The courtesy isn't reciprocated, even though it is, after all, my
house that she's living in. And that, to me, is frustrating
more than anything else. On a bad day I start thinking about
kicking her out along with DH, just because he remains ever-attentive
to her feelings but expects me to accommodate her because she's supposedly
too old to change her ways, even though she's the one living with
us, and not the other way around!
Signed - Ever Resigned
and Hopeless
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- CrazyLive-InMIL, 3 of 4 needed
/Posted: 28-AUG-06
Gross things that MIL does in my home: I was
brought up a certain way, and was naïve enough to think that
most other people think the same way about basic, personal hygiene.
Here are just a few ways my MIL has broken that belief. She
uses any toothbrush that might be in the toothbrush holder.
It doesn't matter to her if it looks used and that someone else might
be using it. I've had to warn DH of her bad habit, and fortunately
he agrees and keeps his toothbrush away from the guest bath.
She brushes her hair with her comb or brush at my kitchen island,
where we eat. Then she leaves her comb or brush laying there
next to her while she's eating. She uses my rags in the bathroom
sometimes to wipe my kitchen counter. She uses any bath towel
that might be accessible and in her reach. She's bought dozens
of towels to send back to her relatives overseas, but she only has
one with her in my home. So, if I leave a towel that I used
for my kids hanging on the towel rack in the guest bath, she will
use it the next time she showers. The same goes for her relatives
who stay for the weekend in my home. They help themselves to
whatever towel they can find. I used to offer them a clean towel,
but since they're not welcomed guests in my home, I stopped that to
let them fend for themselves. I make sure to hide my towels
before they arrive. She accumulates used paper towels in the
kitchen into one big pile of used paper towels, which she then uses
to wipe down my kitchen counters. It wouldn't be so bad, but
I've seen her wipe her mouth and her nose and add that towel to the
pile. The same pile of paper towels will serve as dual use;
sometimes the floor gets wiped, too, and same said pile still gets
used to wipe down the counters. If there's food stuck to the
said pile of paper towels, that food also gets smeared all over the
counters. She uses my kitchen knives a lot. Of course,
I do not expect her to have her own set of knives in my kitchen, although
I'm almost ready to buy her a cheap set just so she'll stay away from
my good knives. This wouldn't be so bad if she didn't leave
food stuck on the knives when she returns them to where they belong
in the knife block.
Signed - Issues With MIL
Just Keep Coming And Coming
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- CrazyLive-InMIL, 4 of 4 needed
/Posted: 29-AUG-06
Prologue to my stories: I am so tired.
My MIL has been living with us for over a year and a half. She
decided to retire from her job and move in with us as soon as we bought
our first home. The rationale for her decision is that she's
too old to work (she was 60 at the time) and wants to help us take
care of the kids. Now she's 62 and she comes and goes as she
pleases. She doesn't help us care for the kids. We are
a single income family (I work while DH stays at home with the kids).
DH is burdened not just with caring for 2 kids, but also with her
daily needs, which include running errands, driving her to see her
relatives who live 2 hours away, and taking her to her doctor, dental
and hair appointments. DH has one sibling, an older sister,
who is not on speaking terms with the family. MIL is broke and
has no savings of any kind. She only has her pension and social
security, which she squanders on food she doesn't eat and on relatives
who need to borrow money. She was able to buy an old home in
her homeland with some money that she received from selling a home
she co-owned with her estranged DD and SIL. But after only spending
a scant 3 1/2 months there, she's back to stay for another agonizingly
long 6-7 months. She claims that she's trying to "break
herself" into living in her homeland again. I think that
she's using her room in my home as her "summer home"; good
only to visit her mountains of junk and take up space in my small
home.
Signed - I Am So Tired
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