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Mother-In-Law Stories
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Frequent
Fry HerTM
Fed Up
Age: 25 MIL Age: 58
MIL Strikes Again!
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- Fed Up /Posted: 27-SEP-02
Recently, something happened at my MIL's that summed
up my DH's relationship with her in a nutshell. We were visiting
for the day, and my DH was sitting at the counter on a barstool.
I was beside the refrigerator. DH was maybe an arm's length
away from the fridge, and he asked me to get him something to drink.
Now DH and I joke with each other a lot, and one of our running jokes
is to ask the other one "AWWW, which leg did you break?",
or, "AWWW, does it hurt much?" We do this when we
are "fetching" something for the other one. It is
only a joke (and a stupid one, yes), but hey, it is our thing.
My MIL heard me ask DH "Does it hurt much?" And I
swear on all that is holy, she ran (and I mean RAN) to DH's side and
said, "Oh baby, are you okay?", while patting his head!!!!!!!!!
I about died!!!!!!! I was thinking, "My god woman, get
help. He is 34 years old!!!" But, then I looked at
DH, and he was eating it up!!!!!!!! I was amazed and started
immediately searching for his umbilical cord!!! LOL!!!!
I love him, but GEEEEEEZZZZZZZZZ!!
Signed - Poor Little Baby!!Please!!!!
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- Fed Up /Posted: 05-SEP-02
My SIL is driving me batty!! She is constantly telling
me how to take care of DH, as if he were a child!! My DH is
tall and skinny, and he always has been. But she calls me approximately
once a week to tell me how much weight he has lost, and how she thinks
he has cancer!!!!!!!! Recently, he hurt his back at work and
had to go the chiropractor. She made her weekly "DH is
dying" call, and I told her about him going to see the chiropractor.
She flipped out and said, "He needs to see a regular MD, not
a back quack." I simply stated that DH had pain in his
back, and a chiropractor seemed the best route. And, that DH
was pleased with the care he had received so far. She informed
me that she felt that chiropractors are useless, and that a regular
MD would do the same and more. I posed to her that if this were
true, then why do they have the field of chiropractic care at all??!!
She went nuts!!!!! Basically, she said, "I am a nurse,
and I know more than you. I am looking out for my brother's
welfare. You are uncaring and b!tchy, and don't care if he works
himself to death, as long as you get what you want." She
bases this on the fact that that I am a SAHM. And, yes, DH definitely
does work more now, because I no longer work full time (I clean an
elderly woman's house once a week, as well as cooking her meals for
three days - and she pays me). This is something that DH and
I BOTH agreed on, but she refuses to see it that way. It is
all me, and I am a whip wielding, iron fisted witch. And, poor
DH is stuck! I try to be friendly to her because, believe it
or not, I feel badly for her. Her home life is in shambles.
I believe her oldest child is a dope addict and a drunk. He
ran away for 2 days recently. Her middle child has anger issues,
and basically can't stand her, but oddly enough adores me. And,
her youngest child is a holy terror, who has never been made to mind
anyone, so he runs wild. Her ex-husband tried to resolve all
these problems and bring some order into their home, and she divorced
him for it - hand to god. And, I know that finding fault in
my life somehow makes her feel better, because she can not shine that
light into her own home without getting scared, but I am very sick
of it and I have run out of pity!!! What should I do????????
HELP!!!
Signed - SIL - My Albatross!!!!!!
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Frequent
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- Fed Up /Posted: 02-SEP-02
Well, yesterday was DD's birthday. And, in true
fashion, my MIL, who said she wasn't coming, showed up. It really
is just like her. She loves to be the center of attention, and
by saying that she is not coming, and then doing so, means that everyone
is just so happy that she is there, and all of the attention gets
focused on her. Oh well, my biggest problem was BIL and SIL.
My DH is a computer aficionado, and can fix/do anything when it comes
to computers. He is always fixing both of our family's computers,
but I found it rude and really thoughtless when my BIL and SIL would
bring down their modem and a game because they can't get them to work.
I mean, come on people. It was my DD's birthday party - not
exactly the right time and place!! I would not have been so
upset, except that they basically shoved it into DH's hands (at the
beginning of the party) and said, "We need this fixed."
This was at the time that DH was starting the grill and getting ready
to put burgers and hot dogs on, and I was filling the pool up and
trying to get all the other food out. People were showing up,
so we needed to get the food on. But, they expected him to drop
everything and fix their computer (on, of all days, his DD's first
birthday!!!!). I should also point out that this BIL and SIL
are extremely rude to us (especially me), yet we are supposed to help
them at the drop of a pin!! DH says I am being petty.
Am I??? Help!!!!!!
Signed - Rude or Right??
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- Fed Up /Posted: 29-JUL-02
I swear, I am ready to throttle my MIL!!! My
DD's 1st birthday is in a month, and I have been planning it for three
months. I am known amongst my group of friends as an excellent
party planner, and I have even been "commissioned" by many,
many people to plan parties/functions in the past. I try to
follow etiquette rules for getting out invitations so that people
are able to save the date and attend with plenty of notice.
I sent out the invites exactly one month before the RSVP date, which
is the proper thing to do for birthday parties. My BIL and his
wife are planning a function at the end of July, and my MIL feels
that I am being rude to send out my DD's party invites before their
function was over. Never mind the fact that her birthday is
10 days after their party, or that it is her first birthday I am trying
to "attention seek" (her words) by doing this. And
then, after reading me the riot act for this, she informed me that
she can't attend DD's birthday because she has to work. Normally,
I am understanding of a person's work schedule, but she manages to
get off work/trade with people for everything else, but not for this.
This is no joke. She actually traded a day once so that she
could attend the Harry Potter movie on opening day!!!!!!!!!
But, doing it for my DD's birthday is too much!!! Part of me
is happy that she won't be there braying about all day with her loud
and obnoxious voice/laughter, but the other part of me is upset because
she shows no love towards my DD. Oh, and a birthday present
shouldn't be expected. DD has too many toys, and we are getting
her too much - she will end up spoiled. That is what this beast
said to me!!! My DH is of no help. His mommy can do no
wrong in his eyes. I swear, I really am ready to strangle her!!!!
Signed - Going to Scream
Soon!!!
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- Fed Up /Posted: 16-JUL-02
My MIL's newest thing to gripe at me about is how I
raise my DD. She has told both me and my husband that she feels
that I am too strict with DD. When we asked her to explain this,
she gave three examples: 1) I wont let DD play with newspapers,
magazines etc. 2) I won't let DD play with paper towels,
tissues, or toilet paper. 3) I don't allow DD to play
in the kitchen cabinets. Now, I have a logical explanation for
each of these things. The first two are pretty reasonable.
DD tries to eats all forms of paper products. When I catch her
with these things, I take them away and tell her, "No, this is
mommy's, and this is yours." And, then I hand her an appropriate
toy or book. As far as the cabinets are concerned, I do let
her play in the ones where we keep the unbreakable storage containers,
but I won't let her in the others because she could hurt herself.
They contain glass and/or cleaning supplies. Now, we told MIL
all of this, yet she insists on continuing to tell me that I am mean.
And, then when my back is turned, she will give DD papers and tissue.
Also, she removed all the childproof locks that we put on the cabinets
at her house, after she told us we could put them in!!!! ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Signed - MIL Gripes About
How I Raise DD
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Frequent
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- Fed Up /Posted: 14-JUL-02
Another of my MIL favorite things to say to me and
my DH is that I am an agoraphobic hermit, and that I am damaging my
daughter. She feels that I don't get out enough, even though
I run all the errands for the house, do all the shopping, take my
daughter to all of her appointments, and visit with friends at least
once a week. Her reasoning for saying this is unknown to me,
but she never misses the opportunity to tell me. And, when I
inform her of all that I do, she says that it is not enough.
She feels that I am damaging my daughter because I am turning her
into a "mama's girl". She feels this way because I
never allow anyone else to have her, which isn't true. But I
am a SAHM, and I feel it's normal for my DD to be attached to me.
She likes other people, but yes, she is definitely attached to me.
No one in DH's family has ever offered to watch her, so I have never
asked. I would allow it, but they show no in interest in it.
My mother watches DD overnight once a month, and baby-sits once a
week so that DH and I can have some time alone. I don't know
where she gets this cr@p from!!!! She annoys me so much!!!
Signed - She Annoys Me
So Much
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- Fed Up /Posted: 12-JUL-02
My BIL and his present wife got engaged exactly one
week after DH and I did. Now, DH and I had been living together
for years, and it was just accepted that we were going to marry eventually.
But, I had no engagement ring, as DH and I had bought a house, cars,
etc., together. Well, when we got engaged formally, I was excited,
and called my mother and MIL. MIL said, "Oh, that is nice,"
and that was about it. One week later BIL got engaged, and she
called me in tears to say that she is so happy. She told me
all about how he asked her, and how big her ring is. I saw MIL
the next week, and she looked at my ring (which is a very nice and
beautiful 1/2 carat round diamond solitaire) and said, "Oh, SIL's
ring is so much bigger. But that is cute too." Then,
she told me how much nicer and bigger SIL's ring is. One of
her comments was, "SIL's band is much wider. You should
get a wider band, you are a big girl. " And, "SIL's
ring is your ring plus two, now that is love." And, my
personal favorite, "Are you sure this is real? I don't
think so. Let's try to cut glass with it." I am not
sure who was hurt more - me or DH. What a witch!!!!
Signed - What A Witch!!!!
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- Fed Up, 1 of 4 needed /Posted: 21-JUN-02
My problems with my MIL were small in the beginning,
but over the past six years with DH, I have slowly but surely grown
to loathe her. Most of the stunts that she pulls are passive-aggressive.
But, then every once in a while she just flat out floors me.
Here are a few highlights: After the first major fight that
DH and I ever had (we had been married about 6 months), he, of course,
ran straight to mommy. She grilled him about it (his words not
mine), and then she questioned him about our life together.
One of her questions was, "Does she please you sexually?"
My DH told her, "Yes (serious boundary issues on both parts there),"
and wanted to know why she asked. I am overweight, and she thinks
that our sex life is dull because of this!!! When my DH relayed
this story to me, I was absolutely appalled at the behavior of both
of them. I let my DH know that this was unacceptable, and he
is to never ever discuss our sex life with, of all people, his mother!!!
Another of her favorites is gift giving. As I stated before,
I am overweight. She has repeatedly gotten me clothes that are
too small for me (by exactly two sizes). The first time she
did this, I said that I thought the outfit was beautiful, but too
small. And I told her what size I wear. She still has
continued to buy me things exactly two sizes too small. When
I was pregnant and starting to show big time, DH and I planned a shopping
trip to buy maternity clothes. He happened to mention this to
his mother. She said that as a gift to me, she would buy my
maternity clothes for me (and that they would be down the next day
at noon). I thought that she was going shopping with us so I
could pick out the clothes. But no, she came down with the clothes
- not one outfit (out of 5 shirts, 1 nightgown, and a pair of pants)
was maternity. They were all "regular" clothes, and
I thought, "No big deal - as long as they are bigger, I can get
a little use out of them." I was REALLY big, and I NEEDED
maternity things - and it is the thought that counts and all.
Well, when I looked at the clothes closer, they were all the size
I am normally, without being pregnant. The size that I had been
telling her to buy me for years, she finally got me when I was pregnant
(and too damn big to wear them!!!). But I thanked her because
I knew I could wear them after I had the baby. Well, that did
not end it. Every time she saw me after that, she wanted to
know why I didn't wear those "lovely maternity clothes"
that she bought me. I will admit that the outfits were nice,
but they did not fit. And any idiot could see that they were
not going to stretch over my big belly without tearing!!!!!!!
This woman infuriates me!!!! I will write more later.
This is my first FFH page!!! Hopefully it will work.
Signed - Fed Up!!!
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- Fed Up, 2 of 4 needed/Posted: 5-JUL-02
Another big thing with my MIL is that she plays favorites
amongst her grandchildren, and my DD falls at the bottom of that list.
She will drive past my house to go to my SIL's house (6 miles away),
and never stop to see any of us. And, when she actually does
stop, it's is only long enough to use our house as a luxurious road
side bathroom!!! Now, I could not care any less that she doesn't
see me or DH unless we go to her house, but I am angry at her because
I feel that she treats my daughter coldly. She has only held
her for five or so minutes at a time, and she never buys her anything.
Yet she gets her other grandchildren presents, and takes them out
for dinner and stuff. Now, I understand that my DD is an infant
and it probably isn't as easy to accommodate an infant into your plans,
but what about the presents??? My DD had her first Christmas
this past year, and MIL got her a couple things. But the other
kids clearly got a lot more stuff, and more $ was spent on them.
And, then she said that after this year, she will no longer be buying
presents at Christmas for anyone - it is too expensive. I feel
like my DD is being cheated. The other kids get years worth
of presents, yet my DD got only one Christmas with grandma (three
presents), and then never again??? I know that it isn't about
the presents or $, but I just feel like she is cheating my child.
She has five children, and all of the others have had all their children.
MIL has been a super grandma to them, yet DH and I finally start having
kids, and she decides to quit!! My mother spends the same on
all of her grandchildren, and treats them all the same. She
has always done that with my brothers, and with me as well, and I
can see such a difference in the two. Also, for a couple months
after DD was born, MIL said to me, "I guess A and B aren't the
only granddaughters anymore (out of 9 grandchildren)."
I found that weird!!!
Signed - MIL Plays Favorites
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- Fed Up, 3 of 4 Needed /Posted: 7-JUL-02
Another thing my MIL does that absolutely infuriates
me has to do with food. Yes, food. Every holiday or get
together with DH's family is celebrated with a big sit down dinner
or barbecue for everyone. In total, there are usually about
20 people there. My MIL does not cook often, for two reasons.
She does not like to, and she admits that she is not very good at
it. So, she usually provides and cooks the meat only, and then
everyone else brings something. Since the first year that DH
and I were together, I have always brought desserts (and, for 20 people,
you have to bring a LOT of desserts). I try to always make sure
that everyone is satisfied, so I bring a variety. And, I usually
spend one whole day doing this. Well, after the third year,
my MIL called me wanting to know exactly what I was bringing.
And, I told her - no big deal, right?? Wrong! She went
out and bought exactly what I told her I would be making!!!!
I was ticked, big time!!! DH didn't see the big deal, of course.
But I thought it was mean. Why would she do that? And,
to boot, no one ate the store bought desserts. And, then, for
a week and half she b!tched because she had all those pies and cakes
that were going bad. I figured that it served her right!!!
Signed - Served Her Right!!!
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- Fed Up, 4 of 4 Needed /Posted: 9-JUL-02
MIL tried to do something nice yesterday. Maybe
I am taking it the wrong way, but I must vent!! She took DD
and me out to breakfast. Now, DD is almost 11 months old, and
she can feed herself most things (but she needs help still with the
spooning of food). I ordered my food, and got DD a kid plate.
I gave her toast to eat while I ate a bit, then I fed her some eggs.
I kept doing this, and yes, the meal definitely took a while to finish.
But, she kept telling me, "Eat your food." Hello????
DD's needs come first, not mine. I guess I just feel it's another
way of her showing DD's lack of importance to her. It's almost
as if she doesn't even see DD!! It really ticks me off!!!
Signed - It's Almost As
If She Doesn't Even See DD!!
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