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Devil DIL
Age: 30 MIL Age: 61
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- DevilDIL/Posted: 12-OCT-08
After all of the abuse I have had to put up with, and
the long period of silence, I got a card. Well, a birthday card.
In it was an apology about wanting forgiveness for all of the hurtful
things she has said, a desire to restart, and a promise of not saying
these things again. Since it contained a gift, I was bound by
the code of good manners to send a thank you. I have the envelope
addressed. What do I say in the card? I don't think I
am ready to forgive. I can accept the apology, but right now
my emotions are spent elsewhere. So, how do I say thank you
for the gift without all of the vile green things I want to say coming
out?
Signed - Betwixt and Between
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- DevilDIL/Posted: 9-AUG-08
This process has made me feel a lot better. But,
I still have a lot of pent-up aggression to work through. One
day last month, my phone rang at my office. I looked at the
caller ID. It was MIL's number. She had called me at work
3 times in the past, and 2 involved bad news. It's now been
a year since she sent my DH an email telling him to catch a bus in
the middle of the night and leave me. I have not spoken with
her since. I thought that her call involved bad news about one
of the family, and she could not reach DH. DH cannot receive
calls at work unless there is an emergency. So, I picked up
the phone. She launched into a spiel about "how proud"
of me she is, and how I "work so hard" and the like.
I listened in shock and horror. Then, I grabbed my cell phone.
I called the office so she could hear the phone ringing. My
office-mate answered it and called out for me, saying that it was
someone important. Never did she apologize. And never
again will I answer her call. I guess a cutoff without a kiss-off
does not get the point through as well. But, honestly, I don't
think I could hold back from calling her every name in the book.
So, any advice on a cutoff through silence?
Signed - Cut Off Through
Silence?
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- DevilDIL/Posted: 6-JUL-08
Almost a year after the bigger divorce bribe, my mother
fell ill. She was diagnosed with cancer, stage 3. She
had not had surgery to remove the cancer yet, but she was in the planning
stages. I went to see her. My parents are fairly wealthy,
and have supported us financially when we have needed it. I
am not trying to indicate that I have grown up with a silver spoon,
but there was money for college, professional school, car repairs
and the like. Regardless, the day after I returned, I was taking
a nap. I was quite tired and especially emotionally from my
trip. The phone began ringing, and no number came up on caller
ID. I answered it. It was MIL. I had a habit, when
we had a home phone, to let her calls go to the machine. Unfortunately,
I answered this one. I told her that DH was not home.
She asked when he would be home. I told her when. As I
was hanging up, she had the gall to ask me if my mother was dying;
when the doctors expected her to die; and how much money DH would
inherit. I slammed down the phone. I did not talk to her
for over 2 1/2 years as a result of this.
Signed - It's All About
The Money
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- DevilDIL/Posted: 3-JUL-08
This is one of the myriad of stories from my wedding.
I come from a wealthy family. DH comes from a farming family.
He had gone to college, and was working in the big city about 4 hours
away from his family when we met. I was in college working on
my dual undergraduate degrees. We decided to get married a month
after my graduation. We decide on a big wedding. I told
FMIL that they could have 100 seats at the wedding. She sent
me a guest list of 120, but it was easy to cut it down, because I
did not want children at the wedding. My family drinks, and
gets quite boisterous. The wedding reception site had a rule:
No children at the site after 8. So, no kids. MIL flipped
out about that. She decided that they wouldn't pay for the rehearsal
dinner because of the no children policy, and because DF and I had
lived together for 2 years. So, now, 10 days before the wedding,
I canceled the rehearsal site, and my mom gracefully stepped up and
hosted a backyard BBQ. All because I would not invite 40 small
children to my wedding.
Signed - No Kids, So No
Money
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- DevilDIL/Posted: 3-JUL-08
DH went to SBIL's wedding without me. I had some
mixed feelings, as I was not invited. But, it also meant that
I would not have to see MIL. That, and I had a new job.
It was my first job in my chosen career. While it was a summer
job, I wanted to make a good impression. I sent DH off to the
wedding with the $500 rental tuxedo. He did not return Monday,
and instead was whisked from the wedding site to MIL's house.
While he was there, she started working on him. She told him
that I was sleeping with my boss. I'd had my job for about 4
weeks full-time, and was working about 60 hours a week. Plus,
I was working another 20 hours part-time. She told him that
as soon as I graduate, I will leave him for a dashing young professional
in my field. She then told him to leave me, and that she would
give him $100,000 to be used as a down payment on a house near hers.
She also told him that she would buy him the best divorce lawyer in
their state, and give him a brand new pickup truck if he won't even
go back to get his stuff, and just send me the divorce papers in the
mail. And, oh yeah, she would get him a job at his choice of
locations in her area. All of this during radio silence.
I tried calling, only to be told that he was out visiting family and
he would call me. When I asked when he would be back, I was
told that he would call me. He had to walk up the street to
the convenience store to call me collect, to tell me when he would
be home. I was going out of my mind. DH did not tell me
of the bribe until he got back to me.
Signed - She Tried To Bribe
Him!!!!
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- DevilDIL/Posted: 1-JUL-08
Two years after I earned my professional degree and
began working, I rapidly rose to success in my field. I am regarded
as one of the bright young talents in my field. Now, I am not
trying to toot my own horn, its all born of hard work, long hours
and lots of support from my FOO and DH. It was approaching the
holidays. MIL was getting insistent on seeing DH - it had been
quite a while. I did not want to go because I feel very uncomfortable
around his family. I am not accepted, and I choose not to associate
with them. I am not part of their faith, I work as a professional,
I do not have children and, well, the list goes on. She wanted
DH to come out for the holidays. I was sort of invited, but
chose not to go, as I really had a lot going on at the office and
had planned on being gone Christmas through New Years. So, I
agreed that DH could go. Besides, he wanted to see his GM, who
is the only member of their family I like, because she accepts me
for who I am. Having learned from previous mistakes, I made
DH call his mother to book the ticket, and use her credit card.
I also had changed cell phone providers and knew that this phone would
work out there, so he could call me. I did not let him travel
with our credit card, in case of some shenanigans (he did have emergency
funds). The day before his trip I ran an errand for a friend.
It was 5:05 pm, the height of our limited and pathetic rush hour.
I was stopped at a stop light, about 8 cars back. I was actually
in DH's car, because he had taken mine for an oil change, waxing,
and interior cleaning that day. I was daydreaming at the light,
trying to decide what to make for dinner when - WHAM!!! I was
rear-ended by a lady paying no attention. I was shaken up.
I hit my head really hard on the headrest and broke my hair clip.
To top it off, she was witchy when she approached the car. I
did not get out. I was confused and in pain. I asked her
to call 911 and send an ambulance. The ambulance arrived, and
I was taken to the hospital. It turns out that I had reversed
the curvature of my neck, bulged disks (discovered later) and had
a concussion. Needless to say, DH was not able to leave on his
trip. I could not be left alone for 24 hours. So, he called
his mother, who did not believe that I was in a car accident.
Then, she stated that I had staged it, so it was my fault. She
generally went psycho about how her holiday was ruined along with
all of the family plans that I was destroying. She stopped when
I agreed to rearrange the trip for later during the holiday.
DH had the time off, so he could go. On Monday, she called the
PD in our town, as well as the Sheriff and the State Police, to see
if the story about the wreck was true. Since the report had
not been filed yet, they had no information. They told her it
took 5-7 business days to file the wreck report when someone was taken
to the hospital and/or the car was towed. She called me at work
to call me a liar. Nothing could dissuade her that I wasn't
lying or that I did not set up the accident. I did not speak
with her for a year over this.
Signed - Rear-ended To
Ruin Your Holiday
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- DevilDIL/Posted: 29-JUN-08
So, while I was recovering from my car accident, I
agreed to send DH to her. As I stated previously, I did not
want to go, even though I was sort of invited. Of course, since
I was the one who messed up the plans, we ended up paying to change
the airline tickets. Regardless, I feel that DH needs a relationship
with his mother, even if I choose not to have one with her.
So, off he went. I got to spend some time with my best GF, who
I flew in to visit with me. In a way, it was nice to have the
house to ourselves. DH called to check in, but by day 3 or 4,
his conversations seemed strained. He told me that morning that
he had to go to her lawyer to sign some papers concerning her will
and power of attorney. It seemed to make sense. I had
to do the same thing for my parents' wills and powers. He seemed
tense, but indicated that he could not speak freely. So, best
GF and I went out shopping to hit the post-Christmas sales and otherwise
have fun. DH called much later - after 11 pm. His parents
were now in bed, and I could hear that he was agitated, upset.
DH has the patience of a saint and the constitution of a Buddha.
He does not ruffle easily. He also takes his time before he
is ready to talk. I knew that he would be ready the next day
when he got home. I confirmed best GFs flight, took her to the
airport, and waited for DH's flight (about 45 minutes). He got
out, looking disheveled, distraught and worried. We started
driving. He told me to head to the grocery store to get beer.
I thought, "Oh no, this is bad," as DH is a light social
drinker, and only drinks heavily on rare occasions, or when he is
really upset. He drank one beer, then 2. On the third
beer, out came the story. The trip to the lawyer was a ruse.
It was not to sign documents. The lawyer was a divorce lawyer.
He had a reputation as a shark. The papers were ready for signature.
Mind you, we did not live in that state. He and MIL began discussing
that he could get half the value of my professional license for 20
years, and part of my parents' money. She offered to pay this
man's retainer, buy a house in her name for him to live in, bill free,
and give him 100K after the divorce was done. All he needed
to do was sign the papers. He got up, walked out, and had his
GM pick him up. And, he has not been back since.
Signed - The Divorce Bribe
Goes Up
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- DevilDIL/Posted: 22-JUN-08
When DH and I got married, I had not started professional
school, yet. Our wedding had been planned to take place about
10 weeks before I started school. When we got engaged, I was
working on my undergraduate degree. He knew that I wanted to
go to professional school. I told him that I would not marry
him unless he was supportive. I would be attending professional
school, and I might choose a school, based on scholarships, that was
far away from where we had grown up. My family was very supportive
of my attendance and of us moving away. About 5 months before
the wedding, I accepted a scholarship to a school 700 miles away from
our families. So, on the day of our wedding, before we exchanged
vows, MIL cornered me as I was dressing. She then stated, "I
guess you won't be going to professional school now." I
replied, "Why do you ask?" She told me, "Married
women don't attend professional school and work that type of job.
They stay home and have children." Needless to say, married
women do attend professional school and work in that profession.
Signed - Stay Home And
Have Children
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- DevilDIL, 1 of 4 needed/Posted:
13-JUN-08
A couple of years ago I was working my way through
professional school. DH was working to help me through school.
At the time, we had been married for 2 years, and had dated for 3
before the marriage. His SB was set to get married in the Southwest.
We live about 700 miles away. We got the wedding invitation.
It was addressed "Mr. DH", not Mr. DH and Mrs. DIL, just
him. The response card was already marked "one".
So, being the good DIL that I am, I called to see if it was a mistake.
I mean, SBIL did not come to our wedding, which was 150 miles from
his place. Maybe he did not realize? No, the invite was
for one, because they thought I would not be able to make the wedding.
You know, it might cost too much of DH's money or something, or, I
might be working. I just said, "Eh, whatever."
I sent the response card, and, eventually, DH. The wedding itself
is a story for another post.
Signed - So, I Guess I
Don't Count
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- DevilDIL, 2 of 4 needed/Posted:
13-JUN-08
I, previously, wrote about the invitation to SBIL's
wedding, where the invite read "Mr. DH", and the response
card was for one. It turned out that DH was to be a groomsman
at the wedding. He needed a new tux. We went to the nationwide
tuxedo rental place to got it rented. It turned out to be the
same style that DH had bought for our wedding. All we needed
was the cummerbund and bowtie. I thought, "YEA, we do not
have to spend a fortune." We bought the cummerbund and
bowtie. MIL called to complain that DH had not rented the tux
- it was showing on the information from the tuxedo place. I
informed her that it was the same tux that DH already owned, and we
bought the accessories on the list. She blew her lid over that,
claiming that it cannot possibly be the same cheap tux, and I needed
to take DH to rent the right one. It was not a cheap tux ($400
after tailoring), and it was the same one. I even had the store
manager call and tell her that. She informed me that DH *WILL*
be renting the tux. I told her, "No," unless she was
paying for the rental. She agreed to pay for it. The store
near the wedding did not have DH's size, but the store near us did.
DH rented the exact same tux he already owned, and flew with it.
With the late fee and cleaning, it came to over $500, on my credit
card. I still haven't gotten the check for that one.
Signed - Renting The Same
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- DevilDIL, 3 of 4 needed/Posted:
13-JUN-08
Further on the wedding of SBIL. I booked the
airline ticket. I flew out Friday, returned Monday. I
cleared it with MIL about the rides to and from the airport.
She agreed. I paid for the tickets. Now, at this time
I had just completed my first year of education on my professional
program. I was more than a little broke. I had not worked
for the first year, and, although DH did, we just barely made our
bills, with very little to spare. I asked her to send DH with
a check to cover the tickets. She agreed. The ticket cost
about $250. So, off to the wedding he went, without me.
This was fine, as I had just started 2 jobs in the previous weeks.
MIL picked DH up from the airport, which was about 2 hours from the
wedding. That was the last call I got from him until Sunday.
He announced to me that he was at her house, 4 hours from the airport,
and she would not be taking him to the airport the next day.
Instead, she would fly him out of the regional airport on Thursday.
Not Monday. I assumed that she had bought him a new ticket.
He arrived home on Thursday, very, very late. When I got the
credit card statement for the next month, surprise, there was another
charge for airline tickets. For $440. And, guess what
he did not have? A check from MIL for any amount. It took
about 1/4 of my summer wages to pay for the trip to BIL's wedding.
And, that's not to mention the gift that was extorted out of DH -
$200 cash for a wedding gift. Yeesh.
Signed - Surprise . . .
I'm Paying For Your Selfishness
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- DevilDIL, 4 of 4 needed/Posted:
22-JUN-08
While DH was held hostage by MIL, after BIL's wedding,
I came to realize that I should have never let him go in the first
place. There was no phone communication. His cell phone
does not work out there, and the only phones in their house are in
their bedroom and the kitchen. No way to have privacy.
No way for him to tell me what was going on. So, MIL pounced
on the opportunity to try to brainwash DH, as she knew he could not
contact me. He could not call me for support. Her brainwashing
stated that good wives do not attend professional school. No,
they stay home and have children. I am not against SAHMs, and
I have the highest respect for the hard work they do. I just
don't want to be one. Before the wife has kids, she may have
a menial job. But she needs to be home to cook and clean.
Again, I have nothing against cooking and cleaning; I do my fair share,
but so does DH. But, according to DH, he should not have to
cook or clean after he gets home from work. He should have 3
meals a day prepared by the wife. And, since he had lost weight,
which he needed to do, I was not being a good wife. MIL had
a solution for the horrible, abusive situation, where the wife was
in professional school and expected her husband to chip in around
the house. Divorce, of course. She offered him $10,000
to leave me. She would buy him a new pickup truck, and help
him land a lucrative job in his field near her house. She would
introduce him to some nice girls at her church, whom he could marry
with her blessing. Because, you know, a wife with ambition to
be a professional, make a good living, and hire a housekeeper, is
an abusive wife.
Signed - Divorce Was Her
Answer
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