Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- desperately seeking sanity /Posted:15-JUN-05
ON A LIGHTER NOTE: The kids do eventually wise
up to their GP's antics. My DH and I were discussing the "House
Doctor" (a TV makeover program where a woman goes in to revamp
properties that aren't selling) the other day. I said to DH, "Isn't
it amazing that this woman gets paid thousands of pounds to go around
and criticize homes, and then she redecorates and rearranges all their
stuff. LOL" 14 year old DD piped up, "Hmm, sounds like
the perfect job for Grandma!"
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- desperately seeking sanity /Posted:1-SEP-04
THE SAGA CONTINUES!!!!! Yesterday, MIL (who only visits and
phones on evenings that I work, and hasn't seen or spoken to me in
over a year) asked DH if she could take DD and DS during the school
holidays DD is 13, and doesn't want to go, partly because MIL
insists on her having a bath there. MIL stands in the bathroom
and tries to wash her, despite the fact that DD has the figure that
I had at 18! DS is 8, but MIL denied that he was her GS at one
time, and she insists that he use a baby feeding cup to drink out
of, so he doesn't spill. DH said no, not unless she speaks to
me about it first (as I am the one looking after the children during
the day). She replied that I would say no (which is a fair comment,
I probably would, due to above reasons and 15 years worth of others!).
DH then pointed out that as we are partners, he would not go behind
my back and make arrangements. She replied that he was stupid,
because if SHE wanted to take the children out, HE should let her,
and not worry about what I think (I'm only their mother, after all)!
MIL didn't give him a chance to reply, she just stormed out to FIL
(who was already in the car, waiting to leave), and they left.
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- desperately seeking sanity /Posted:16-AUG-04
I just thought I'd add a little MIL to DIL translation
phrase book from my own experience that may help other DILs: "It's
all in your head, " means - I didn't expect anyone to remember
that. "Where do you get these ideas from?," means
- They weren't supposed to tell you that. "Oh, I can't
remember," means - I don't WANT to remember. "No,
you've got it all wrong, I didn't mean that," means - That's
EXACTLY what I meant, but I didn't expect anyone to confront me about
it. "Of course we like you, but XXXX day is the only one
that's convenient for us to call round," means - Except if you
take a day off work, then it's any of the other days that you work.
Please feel free to respond with some of your own!!!!!
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- desperately seeking sanity, 4 of 4 needed
/Posted:3-AUG-04
MIL told DH to have a DNA test on our son. He was too shocked
to respond. When I called her on it, her first response was,
"I don't know where you get these things from." A
favorite phrase of hers is, "It's all in your mind."
My response was to look at DH and say, "Where do you think?"
He's not supposed to tell me anything that she says to him!
Her reply to that was, "Well, GS doesn't look anything like the
others (meaning his sister and 2 cousins)." He looks a
LOT like his sister, who also doesn't look like her 2 cousins on DH's
side, but they are both the image of their 5 cousins on my side.
The big difference is that he has brown eyes, like me, and all the
other children on both sides have blue eyes! DH and I have never
cheated on each other in 16 years!
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- desperately seeking sanity, 3 of 4 needed
/Posted: 24-JUN-04
My DH recently lost a good friend who succumbed to depression and
took his own life. DH was, naturally, very upset about this.
MIL's words of comfort were, "You never were lucky with friends,
were you? There was that boy who was killed in a road accident
when you were at school, and your best friend emigrated to Australia!"
There's real compassion for you.
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- desperately seeking sanity, 2 of 4 needed
/Posted: 12-NOV-03
I work evenings, during which time MIL and FIL
visit. Curiously, the nights I work are the only convenient
times to visit (if I have a shift change for any reason, they can't
make it on their usual night, but they come around on the day that
I have swapped for instead!). One week, I was unwell with a
cold, and took a night off, so DH phoned them to let them know that
I was ill, in case they wanted to avoid picking up my virus.
MIL said, "Tell her not to worry about cooking. I'll bring
dinner over." How thoughtful, I thought. DH can cook, but
it's not one of his strong points. When they arrived, they had
3 dinners with them - one for DH, one for DD, and one for DS.
They hadn't asked if I was off my food (I wasn't), and made no mention
during their visit as to why I had been excluded! DH made me
something to eat when they left!
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- desperately seeking sanity, 1 of 4 needed
/Posted: 9-SEP-03 Worst gift: After a
catalogue of bad presents (a tea cozy - I don't drink tea!, household
goods for me and personal items for DH), my MIL decided that she was
going to give me money. You can't go wrong with that, can you?
Actually, yes! She was working in an old people's home at the
time. Apparently I had to have something to unwrap in front
of the family, as a check isn't a proper present. So I unwrapped
an address book with the names and addresses in it of complete strangers.
To be precise, it had the names of one of her late resident's family
members!!!
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