Frequent
Fry HerTM How Did He Turn Out So Nice
Age: 26 MIL Age: 50
How did my husband turn out so nice?
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- HowDidHeTurnOutSoNice/Posted: 6-SEP-07
There was an incredible mishap at our wedding with
our photographs. A dear friend of ours (DH's former roommate)
chose to do our photography as a gift to us. We do not know
what went wrong, but we have absolutely no photos of our ceremony
(there are photos of the reception and the family). That is
heartbreaking, but I do not hold it against our friend, who must feel
terrible about it. PIL knew about the situation. We couldn't
hide the fact that we had no photos. PIL, over the years, have
claimed to know the TRUE story about what happened. Mainly the
stories are about how incompetent our friend was with the camera.
The stories they come up with, that they swear by, are false.
They just don't add up. I don't know what really happened, but
I am happier not dwelling on it, as it is sad for me. Even worse
than PIL's insensitive "explanations" is their accusations
that we were holding out on them and not giving them copies of EVERY
photo we did get. I don't know what gives them a right to ALL
the photos, but we gave them copies of all of them anyway. After
a tantrum about how we are keeping photos from her, we made another
entire set for MIL. We showed her our album, to have her point
out any that she was missing. Eventually, the accusations about
not giving them photos stopped. About 4 years later, BIL got
married and moved out. Shortly afterwards, MIL casually mentioned
that she had come across our wedding photos and realized that she
had TWO copies of them, so she gave a set to BIL. I am woman
enough to not say, "I told you so," but inside I was fuming.
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- HowDidHeTurnOutSoNice/Posted: 4-SEP-07
While MIL was visiting, she asked DH why he did not
return his father's phone call. DH explained that he did not
get a voicemail message, and asked when it was left. MIL continued
arguing that DH was not grateful, and it was very disrespectful to
not return phone calls. DH offered to prove that he did not
receive the message, and showed her the phone history (we have caller
ID). She did not believe him, and worked herself up into a tantrum,
screaming and hollering about how her sons disrespect her. Then
she stormed out of the house, slamming the door. DH hadn't even
raised his voice. He had simply tried to explain that if he
had received the voicemail, he would have returned it. Later,
over the phone, we had to explain again to FIL that the voicemail
was not received, and that we had done nothing to provoke MIL's rampage.
DH had to apologize for being defensive enough to show the phone history.
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- HowDidHeTurnOutSoNice, 1 of 4 needed/Posted:
30-AUG-07
A year and a half after my now DH and I started seeing
each other, I found myself without a home to go to after my college
semester ended for the summer. My parents were in the process
of moving at the time. Since I had no ties anywhere, it made
sense to me to live for the summer in the town where DH lived with
his family. I found a nice couple who allowed me to room and
board with them. DH's mother threw a fit. She claimed
that it was wrong of me to move to that town so soon after her mother's
death (which was about 6 months earlier). I still do not understand
what was wrong with moving to that town. What did that have
to do with her mother's death? Was she in denial that her son
had a GF? It wasn't like I moved into her house. That
summer, DH came over for supper at the house where I was staying.
As a courtesy, he phoned his parents to say that he would not be home
for supper (he was almost 22 years old). They were furious.
They told him that they would not accept being treated like a hotel,
and they kicked him out of the house that night, right after supper!
A couple of days later, my FIL asked DH why he never visited them.
They had kicked him out of the house, not their LIVES after all.
So, that Saturday he and I drove to their house. They asked
him why he didn't CALL first. Then, they told him not to bring
his chaperone next time. And, they wonder why I can be bitter
sometimes. Later that summer, we got engaged. And, you
thought things were bad before?!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- HowDidHeTurnOutSoNice, 2 of 4 needed/Posted:
30-AUG-07
MIL has some issues with paranoia. She believes
that, not only is HER phone bugged, but ours is as well. Why
does she think hers is bugged? Because sometimes when she answers
it, no one is there. Also, when her DH called from a particular
phone at a former place of work, the phone number didn't come up on
her caller ID, or it came up as another number. It only happened
while he was at work. Why does she think ours is bugged?
Because sometimes when she calls us, there is a quiet beep.
Sometimes there are three consecutive beeps. Funny, this always
happens when someone is calling me on the other line. Could
the beeps have anything to do with that? MIL believes that someone
broke into her house and tampered with the alarm system. Hmmm,
why would someone do that? Are they coming back to rob them
at a more convenient time? MIL believes that people are following
her. One evening, she sat in her car with my DH in an empty
parking lot. Periodically, different cars would come into the
parking lot and turn around and drive away. Surely they were
all a part of a greater conspiracy to eavesdrop on her conversation
with her eldest son. It isn't possible that they were just turning
around, looking for a friend, or checking the store hours on the building.
MIL believes her house is bugged, to the point that she requested
DH (who installs security cameras on the side) to come to her house
and SWEEP for bugs! This would make a great movie, but it isn't
fun to actually live. Perhaps I am the mastermind behind the
conspiracy to drive her nuts?
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- HowDidHeTurnOutSoNice, 3 of 4 needed/Posted:
30-AUG-07
When we were preparing for our wedding 5 years ago,
my ILs were not pleased with the timing of the wedding (and, perhaps
the choice of bride-to-be?). MIL actually suggested that she
had a hunch that we were already married, and just hadn't told her
yet. Huh? If we had eloped, why would I then go through
the stress of planning a wedding with the ILs? If only that
were the end of it. MIL had pages of questions to ask us in
her attempt to stop the wedding. The questions included things
such as whether or not we had life insurance. Grasping at straws
here? MIL later visited my parents with a list of similar questions.
My mother later phoned me and claimed that, after the wedding, she
would never speak with my ILs again. She didn't keep that promise,
but probably wishes she had.
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- HowDidHeTurnOutSoNice, 4 of 4 needed/Posted:
4-SEP-07
MIL came over to our house one day. While she
commented about having trouble buying a new microwave (she wants one
that is abnormally large), DH calmly asked her, "Why do you need
such a big one anyway? Ours is plenty big enough for all of
our dishes." She flipped out and said, "You never
complained about my cooking while you were growing up!"
Huh? Who said anything about her cooking? Sensitive much?
The arguments didn't end there that night.
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