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MIL Age: 68
You Can't Make This Stuff Up

frequent fry her - LawyerDIL Frequent Fry Her TM. - LawyerDIL/Posted: 2-MAR-10
MIL called my mother last week, wondering if we survived the snowstorms.  Then, she started whining that we are keeping her from her GC.  My mother said, "I know nothing about this."  That is, of course, untrue.  But, at least my mother is learning not to engage the crazy.  I am finding myself full of anxiety about the cutoff, because MIL isn't one to go quietly into the night.  I'm just waiting.

        Signed - Waiting For The Next Shoe To Fall
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frequent fry her - LawyerDIL Frequent Fry Her TM. - LawyerDIL, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 2-FEB-10
MIL's been cutoff by DH.  My cutoff started last year, and it is now a total no-contact cutoff.  Why?  It's a long story, spanning over 10 years, but it currently involves her inability to accept the idea that we make decisions for our children, and she doesn't get a say in their care and upbringing.  She's a homophobic, religious zealot crazy lady.  The email below is what she sent DH.  She thinks that insulting my profession will somehow hurt me.  Fail.  "You have both angered me so ... that I may get a 'fact' wrong now and then ... am I in court being tried?  How cold and heartless lawyers can sometimes be ... I have seen one in action at a Federal Court in downtown, bullying a man who only tried to help a woman shopping at a (name of a discount department store) ... and yes, I was picked for the jury.  At this point, I am so angry, that if ever get invited to anything at your home, I may Never come."  Promises, promises.

        Signed - I'm Not An Angry LawyerDIL, I Just Play One On TV
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frequent fry her - LawyerDIL Frequent Fry Her TM. - LawyerDIL, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 29-JAN-10
My friend from college, who had stayed at our house almost 9 years ago, is a gay man.  So, DH and I got a chuckle over MIL's conviction that I was having an affair.  This led us to new revelations about her, specifically, her belief that "gay" was just an excuse for me to have a man at my house.  People could choose to be gay, so they could probably choose not to be gay in order to have sex with their married lawyer DIL friend, when her DH was away.  Yes, she was a homophobe, too.  For the past 10 years, I've had to listen to her try to convince me that the "gays" were bad and that I shouldn't talk to them.  She feels that God loved them because God wanted them to change, and that it was ok to be gay in the eyes of her religion, because God loves the sinners.  And so on.  Now, other people may believe that stuff, but I don't.  I don't appreciate it when MIL insinuates that my gay friends are going to abuse my children.  Nor do I appreciate any of the other nonsense beliefs that she has.  She thinks that gay is a mental illness.  Now, THERE is the pot calling the kettle black.

        Signed - I Refuse To Have A Battle Of Wits With An Unarmed Person
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frequent fry her - LawyerDIL Frequent Fry Her TM. - LawyerDIL, 2 of 4 needed/Posted: 29-JAN-10
Here's pretty much where it all began:  Almost nine years ago, shortly after DH and I got married, MIL called one Sunday to chat, while DH was out of town.  At the time, I was still willing to talk to her.  She had done some stuff that was annoying, but not truly toxic.  While I was speaking to her, I mentioned that my friend had been over for the weekend.  She said, "Oh, is SHE a friend from college?  I said, "No, HE is."   Silence.  Then, "Oh, that's my call-waiting.  I have to go."  Click.  Knowing that something funky was about to happen, I called DH's cell phone and gave him the head's up that his mother was about to do something stupid.  I knew it the second she hung up the phone.  But, man, who could have predicted the crazy that would come next.  She called his cell.  She called his office multiple times.  "I MUST speak with you immediately.  It's an emergency."  What's the emergency?  "Did you know that LawyerDIL had a MAN over your house when you were away?"  And so on, and so on, and so on.  I was obviously having an affair.  And, if I wasn't, how improper it was of me to have a man at my house when I was alone.  She called the priest.  She called her family members.  She told her DH.  All of them told her to back off.  But, she couldn't do it.  She couldn't let it go.  This went on for weeks.  Finally, DH snapped and screamed at her over the phone.  He pointblank asked her if she was trying to destroy his marriage.  He didn't talk to her for weeks.  I didn't talk to her for weeks.  The cutoff probably would have lasted longer, but FIL was having serious heart surgery, and we had to see MIL because she was at the hospital.  I still wasn't speaking to her.  At all.  When we went to the hospital, I ignored her.  I spent time comforting FIL's elderly mother, who was freaked out by her son being so sick.  MIL's response to that was to verbally attack HER OWN MIL, the elderly grandmother, because I had been nice to her.  For the last 10 years, MIL has been using FIL's illnesses as an excuse to act like a screeching crazy harpy.  This way . . .

        Signed - She Doesn't Have To Apologize For Her Actions
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frequent fry her - LawyerDIL Frequent Fry Her TM. - LawyerDIL, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 28-JAN-10
Almost 2 years ago, I had a later pregnancy loss.  After initially asking me inappropriate questions about how I had determined that DD had died, MIL sent me pamphlets in the mail about religion and grieving.  They were not appreciated, because I no longer belong to her religion.  But, I accepted them and didn't say anything.  I don't speak to my MIL unless I am defending my children or directly answering a question (and, in as few words as possible).  So, imagine my surprise when my birthday rolled around and MIL sent flowers and an e-mail.  The flowers pissed me off because she caused a giant scene at my company in her efforts to get my office address.  Because, if she could look up the phone number for the company on the internet, perhaps the address was there too.  She just wanted attention.  But, I digress.  She sent me an e-mail, purporting to be birthday wishes, but also apparently trying to guilt me into forgiving her for 10+ years of being a total b!tch to me.  So, she tried to play the dead baby card, apparently hoping that it would tug enough heartstrings to get me to forgive her.  She told me about how she shared in mourning my DD, but isn't it wonderful that I went on to have a baby that didn't die.  Weirdo.  Yep, invoking the dead DD's name for her own personal gain.  Nope, still not talking to her.

        Signed - Not Nearly As Gullible As She Thinks I Am
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