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MY MIL IS EVIL
Age: 53       MIL Age: 72
I would like to create a journal here of my experiences with my dysfunctional mother-in-law, especially during or right after a visit from her.  This journal will help me express my anger and frustration at this precarious position that I was destined to be in when I married my loving husband.  Hopefully, this page will serve as a catharsis for me.  Hopefully others will read this and will feel better about their own situation and mothers-in-law since mine is truly so EVIL.  I will be back!

frequent fry her - My MIL Is Evil, 1 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - My MIL Is Evil, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 28-APR-05
When I was about 7 months pregnant, carrying my MIL's first and only grandchild, I was already at a high risk age, at 41.  When DH wasn't around, she continuously insulted me, taunted me, and purposely talked about things that would upset me.  Looking back, I know for a fact that she was trying to make me miscarry and lose my child so that it would be easier for her to try to break up my marriage.  Now that's EVIL.

        Signed - That's EVIL

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frequent fry her - My MIL Is Evil, 2 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - My MIL Is Evil, 2 of 4 needed/Posted: 29-APR-05
When we first got married, we invited MIL to come stay with us for two weeks during the holidays.  She purposely made her airline reservations for six weeks, unbeknownst to us.  Of course, they were nonrefundable airline tickets.  Her behavior was absolutely obnoxious, including walking around half naked in front of us.  Who wants to see a half naked woman over the age of 65?  It was very gross, but I suppose she has delusions that she still appears to look like she did at age 20.  I think that she has a sexual attraction to her own son.  Now this is EVIL.

        Signed - Very Gross

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frequent fry her - My MIL Is Evil, 3 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - My MIL Is Evil, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 30-APR-05
I've been with my DH for approximately 14 years.  My MIL's antics just get worse every year.  When we stayed with her for a week, I noticed various household kitchen articles of mine that I thought had just "disappeared".  Since then, I realized that my MIL was stealing from our house.  I always knew that she had a "problem", but I thought that it was just taking flatware and cloth napkins from restaurants.  Obviously, she has a very poor impulse control.  She also loves to move things around in my house so that I can think that I'm going crazy.  If anyone has ever seen the old movie, "Gas Light", starring Charles Boyer, this is exactly what goes on in my household when she comes down for her three visits per year.  This lady is truly mentally disturbed.

        Signed - Truly Mentally Disturbed

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frequent fry her - My MIL Is Evil, 4 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - My MIL Is Evil, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 1-MAY-05
In addition to stealing things in our house, MIL also loves to damage things, i.e., pulling beads off of Victorian lamps, scratching doors and wood from furniture.  She also put a tear in my DD's brand new cat quilt.  She took a white lace pillow and used it to blot her red lipstick in over 5 different places.  I was lucky, it was white and I was able to get it out with bleach.  The list of her vandalism is simply endless.  I bring it to my DH's attention, but he denies it and quickly says "things just happen".  I don't think that he wants to deal with the problem, so he goes into denial about it.  She also put three big chips into the porcelain of our bath tub.  When I pointed it out to DH, he claimed that he did it.  It's our guest bathroom and no one in our family even uses that tub - only MIL when she comes in for the visit.  DH does not support me, but luckily my 11 year old DD does.  She's old enough to feel the hatred and resentment that this toxic and dysfunctional woman has for me.  She also hears the insults and criticisms.  I am evolved and wise enough to know that MIL is jealous of me, has resentment, and ultimately does not like herself; hence the criticism towards me.  However, her presence is getting more challenging to handle every year that goes by, since she seems to increase the stealing and damaging furniture episodes.  I do lock away my valuable things (especially things that were once my deceased mother's), but I cannot put everything that I own in my bedroom.  I also don't ever let her stay in our house alone.  Those days are long gone!  My little girl comforts me and says, "Don't worry mama, grandma is more than half dead now."  My MIL will be 73, and I doubt if she'll ever change or get the psychotherapy that she so desperately needs.  She hates change, and has a dysfunction of never letting go.  My DH is her only child, and she divorced his father back in the 60's.  She moved herself and my DH, who was 3 at that time, back in with her own mommy and daddy.  That, in itself, is dysfunctional.  In any event, that is my story.  I'm lucky that the EVIL one lives 2000 miles away, but I still have to contend with about three visits from her per year.  If anyone has any creative advice or ways that I can protect my furniture or possessions, please share!  Thanking you in advance.

        Signed - MIL Loves To Damage Things

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