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Age: 31 MIL Age: 67
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom /Posted:
12-JUL-07
MIL strikes again!! This is regarding
playing favorites. The annual GP luncheon was coming up at our
elementary school. This is a big deal for our kids, and I was
on the planning committee. The kids were so excited about it.
The RSVPs had to be in a week before. Due to security, we needed
to know who was coming into the building. My MIL decided that
she did not want to go. Fine! Whatever. She had
about 5 lame excuses. I mean, it is about the kids, right?
The day came and went. My parents went, and the kids had a great
time. They even got in the local newspaper. A week later,
my MIL called and wanted to let us know that she would be going to
my nephew's GP day at his school. She let it "drop"
in conversation. DH asked her what she was talking about, and
she said that she was going to that one. She never gave a reason
why she chose to go to one and not the other. But, if we had
confronted her, she would have lied and manipulated the story, and
we would have gotten even more angry. My nephew has extra GMs
due to a step family situation and all that, so it is not like he
would have had no one there if MIL didn't go. I think that the
only reason that she went was to foster resentment between the cousins.
My DS and nephew are 20 days apart in age. My DH and BIL cannot
stand each other, and SIL and I have figured out that it is due to
stories that MIL has told, probably since they were children.
It wasn't until SIL and I communicated that we realized what had happened.
DH and BIL can't believe that their mother would do it. They
know that she did, but there is too much pent up resentment to get
through. Why would a grandma play favorites with grandchildren?
And, how do I explain that to my kids? But, on another note,
SIL told me that the kids had a horrible time. MIL complained
the entire time. And, when the kids were brought home, they
were both crying and stressed out. So, I guess the moral of
the story is that . . .
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom /Posted:
3-JUN-07 Worst gift: For Christmas
last year, my MIL gave my BIL $100. She gave BOTH of his ex-wives
$100 each. She gave DH and me $100. We still don't know
how to take that. She gave all the children and her sons presents,
in addition to the money, but no gift for me. Or, maybe we were
being "punished" in her eyes for being married. I
really don't want her money, I would just either like her to be fair,
or to not broadcast when she is being unfair. She announced
what she was giving and how much we were all getting. We were
so shocked that we didn't know how to take it. And, the kicker
is that she has loaned BIL so much money that there is no way he will
ever be able to pay her back!
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom /Posted:
28-MAY-07
My MIL was never a good mother to her own children.
She let them get abused by their father. By "let",
I mean that she never stopped it. She has set up this triangle
where the brothers, DH and BIL, are always at each other. She
tells stories, lies actually, and gets the brothers mad at each other.
Once, I confronted my BIL about it, and his story was that his mom
said these things. So, we know that she is setting this up.
Well, now she has moved on to the children. She told me that
our 3 year old said that she doesn't like her brother. We totally
did not understand this. I mean, where would a 3 year old come
up with that? And, this little girl adores her big brother.
DS is the most kind and gentle little boy. I even questioned
my DD about this, and she said that she loves her brother. Why
would she try to make siblings hate each other? What does she
have to gain from this?
Frequent
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- Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom /Posted:
27-MAY-07
I had a very complicated pregnancy with my DS,
who was just 15 months younger than my DD. I was in and out
of the hospital, and we needed help with the baby that we had at home,
and the housework. Then, six weeks before DS was born, my GM,
whom I was very close to, passed away. It was a really rough
time for us, and our marriage. Then, enter MIL! She did
nothing! Not a thing! BIL's GF had a baby 20 days before
us, and she was there for them. But, she was not there for us,
even with all that was going on. No condolences or sympathy
card for my GM passing, either. So, I had the baby, and 6 weeks
later I was in the hospital again for emergency surgery to remove
my gall bladder. Again, nothing, except that she told my SIL
that I was having elective surgery. She did nothing for us.
I spent a week in the hospital, alone, because DH was taking care
of the babies. My own parents were helping him, and DH had to
work some time. He works for the family business. He almost
had a nervous breakdown. So he told them that he could not work
until I was home. MIL did not pay him for that time, although
she paid BIL, who also works there, for all the time that he took
off with his new baby and for a vacation! This was almost 6
years ago, and whenever I think of it, I get so mad. My DH is
a great father and a good DH.
Frequent
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- Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom /Posted: 7-MAY-07
My MIL is evil! Why else would I be here??
Anyway, I usually don't get more than mildly irked when she puts her
claws out at me. I am an adult. But, when she goes after
my kids, her own GC, it really irks me. She made "jokes"
for years about what she would give the first GS, so even though we
had a DD, she wanted a boy. My BIL's GF had a baby boy 21 days
before our DS was born. My MIL was all over that kid.
Nothing for our DS. A friend even said that our son was the
legitimate one, to MIL, but she did not care. SO, she gave a
substantial cash gift to BIL and his GF. Which is fine.
We got one for DD, but nothing for DS. She even gave us a check
for our 3rd child, but nothing for our only boy, not even a card or
an outfit. And, I am not saying that I expect anything, just
something equal to what our son's cousin got. Because he was
not the first GS, he got nothing! Is that fair? My DH
said that she just forgot, and that we should have reminded her!
Like I am a beggar! I don't like when she is unfair to me, but
now it is on to the kids, and . . .
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom /Posted: 1-MAY-07
When my DD was 5 years old, she got her ears pierced. She really
wanted to, and my DH and I agreed that she could. So we took
her, and made a big deal about it. She was so excited that she
wanted to show GM. My MIL's response to our 5 year old, "GD,
I can't stand to look at you anymore." My DD was crushed!!!
I could not believe that any GM would say that to a little girl!
The one good thing was that my DH was just as upset. MIL has
often made snide comments, out of his earshot. This time he
heard it all. He was livid!
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom, 1 of 4 needed
/Posted: 16-MAR-07
Whenever MIL reimburses me for something that
I pick up for her at the store, or when she gives me a birthday check,
she makes it out in my maiden name. I have been married to her
son for almost 9 years. DH called her on it once, and she giggled
and said that she has memory problems. She calls it "old-timers".
Frequent
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- Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom,
2 of 4 needed/Posted: 29-APR-07
My MIL plays favorites with the GC. It makes me so mad, because
my children are well behaved and polite, and my nephews are not.
They are well behaved for their mother, but like typical kids, they
try to get away with stuff. They can do no wrong where MIL is
concerned, but she sees no problem correcting my kids or prompting
them for "pleases". My children are 8, 6 and 3.
My nephews are 6 and 4. All around the same age. MIL promised
that she would take the kids to a play place over spring break.
It is like an indoor park. She made the promise to them, and
she took the other kids, but not mine! It makes us so angry.
DH has about had it. He will stand up to her, but this time
he says that she just didn't get to it. Like that makes it fair.
How do I explain to my kids that she prefers their cousins?
I want to so badly, but I know that it will hurt them. It won't
be too long until they realize it. But I am the mom, and . .
.
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom,
3 of 4 needed/Posted: 29-APR-07
My MIL hates a particular branch of Christianity.
I'm not sure why. She said that she was taunted by kids who
were that religion when she was a kid - but, get over it already.
It is not the fault of an entire religion! Well, I am a member
of that church, and am raising my children in that church. This
is fine with my DH, as his family has no religion, and he can either
come to church or not, it is his choice. He comes for all the
important stuff. My MIL ruined our wedding procession because
she would not come to the rehearsal, and refused to come to a religious
ceremony for our last DD. She came to a holiday concert, but
she told everyone that she had to take a Valium to do it. And,
my BIL repeated that to us, in front of the children. My 8 year
old DD was crushed. She can't understand why GM is like that.
Neither can I.
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom,
4 of 4 needed/Posted: 29-APR-07
My MIL is evil! She was telling everyone
for 10 years how much she wanted another GC. My DH is the youngest
of 4. The last time she was saying this, my DH and I just smiled
at each other, because we knew that I was pregnant, but wanted to
wait awhile before we told anyone. She was so happy when we
told her, and just went on and on about how she wanted it to be a
boy. Well, we refused to find out the gender, and when our DD
was born, and we called to say, "It's a girl!" MIL
said to her own son, "I am so disappointed!" To a
new father! That put a cloud on our day. DH tried to pretend
that it didn't, but he was hurt. And, she told anyone that would
listen how ugly that she thought my DD's middle name was (it is my
mother's name!!).
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