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Frequent
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Age: 35 MIL Age: 67
So Much For That!
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Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- bw/Posted: 30-APR-11
Today, I witnessed the most pathetic thing that symbolizes the relationship
between DW and her mother. DW started a new job today.
We're still trying to work out the logistics of getting the kids to/from
school, along with their after school care arrangements.
This morning, MIL came over and picked up my DDs and my wife.
She took the kids to their school, and dropped DW off at her job (also
a school). This, in spite of the fact that DW is 35, has a perfectly
good car to drive, and her workplace is only a few miles from where
we live. There are so many things wrong with this picture.
If I wasn't certain before, I now know that I married a child.
Signed - Isn't It Cute
That Mommy Still Takes Her 35 Year Old DD To School?
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- bw/Posted: 16-APR-11
Some time ago, my 7 year old DD got a hold of
my wine glass, when I wasn't looking. When I turned back around,
I caught her just before she drank any. It was one of those
"tell her not to, but by the time I get the words out, the deed
will be done" moments. Naturally, that's what happened.
She had, maybe, a tablespoon. Now, I could have yelled, sent
her to her room, or whatever, etc. She knows better. But
there just didn't seem to be any point, because the sour look on her
face told me that the lesson had been learned. I thought it
was done, then and there.
Several days later, I brought home some micro brew grape soda for
both of my DDs. She was excited at first, but then, all of a
sudden, she wanted nothing to do with it. I then found out that
MIL told her that wine was really bad for her, and that it would make
her hair fall out. So, now she's afraid of grape soda and grape
juice. I'm not a big fan of lying to kids to get them to do/not
do what I want, and I'm not sure how to undo this.
I'm not sure which is worse, the fact that MIL took over parenting,
or that . . .
Signed - She Lied To My
DD
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- bw/Posted: 16-MAR-11
Both ILs are about as nutty as they come. I can't understand
their thinking, most of the time, except to say that they believe
they are perfect and that, because we are the "kids", we
are always supposed to do what we are told and never to disagree.
DW and I have been married for 10 years. In that time, my ILs,
MIL in particular, have driven me to the point where I can't stand
to be around them, and I refuse to go to their house for anything.
This really got under their skin the first Christmas. And, it
was not because I was missed, but because MIL's mother was in town,
and it didn't look right. In other words, she was embarrassed
to have to explain to her mother why I didn't come. I made the
mistake of going over the next year to have to sit and listen to her
criticize DW, when she wasn't around. I was ready to rip her
head off. Luckily, FIL saw this and shut her up. Good
ol' MIL just knows everything.
Anyway, it's no secret that I don't like them for the various things
they've done over the years. The one thing that slays me, though,
is that my MIL was really upset because I no longer had parties for
them where I cooked. When I cook, I go all out. It's usually
a two day affair, where I'm exhausted when it's over. And, they
think they're entitled to all that after everything they've done?
Gimme a break! MIL doesn't feel welcomed into our home.
Gee, I can't imagine why. Maybe it's because she's not.
Signed - No, MIL, You're
Not Welcome In My House
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- bw/Posted: 15-MAR-11
This one was the straw that broke the camel's back. DW has never
been able to set boundaries with her mother. She knows there's
a serious problem with her mother, but refuses to deal with it, to
the point where we're in the process of divorce.
A little background info: My mother has never done anything
to insult DW, and has always been there for us. She may not
be as involved with our family as I'd like. But, then again,
I don't make the effort that I should, either. She certainly
doesn't cause problems the way MIL does. Both of my parents
refuse to get involved with our marriage, because they know we're
the ones who have to work it out.
DW and I had a fairly minor argument. She used that as an excuse
to go stay at MIL's house for over a week. This is not uncommon,
as MIL has brainwashed her. Well, MIL was pretty upset, and
sent me a text saying that I had to talk with her (MIL) to get this
worked out. I refuse to talk with anyone except my wife about
our marriage, so I ignored it. Then, I received an email about
what an evil person I am. Okay, fine, I ignored that one too,
except that I forwarded it to my wife for her to see. Then,
MIL really got mad, and decided to unload on my mother for not being
more active in controlling me the way they (MIL and DW) want.
My mother was blindsided and crying by the time the phone call ended.
She was upset, and called me because she thought that MIL would convince
me that DM was meddling in our marriage.
More background: Every one of MIL's other kids have cut her
out of their lives for years. Two of three are now speaking
to her again. However, they do keep her at a distance and set
boundaries. In other words, they get it, and DW doesn't.
Just to show how sick this woman is, DW has not had any of her own
friends. When she gets one, MIL runs them down, and DW eventually
stops talking with them. Every time DW does something, it always
has to involve MIL. She can't do anything without MIL.
This includes grocery shopping and taking the kids bowling.
Heck, she even stayed the night at MIL's house because the kids were
having a sleepover there with a friend. I'm still not sure why
our house wasn't good enough.
Now I have to figure out a way to keep my two DDs from getting caught
up in the same emotionally abusive trap that MIL thinks is the "right
way" to raise kids.
Signed - The Straw That
Broke The Camel's Back
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- bw/Posted: 14-MAR-11
I've tried to block this stuff out, but it's
coming back little by little. DW and I bought a house in an
older neighborhood. All of the neighbors had lived there for
years, and had raised their families at the same time. They
knew each other pretty well, and most were good friends. We
met the widow behind us almost immediately, and MIL was there.
She started ranting (to the neighbor) about how the previous owners
didn't take very good care of the house, etc., just running them down.
I could have slapped her!
After we had been there a while, we decided to do something about
the heating problem. So, my side of the family and I started
the whole ordeal. We put in new windows, insulation, and siding.
It took us all summer. During that time, I fell off a ladder
and thought I'd broken my ankle. Since MIL is an RN, DW called
her over to take a look. Well, her "friend" came with
her and kept on commenting about us playing "house" and
how cute it was. MIL was just standing there, grinning from
ear to ear like an idiot, letting her go on. I ended up telling
DW to get them out ASAP or they'd have broken some things too!
She got them out. Luckily, it was one of the only times she
took charge.
Signed - Well F You, Friend
of MIL
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- bw/Posted: 11-MAR-11
Words cannot describe the feeling that I have for my MIL and, to a
lesser extent, FIL. DW and I are in the beginning stages of
divorce, and all I can think of is, "Thank god she'll (MIL) be
out of my life." Frankly, DW and her mother are so intertwined
that I can't wait to get rid of her, also. Apparently, lunacy
runs in their family. Well, good luck to you, DW, but don't
let the door hit you on the way out!
DW and I had discussed the upcoming birth of our first child.
We both thought that it was personal, and we didn't want to have any
other family in the delivery room. DW made this clear to her
mother on several occasions. When the time finally came, everyone
was asked to leave, and they did. Knowing MIL the way I did,
I didn't trust her at all to have left. When I poked my head
around the corner, guess who I found? She acted all surprised
and asked, "What?" She followed me back to where DW
was, as if nothing had happened. DW had to be the one to kick
her out.
I wrote the submission on Sept 6, 2010 about the ring incident.
It's true. I wish it weren't. And, it happened again,
when my second DD was born. My dad and his wife were visiting
us at the hospital. They were the first ones there. When
they left, I got a call from dad about my MIL driving very fast and
erratically through the hospital parking lot (our oldest was in her
car). DW and I found out that she was angry because she hadn't
been the first to see the newborn. Naturally, I dragged her
out into the hall and let her have it. That was the beginning
of the end of that relationship.
Signed - It Happened Again
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- bw, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 6-SEP-10
I asked my wife to marry me on a Christmas Eve at a really nice restaurant.
She agreed, and we went to her parent's house shortly after.
Everyone was very happy for us. Then, suddenly, FMIL got really
quiet and looked like she was going to cry. At first, I thought
that she was just really happy, until she was asked what was wrong.
Apparently, she was really mad, because the waitress got to see the
ring before she did.
Signed - If Only I Had
Paid More Attention
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- bw, 2 of 4 needed/Posted: 4-DEC-10
There are so many things that MIL has done. It's hard to pick
one. DW doesn't help matters any, as she always sides with mom
during these "discussions".
I guess the one that has really stood out is the spoiling of the kids.
It got really bad at one point. I would come home from work
to find that the kids had some new toys almost every day. When
I suggested to DW that it's too much, she agreed to talk to her mom
about it. I never heard how that went, but the toys kept showing
up.
When I finally said something about it again, the response I got was
that it was MIL's money, and that we had no right telling her how
to spend it. The worst part was that DW agreed and sided with
her mom.
Signed - Go Live With Her,
Then
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- bw, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 31-JAN-11
Here's an email that was sent to my wife:
Hello my Daughter:
You are dismayed with me, or once again mad at me, God only
knows! I have only one thing to remind you of!! You married
the Ws, hook line and sinker, and your husband, did NOT marry the
Ns. How it hurts. We can have our differences, as we are
all different people. But - your parents are, and continue to
be, on the bottom rung.
On Friday, I just wanted to see you and the girls, and have
a great cup of coffee with you. You reminded me several times
that Mr. B would be home early, therefor giving the impression that
my visit should be short. Do you do that to his side??
I bet not, because they do not come over. And, if they do, they
are welcomed with open arms. We have no family times together,
BUT you go to their houses with the family intact. WE can't
even take you and yours out for a nice meal, because B refuses to
come.
What is to happen with yours and daughter's b'days? Like
Christmas, you will come alone to our house for cake and presents??
This all should be fun for you and your children! You are everything
to us, and you know it. So, we suffer in silence, and accept
what is dished out to us. Mostly crumbs! That's the way
we see it.
If it makes YOU so uncomfortable for us to come to your house
and do what we do ( visit and help you), we will not come! Ever!!
Simple. But, let it be YOUR call, and not somebody else's.
You are worth everything to us, and you know it. Times comes
and go, and your girls will only be little for such a short while.
Don't waste it. I love my granddaughters as much as I love you.
That will never change, but times are. Wake up!!! MOM,
MIL N.
Just picture the standard MIL stories here and you've got the picture.
She's off her rocker, and gets mad if everyone isn't kissing her rear-end.
My wife didn't do that this time, and this email was sent to send
her on a guilt trip. It's amazing (to me) that MIL can say or
do anything she wants, hurt other people, and then expect first class
treatment.
Signed - Blah Blah Blah
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- bw, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 9-MAR-11
This site has me remembering more and more of what I've repressed
over the years. Our first DD was born in November, on my birthday,
actually. Everyone had been in the waiting room, except for
my dad and his wife, because he had to go to work. After DD
was born, they came back.
Later, MIL told me that my dad and his wife had offended her because
they were wearing red clothes at the hospital. I must have had
the same look of confusion that you're having now. I didn't
get it and I had to ask my wife what that was all about. She
told me that her mother was upset because Ohio State had beaten Michigan
the day before, and she felt that they were rubbing it in. MIL
is a big Michigan fan, and, apparently, anyone wearing OSU colored
clothes had to be . . .
Signed - Out To Get Her!!!
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