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Age: 31    MIL Age: 67

frequent fry her - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom Frequent Fry Her TM. - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom /Posted: 12-JUL-07
MIL strikes again!!  This is regarding playing favorites.  The annual GP luncheon was coming up at our elementary school.  This is a big deal for our kids, and I was on the planning committee.  The kids were so excited about it.  The RSVPs had to be in a week before.  Due to security, we needed to know who was coming into the building.  My MIL decided that she did not want to go.  Fine!  Whatever.  She had about 5 lame excuses.  I mean, it is about the kids, right?  The day came and went.  My parents went, and the kids had a great time.  They even got in the local newspaper.  A week later, my MIL called and wanted to let us know that she would be going to my nephew's GP day at his school.  She let it "drop" in conversation.  DH asked her what she was talking about, and she said that she was going to that one.  She never gave a reason why she chose to go to one and not the other.  But, if we had confronted her, she would have lied and manipulated the story, and we would have gotten even more angry.  My nephew has extra GMs due to a step family situation and all that, so it is not like he would have had no one there if MIL didn't go.  I think that the only reason that she went was to foster resentment between the cousins.  My DS and nephew are 20 days apart in age.  My DH and BIL cannot stand each other, and SIL and I have figured out that it is due to stories that MIL has told, probably since they were children.  It wasn't until SIL and I communicated that we realized what had happened.  DH and BIL can't believe that their mother would do it.  They know that she did, but there is too much pent up resentment to get through.  Why would a grandma play favorites with grandchildren?  And, how do I explain that to my kids?  But, on another note, SIL told me that the kids had a horrible time.  MIL complained the entire time.  And, when the kids were brought home, they were both crying and stressed out.  So, I guess the moral of the story is that . . .

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frequent fry her - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom Frequent Fry Her TM. - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom /Posted: 3-JUN-07
Worst gift:  For Christmas last year, my MIL gave my BIL $100.  She gave BOTH of his ex-wives $100 each.  She gave DH and me $100.  We still don't know how to take that.  She gave all the children and her sons presents, in addition to the money, but no gift for me.  Or, maybe we were being "punished" in her eyes for being married.  I really don't want her money, I would just either like her to be fair, or to not broadcast when she is being unfair.  She announced what she was giving and how much we were all getting.  We were so shocked that we didn't know how to take it.  And, the kicker is that she has loaned BIL so much money that there is no way he will ever be able to pay her back!

        Signed - She Announced What She Was Giving
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frequent fry her - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom Frequent Fry Her TM. - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom /Posted: 28-MAY-07
My MIL was never a good mother to her own children.  She let them get abused by their father.  By "let", I mean that she never stopped it.  She has set up this triangle where the brothers, DH and BIL, are always at each other.  She tells stories, lies actually, and gets the brothers mad at each other.  Once, I confronted my BIL about it, and his story was that his mom said these things.  So, we know that she is setting this up.  Well, now she has moved on to the children.  She told me that our 3 year old said that she doesn't like her brother.  We totally did not understand this.  I mean, where would a 3 year old come up with that?  And, this little girl adores her big brother.  DS is the most kind and gentle little boy.  I even questioned my DD about this, and she said that she loves her brother.  Why would she try to make siblings hate each other?  What does she have to gain from this?

        Signed - This Woman Cannot Be Happy Unless Everyone Is Miserable
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frequent fry her - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom Frequent Fry Her TM. - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom /Posted: 27-MAY-07
I had a very complicated pregnancy with my DS, who was just 15 months younger than my DD.  I was in and out of the hospital, and we needed help with the baby that we had at home, and the housework.  Then, six weeks before DS was born, my GM, whom I was very close to, passed away.  It was a really rough time for us, and our marriage.  Then, enter MIL!  She did nothing!  Not a thing!  BIL's GF had a baby 20 days before us, and she was there for them.  But, she was not there for us, even with all that was going on.  No condolences or sympathy card for my GM passing, either.  So, I had the baby, and 6 weeks later I was in the hospital again for emergency surgery to remove my gall bladder.  Again, nothing, except that she told my SIL that I was having elective surgery.  She did nothing for us.  I spent a week in the hospital, alone, because DH was taking care of the babies.  My own parents were helping him, and DH had to work some time.  He works for the family business.  He almost had a nervous breakdown.  So he told them that he could not work until I was home.  MIL did not pay him for that time, although she paid BIL, who also works there, for all the time that he took off with his new baby and for a vacation!  This was almost 6 years ago, and whenever I think of it, I get so mad.  My DH is a great father and a good DH.

        Signed - Why Can't He Have A Nice Mother?
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frequent fry her - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom Frequent Fry Her TM. - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom /Posted: 7-MAY-07
My MIL is evil!  Why else would I be here??  Anyway, I usually don't get more than mildly irked when she puts her claws out at me.  I am an adult.  But, when she goes after my kids, her own GC, it really irks me.  She made "jokes" for years about what she would give the first GS, so even though we had a DD, she wanted a boy.  My BIL's GF had a baby boy 21 days before our DS was born.  My MIL was all over that kid.  Nothing for our DS.  A friend even said that our son was the legitimate one, to MIL, but she did not care.  SO, she gave a substantial cash gift to BIL and his GF.  Which is fine.  We got one for DD, but nothing for DS.  She even gave us a check for our 3rd child, but nothing for our only boy, not even a card or an outfit.  And, I am not saying that I expect anything, just something equal to what our son's cousin got.  Because he was not the first GS, he got nothing!  Is that fair?  My DH said that she just forgot, and that we should have reminded her!  Like I am a beggar!  I don't like when she is unfair to me, but now it is on to the kids, and . . .

        Signed - It Makes Me Sooo Mad!
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frequent fry her - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom Frequent Fry Her TM. - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom /Posted: 1-MAY-07
When my DD was 5 years old, she got her ears pierced.  She really wanted to, and my DH and I agreed that she could.  So we took her, and made a big deal about it.  She was so excited that she wanted to show GM.  My MIL's response to our 5 year old, "GD, I can't stand to look at you anymore."  My DD was crushed!!!  I could not believe that any GM would say that to a little girl!  The one good thing was that my DH was just as upset.  MIL has often made snide comments, out of his earshot.  This time he heard it all.  He was livid!

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frequent fry her - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom Frequent Fry Her TM. - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom, 1 of 4 needed /Posted: 16-MAR-07
Whenever MIL reimburses me for something that I pick up for her at the store, or when she gives me a birthday check, she makes it out in my maiden name.  I have been married to her son for almost 9 years.  DH called her on it once, and she giggled and said that she has memory problems.  She calls it "old-timers".

        Signed - Maiden Name
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frequent fry her - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom Frequent Fry Her TM. - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom, 2 of 4 needed/Posted: 29-APR-07
My MIL plays favorites with the GC.  It makes me so mad, because my children are well behaved and polite, and my nephews are not.  They are well behaved for their mother, but like typical kids, they try to get away with stuff.  They can do no wrong where MIL is concerned, but she sees no problem correcting my kids or prompting them for "pleases".  My children are 8, 6 and 3.  My nephews are 6 and 4.  All around the same age.  MIL promised that she would take the kids to a play place over spring break.  It is like an indoor park.  She made the promise to them, and she took the other kids, but not mine!  It makes us so angry.  DH has about had it.  He will stand up to her, but this time he says that she just didn't get to it.  Like that makes it fair.  How do I explain to my kids that she prefers their cousins?  I want to so badly, but I know that it will hurt them.  It won't be too long until they realize it.  But I am the mom, and . . .

        Signed - I Want To Protect Them From That
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frequent fry her - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom Frequent Fry Her TM. - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 29-APR-07
My MIL hates a particular branch of Christianity.  I'm not sure why.  She said that she was taunted by kids who were that religion when she was a kid - but, get over it already.  It is not the fault of an entire religion!  Well, I am a member of that church, and am raising my children in that church.  This is fine with my DH, as his family has no religion, and he can either come to church or not, it is his choice.  He comes for all the important stuff.  My MIL ruined our wedding procession because she would not come to the rehearsal, and refused to come to a religious ceremony for our last DD.  She came to a holiday concert, but she told everyone that she had to take a Valium to do it.  And, my BIL repeated that to us, in front of the children.  My 8 year old DD was crushed.  She can't understand why GM is like that.  Neither can I.

        Signed - DD Was Crushed
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frequent fry her - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom Frequent Fry Her TM. - Enjoybeing My Kid's Mom, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 29-APR-07
My MIL is evil!  She was telling everyone for 10 years how much she wanted another GC.  My DH is the youngest of 4.  The last time she was saying this, my DH and I just smiled at each other, because we knew that I was pregnant, but wanted to wait awhile before we told anyone.  She was so happy when we told her, and just went on and on about how she wanted it to be a boy.  Well, we refused to find out the gender, and when our DD was born, and we called to say, "It's a girl!"  MIL said to her own son, "I am so disappointed!"  To a new father!  That put a cloud on our day.  DH tried to pretend that it didn't, but he was hurt.  And, she told anyone that would listen how ugly that she thought my DD's middle name was (it is my mother's name!!).

        Signed - This woman Is So Wicked
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