Frequent
Fry HerTM Came From A Poor Family
Age: 35 MIL Age: 66
Why Do I Even Try?
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- camefromapoorfamily/Posted: 24-MAR-07
Tonight I watched the Hallmark movie, "Crossroads
- A Story Of Forgiveness". The guy forgave the teenager
who killed his wife and daughter while street racing. I got
to thinking, if he can forgive that kid, why can't I forgive MIL and
FIL for all the horrible things that they have said to me? Am
I that bad of a person? I have been putting up with their hurtful
comments since 1998. Only this past 5 months have I been skipping
on their family craptaculars, not speaking to them, etc. What
is your take on all this?
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- camefromapoorfamily/Posted: 24-MAR-07
Why is it that every time MIL and/or FIL call
the house, my blood boils? I don't even talk to them. It is
probably because the only time that they call DH is when they want
something. They expect him to drop everything and come over
and fix their computer or whatever. After lots of training,
thanks to DH, they will now say, "When you get a chance, can
you come over and fix this or that?" Because of me, he
stopped jumping at MIL's insistence. The ILs hate me and have
even told people at church that I stole their son and their income.
Oh well. It is time for their DS to have a life. MIL is
pressuring DH to go to the family craptacular Easter with her family.
She knows that I won't go. I wish that she would quit asking
though, trying to guilt DH into it. We never contact them first.
They always initiate contact with DH. Does anyone know any tips
to get her to stop with the family craptaculars? I have tried
being rude, etc., at church, and she still continues to come up to
us. DH likes the pastor and won't switch churches. That
is the only time she sees DH. We sit in the back so that I can
make a quick get away without speaking to them.
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- camefromapoorfamily/Posted: 9-MAR-07
I have decided that from now on DH is in charge of getting his mom
gifts, because she does not deserve anything. She will get nothing
from now on, as FIL never bought her flowers or gifts, or even took
her out to dinner, and DH learned from him. I am breaking him
of those nasty habits towards our marriage, but as far as MIL is concerned,
you reap what you sow. Last year I sent MIL flowers on Mother's
Day, and then for her birthday I went out and found her a teapot that
she collects (very expensive). Two weeks later it was my birthday.
She handed me a plant from the local supermarket that was very inexpensive.
She said, "I just didn't know what to get you." Yea,
right. I know that she did not have to get me anything, but
come on. I like cats and she knows it, as she is always complaining
about my old cat. Anything with a cat would have been great.
It is just amazing that I know just what she would like and she has
no idea what I would like. For DH's birthday she got him some
t-shirts with things on them that he has never shown an interest in.
She knows he likes auto racing. She has plenty of money to spend
on herself, so it isn't like she is poor. I read what someone
else posted regarding narcissism. That is her to a tee.
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- camefromapoorfamily, 1 of 4 needed/Posted:
31-JAN-07
MIL is so petty. Her DM died recently and my DH had to be a
pall bearer. We were at their home last night to help with their
computer because FIL cannot even install Norton Anti-virus without
help. I casually mentioned to MIL that we had received a sympathy
card from some people at the church whom we are close to. She
immediately piped up, "Well, I received five." It
is understandable that she would get more, as her DM was the one who
died. I cannot believe that she made a contest over that.
She is sooo petty. Later, FIL asked us if we were having a party
for the big game (sarcastically, I might add). I mentioned that
the elderly people from the church who had sent us the sympathy card
are coming over. You should have seen the CBF that MIL made.
Yes, that's right MIL, you aren't invited to our house, you and FIL
should have kept your rude opinions to yourself about me, instead
of telling others at church how you feel about me.
Signed - Since I Came From
A Poor Family and Cannot Keep House to Your Standards, You Are Not
Invited Over
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Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- camefromapoorfamily, 2 of 4 needed/Posted:
12-FEB-07
The worst thing that MIL and FIL ever did was
try to get my DH to move in with another woman so that I would get
mad and divorce him. Why did they do that, you ask? So
that he would destroy his marriage, it wouldn't work out with the
other woman, and he would have to move home again. And then they would
get his income, like they did before we were married. If that
isn't evil, I don't know what is. These are good religious people,
too. YEAH, RIGHT. Not long after we were married, they
told others that I stole their income. Unbelievable. Thankfully
my DH figured out what they were up to.
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- camefromapoorfamily, 3 of 4 needed/Posted:
13-FEB-07
I don't understand why all MILs think their
sons are there to meet their every need. They act like their
DILs don't matter or exist. What I don't get is why my MIL,
in particular, used to tell me how badly her MIL (GMIL) treated her,
and yet she treats me worse. In fact, they gossip about every
detail of DH and my life (that is, until we stopped telling them anything
- now they just make things up, I suppose). MIL used to tell
me that GMIL used to say that she was only around to spend FIL's money.
It is more believable with her than it is with me, as she has never
had a job and I am a career woman. That pisses them off more
than anything. I don't care about their money and I don't want
any kids either.
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- camefromapoorfamily, 4 of 4 needed/Posted:
20-FEB-07
I can't remember if I told this story before,
but it keeps bothering me. When DH and I got married, my MIL
told me that she was entitled to my wedding gifts because her friends
bought them. She took an extra high end toaster because we got
two, and a bread maker. I should have found her, but in the
end I got my revenge. One of MIL's friends from church asked
me how I liked the bread maker. I told her that MIL took it
because she said that she was entitled to take my wedding gifts because
her friends bought them. MIL's friend was horrified. We
got a gift card in the mail that week to replace the bread maker.
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