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A Girl Of 2004
Age: 22 MIL
Age: 48
A Long, Rocky Road
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- agirlof2004/Posted: 27-JUN-15
I recently e-mailed my FMIL "just to say hi" and see how
she is doing. In the e-mail, I mentioned how my BF and I are planning
to come see her soon. She suggested the last weekend of this month.
Meanwhile, I know my BF has been sneaking around on the phone with
the jewelry store and preparing to pick up my engagement ring! I KNOW
the proposal is coming soon, based on little hints he has been dropping
me, and trust me, it is hard for him to keep a secret. We went together
to pick out my ring, so I knew this was happening from the very beginning.
Anyway, in the back of my mind, I thought that if he proposed to me
before we went to visit his mother, it would be a nice time to visit
with her and tell her in person. (If you've read my previous stories,
you know that she didn't take it well AT ALL when he brought up the
subject of our engagement with her. If it was up to me, he would propose
to me, call her the next day, and give her at LEAST a week to digest
the information on her own before showing up in person. She's crazy
and it would just work better like that.)
So, my BF and I were all set to go on this trip when we got a phone
call AT WORK last week. His mother has cancer and has been undergoing
chemotherapy treatments. Now, despite all my complaining, I am VERY
concerned about her and VERY upset that she has to go through this.
I simply do not agree with the way she is going about things. She
is pushing the people who are closest to her away, when they are the
ones who will be there for her the most right now when she needs them.
My BF basically found out that his mother's chemo has not been working
at all, and they want to begin more aggressive chemo treatments with
her. She will be going more often now.
Well, when his mother found out about this, she got it in her head
that she may not ever get better. She told my BF that when HE comes
to visit, she wants to sit down with him and his 19 year old sister
and go over her affairs. She told him she would also like to speak
just with him alone at some point. I was not mentioned at all. So,
now, I told my BF that he needs to go spend this time with his family
and give her his undivided attention. He still keeps begging me to
come with. I still think he will propose to me before the trip, but
it is just so typical that she found a way to make that weekend all
about HER as usual.
This is so much more than me just ranting and raving that she ruined
the opportunity for my BF and me to tell her about our engagement
together. It's an opportunity for her to badmouth me behind my back
to his face once again, especially once she learns I have a ring on
my finger. There is one side of me who knows that he NEEDS to go alone,
because I am totally unwelcome. But, there is still the other side
that feels as if I should be there as his fiance. Whenever I go there
I feel like a buffer between him and her. At least when he goes alone
he will get a good dose of her, and hopefully start to realize how
manipulating and awful she can be.
I assure everyone reading this that I am TOTALLY sympathetic of her
illness - I work in a hospital, I see sickness every day and it's
devastating - but her illness is no excuse to have an entitled attitude
and treat everyone around her like dirt.
Signed - Sick Of It
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- agirlof2004/Posted: 20-JUN-15
It had been one week since FMIL and my BF had their blowout fight
over my BF's and my upcoming engagement. She hadn't spoken to him
since that fight - probably giving herself some time to sulk and create
an action plan to sabotage our engagement (trust me, if you knew her,
you'd agree with me)!! BF's sister called him to say that FMIL "hasn't
been feeling well lately", and that he should probably come out
to visit her soon.
I have NEVER kept my BF from seeing his family. Since he had moved
in with me, he'd gone out there to see them at LEAST once a month,
with or without me. If FMIL needed my BF for some reason that was
truly urgent, she wouldn't hesitate to call him herself. She calls
him at work, she calls him on his cell-phone, she calls him whenever
the heck she wants. Trust me, I witness it. But, did she call him
this time? No. Am I such a terrible person for suspecting that FMIL
got his sister to call BF for her?
It created added drama. When FMIL called my BF to "apologize"
after their fight, she said, "I've just been so stressed lately
- no one's been there for me." As in, no one has been there for
her, INCLUDING my BF!! He sees her and does as much for her as he
possibly can!!
This woman is divorced, and still has her ex stopping by her place
to check on her periodically. The ex has a new GF and is living with
her. He should NOT be over there whenever FMIL calls him. Between
my BF's sister and this woman's ex, talk about controlling. Ugh.
Signed - Tired Of It
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- agirlof2004/Posted: 31-MAR-09
FMIL told FSIL that she could finally get a cat as
a graduation present from high school. One day, FMIL, FSIL,
my now-DF and I went to the ASPCA to look at the pets. FSIL
picked out a cat that she absolutely fell in love with. Unfortunately,
so did FMIL. It is unbelievable how much power she has over
her kids. I watched as she slowly wore FSIL down until FSIL
agreed to get the cat that FMIL picked out. They brought the
cat home that day. It gets better. FMIL stupidly decided
to feed the cat human food instead of regular cat food. As a
result, the cat got sick. It was soon making messes all over
the place. Once the cat got sick, FMIL decided that it was "too
much to handle". One day, when FSIL and my then-BF were
at school, she brought the cat back to the ASPCA, telling them she
could no longer take care of it. My then-BF and FSIL came home
to find the cat gone. They were both devastated. Fast
forward one week. FMIL began to miss the cat and regret her
decision to bring him back. She called the ASPCA, explained
how she had been "frustrated" as a new cat owner, and told
them she had acted too abruptly. Amazingly, the same cat was
still at the ASPCA, not yet adopted, and they ACTUALLY LET HER TAKE
HIM HOME A SECOND TIME!!! She now is the proud owner of the
same darn cat. By this time, even I was starting to get fed
up with all of this cr@p - it wasn't even fair to the poor cat!!
But, finally, the icing on the cake for me: Following all of
this, FMIL came to visit my then-BF and me one weekend. In the
meantime, he and I had adopted an adorable female cat of our own.
Her temperament is the exact opposite of FSIL's cat, who is a male.
Once FMIL met our cat, she fell in love. The entire weekend,
she kept picking her up, patting her, and wouldn't leave her alone.
She loudly announced to my then-BF and I, "See, this is the kind
of cat I would have wanted. I wish MY cat could be this affectionate!"
I could barely hold in my laughter. It's like, listen lady,
you HAND-PICKED the cat you have! If you don't like him, it's
YOUR fault! And it was never supposed to be YOUR cat in the
first place! It's your DAUGHTER'S!! I hope she never lays
a hand on our little girl again.
Signed - Control-Freak
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- agirlof2004/Posted: 31-MAR-09
I just got engaged this past weekend. When my
DF called his mother to let her know, she did not ask to talk to me.
The next day, I emailed her, telling her that my DF and I are very
excited, that we know it's big news to take in, and that we made sure
she was one of the very first people to know. She hasn't responded.
I am now going to wait to see how long it actually takes her to SAY
SOMETHING about this instead of just pretending it didn't happen.
I'm sure she is just taking her time plotting something. When
she's done, the sh!t will hit the fan.
Signed - Waiting For It
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- agirlof2004, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 12-FEB-09
Worst gift: This past
Christmas, FMIL sent a big, obnoxious box to my BF's and my apartment.
He came home from work, all excited about what it could be.
She had told him that she would be sending it along, and to not open
it until Christmas. When I took a good look at it, it was addressed
only to DF. There was also a card made out only to him.
The weekend following Christmas, DF went to visit her (I did not go,
as I had members of my own family visiting from out of state).
When he came back, he had hundreds of dollars worth of gifts - mostly
clothes. I did not receive anything at all from her. Not
that I was expecting anything, but it adds more salt to the wound
if I see this package arrive for him out of nowhere. In all
the time I've known her (nearly three years), I have not received
a single gift from her - not even a birthday card. Some people
receive terrible or off-color gifts from their MILs. They can
complain or laugh about it later. I almost think it's worse
to just be totally ignored and not included as part of the family.
Signed - Rejected
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- agirlof2004, 2 of 4 needed/Posted: 13-FEB-09
After nearly three years together, my BF and I are
at the point where we have picked out my engagement ring, and he will
be proposing to me soon. After many experiences dealing with
my FMIL, BF and I both knew she would not be taking the news well.
She is sick, and recently called him at work to complain. She
said that she "just wanted to be alive to see her grandchildren".
BF segued into saying there would be no grandchildren without a wedding.
That's when the sh!t hit the fan. She went off on a tangent,
arguing with him and accusing him of "rushing into things".
She even went so far as to say that he shouldn't be doing anything
he doesn't "feel comfortable with", as if to suggest that
I am somehow forcing him into this, which I am clearly not.
BF and I are happily in love. She then proceeded to nitpick
on me and attack every single little detail, as if in a desperate
attempt to change his mind about our engagement. The fight between
her and my BF escalated to the point where one of his coworkers came
over to tell him to keep it down. The next day, she called him
back and apologized. Too late. The damage has already
been done. She has made it clear how she feels about me.
She does not like me. Things like this just prove that fact.
Signed - Dreading The Future
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- agirlof2004, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 13-FEB-09
My FMIL lives in a pretty sketchy area in a major US
city. Whenever BF and I go visit, I (understandably) prefer
to park my brand new car in a gated, overnight parking lot right down
the road, rather than on the side of the street. Every time
we visit this woman, she asks him to go out and do errands for her.
Once, she asked BF if I could drive her to the grocery store, as she
does not own a car and could not carry groceries home on her own.
My FSIL finally spoke up and said that she should probably ask me
instead, as it was my car and I was the one who would be driving.
I still agreed. When I picked her up at the store in my brand
new car, she had so many groceries with her that I was afraid that
my car wouldn't fit all of them and the three of us as well.
She proceeded to make comments about how cramped the car was, especially
in the back. I didn't buy the car thinking that I would be her
personal chauffeur. She didn't want to sit in the back (my car
is only a two door, so you have to move up the front seats in order
to get into the back seats). BF offered to sit in the back,
instead. He is quite tall, and his head almost touched the ceiling
in the back. This was not an issue, as 99% of the time he is
in the front with me, where there is much more room. She sarcastically
turned around and asked him, "Oh, are you comfortable sweetie?"
While all of this was going on, BF and I were keeping an eye on the
clock. We told her that we would be leaving to go to our alma
mater's football game at 11:00 AM. She conveniently didn't get
this whole idea about me driving her from the grocery store until
about 10:00 AM, one hour before we were to leave. Needless to
say, we were late for the game, and she never thanked me for driving.
Signed - Words Cannot Describe
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- agirlof2004, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 14-FEB-09
My FMIL came to visit my BF and me for the weekend.
It was the first time she was to see our new apartment since we moved
in together. To make a long story short, the entire weekend
was a catastrophe. First, she and BF apparently had a fight
as soon as she stepped off the bus, because she had had a "long,
terrible trip". Things did not start off on the right foot.
From there, things went downhill. My BF and I purchased a futon
especially for her use during the visit, which we put in our second
bedroom. We had been thinking about buying one, but we decided
to just go ahead and do it in order to accommodate her and keep her
comfortable. She slept on it that first night, and spent the
remainder of the trip complaining about how her back hurt, and making
offhand comments about how the brand new mattress was "hard".
Additionally, she decided to make a comment about how the layout of
HER apartment was "much nicer" because her bathroom is attached
to her bedroom, and in ours, it is not. She had never been to
our city before, so we really wanted to show her the sights.
Instead, she decided that the suitcase she had packed for the trip
was not good enough, and that she needed to purchase a new one with
wheels on it immediately. We spent the entire day following
her around until we got to a department store, where we spent nearly
two hours waiting for her to pick one out. When she did finally
pick one out, she complained about how it was not the size or color
she wanted, but it was all she could afford. When we arrived
back home after a long day of touring the entire city, we were all
ready for a nice dinner out. By then, she was hungry and grouchy,
and was barely speaking. When we got to the restaurant, she
sat there right next to me in the waiting area with her IPOD ON, not
saying a word. She ended the weekend by loudly knocking on our
bedroom door, the next morning, to tell BF him to come out immediately,
as she intended to get an earlier bus home than we had previously
discussed.
Signed - Frustrated Does
Not Begin to Describe It
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