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Age: 32    MILAge: 55

Beware the Harpy!

frequent fry her - Dystopia4u, 1 of 4 needed
Frequent Fry Her TM - Dystopia4u, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 11-JUN-03
During a visit with my MIL (we now live 1,300 miles away, thankfully!), MIL, DD, and my two nieces were sitting at the table having a snack.  During the conversation, my niece asked about marriage and what I thought was important for marriage.  I told her love, forgiveness, and growing together were very important.  My crass MIL then piped in saying that marrying a man who had a lot of money was a good idea.  I just stared at her, and she changed the subject.  Later, when I was alone with my DD, I explained that money wasn't the most important thing.  And, that when I first met her dad, there was a rich, older man who was interested in me.  But, I told her that I didn't love the rich man, I loved her daddy, and he is the one I chose.  I told her that when she marries, it ought to be for love and because she wants to spend the rest of her life with that one special person, not because of what he can do for her financially.  Thank goodness my MIL is not in charge of shaping my DD's morals!

        Signed - Sugar Daddies Rot Your Teeth
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frequent fry her - Dystopia4u, 2 of 4 needed
Frequent Fry Her TM - Dystopia4u, 2 of 4 needed/Posted: 13-JUN-03
When DD was a baby, MIL invited me to go on a trip with her to a nearby city by plane.  I thought it sounded like fun, and I agreed.  I said that DD needed her own seat on the plane in order to anchor her carseat for safety reasons, and that I would pay for her seat.  MIL whipped out her can of Nasty'O and started spraying me with belittling criticism.  Apparently, since I wasn't an experienced flyer I didn't understand that DD didn't need a carseat on a plane.  I said any child in any moving vehicle needs to be secured in a carseat.  I was told that I was being disrespectful, and that I needed to treat MIL with the respect that she demanded.  I told her DD's safety was my responsibility, and if she's not in her own seat she ain't going!  Just one of many times MIL has tried to override my authority and responsibility as my children's mom.  And, no, we didn't go on that trip with her.

        Signed - MIL Had Her Head a Mile High in the Clouds
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Frequent Fry Her TM - Dystopia4u, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 15-JUN-03
A couple of years ago, DH and I went on a much needed vacation.  MIL stayed at our house while we were gone with our DD.  DH felt confidant that DD would be safe in her own home, which she was.  Apparently, while we were gone, MIL didn't feel that our bed was good enough.  When I came home, I found a completely new bed, along with a totally new decor in my room.  I was annoyed, but gracious about it.  But, I thought it wasn't her place to redecorate my room without consulting with me.  I mean, that's my private space!  This isn't the first time she's done something like that.  When hubby and I first got married, she went through our place, when I wasn't there, and redecorated the whole place.  And, when she visits, she rearranges things, too.  Grrrr!  She's backed off now, though.  She tried to redecorate my bathroom last year, but I beat her to the punch by doing it myself without telling her about it (DH tipped me off to her plans).  I could tell that she was embarrassed to walk into my newly and tastefully redecorated bathroom.  She hasn't tried anything like that since.  Phew!

        Signed - MIL Thinks That She's Martha Stewart
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Frequent Fry Her TM - Dystopia4u, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 17-JUN-03
Last year, when I was 8 months pregnant with my DD, I had to be on bed rest due to high blood pressure and premature contractions.  I was told that I couldn't have more children due to the chemotherapy, so the baby was a wonderful surprise!  I have had issues with MIL in the past, and I don't think it's okay for her to be alone with DD.  MIL knows this, and she decided to take advantage of my condition and hatch a scheme.  She sneaked around me through my husband.  She bellyached about how much she missed my DD, and how it would be nice for her to fly DD up for a visit.  She said that we could join her after I'd had some rest (after my other DD was born).  She told him it would give him a chance to bond with our new DD and give our older DD a chance to visit with cousins and GPs.  And then DH, new DD and I could all fly up with the baby.  What really shocked me was that DH fell for it.  During dinner, he told our 9 year old DD that her GM was flying her up for a visit right after her DS was born, and that mom and dad would come up with the baby after a little while.  She was, of course, all excited, and couldn't wait to go.  I had never badmouthed MIL to DD, so she didn't realize that there were tensions between MIL and me.  After DD went to bed, I had it out with DH.  I was furious that he hadn't even consulted with me.  DH told me that he didn't want to upset me in my condition.  Pffft!  DH had already agreed to let DD go, and the ticket was already paid for.  So, DD went to see MIL two weeks after I had the baby, and three weeks after that we went up to MIL's.  MIL acted like a creep when we were there, and finally showed her true colors to my DH by screaming at my husband on a 20 minute tirade on his cell-phone (we left her house because of her abuse).  I could hear every awful and mean-spirited word that she said about me.  Two days later, after I cooled off, I sat down with her and I told MIL exactly where her place was and that I was shutting her down.  Her days of bullying me and my family were over.  We went home, and I've been keeping MIL on a short leash ever since.  And, DD will never, nor does she want to, go to MIL's house alone again.  I just wish I'd shut the old dragon down years sooner.  Thanks for letting me get all this out of my system!

        Signed - MIL=Woman Hitler
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