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Itch With A Capital B
Age: 24    MIL Age: 58

frequent fry her - Itch With A Capital B, 1 of 4 needed  Frequent Fry Her TM - Itch With A Capital B, 1 of 4 needed /Posted: 5-AUG-02
DH and I have a 2 1/2 month old baby boy.  Ever since he was born, it seems that MIL has to compete with me in any way possible.  My baby is colicky, but her other son was worse.  DS used to cry almost all day, and he wouldn't sleep until nighttime.  When BIL was a baby, he didn't cry, but he never slept.  Oh really, if that was the case, he wouldn't have survived - babies need their rest.  When I was struggling to get the hang of breast feeding at first, instead of encouraging me, she said snidely, "If you don't breastfeed, its ok."  I felt like saying, "You would like that, wouldn't you?  Then you would have something else to hold over me forever."  The thing I don't understand is why she feels the need to compete with me.  I mean, wouldn't you (if you were a itch with a B) say that your babies were angels, if the evil DIL was having trouble?  I don't think I will ever figure her out.

        Signed - Itch With A Capital B

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frequent fry her - Itch With A Capital B, 2 of 4 needed  Frequent Fry Her TM - Itch With A Capital B, 2 of 4 needed /Posted: 6-AUG-02
Well, she's done it again.  The MIL informed me the other day that she and her friends are going to throw a "meet the baby shower" this month.  Nobody asked me, of course.  The most I got from the *itch was, "We decided to throw a shower late this month, on such and such day.  I hope that's ok."  No, it isn't OK  I realize that everyone wants to meet the baby and all, but they made plans without even asking me.  And, I know that her wouldn't set a date without me, so I'm sure MIL said it would be OK  What I don't understand is how it is possible for her friends to be nice and considerate, and for her to be the opposite.  In addition to this, she keeps pressuring me to take MY baby to her friends' houses so they can play with him.  She said, "Sometime this week I want to take the baby down to so and so's house so they can see the baby."  Once again, do I have a say in the matter?  My mom's friends want to see the baby also, but they have been doing it one by one.  Plus, I know them.  I don't know her friends.  DH barely knows them.  This is getting ridiculous.  HELP!!!!!

        Signed - She's Done It Again

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frequent fry her - Itch With A Capital B, 3 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - Itch With A Capital B, 3 of 4 needed /Posted: 6-AUG-02
My parents were kind of hippies, "If it's yellow, let it mellow." was a frequent phrase in our house.  We were in a baby-sitting co-op that traded for points, not $.  And we used cloth diapers.  So, when DS was born, I too wanted to use cloth.  It is what I know.  Well, DS outgrew the diaper covers, so I had to get the next size up.  But, the store nearby didn't have them, so I had to go to a store that was a little further away.  Well, before I could get there, the MIL asked, "Why did you stop using cloth diapers?"  Well, anticipating the response, she had her face curled up into a smug smile.  She thought I was going to say that I stopped using them completely.  Once again, I could tell that she wanted to gloat at being the "better" parent.  HAH!!!  That is such a laugh.  When DH was a child, MIL couldn't even discipline him.  She would send him to his room saying, "Wait until your father gets home," even if that was at 10:00am.  I don't even want her around my baby.  What to do!  What to do.

        Signed - What to do! What to do!

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frequent fry her - Itch With A Capital B, 4 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - Itch With A Capital B, 4 of 4 needed /Posted: 6-AUG-02
In the past two months, 2 of our friends have gotten married.  The first gal got married in a garden much like the one DH and I were married in.  The reception, though nice, was average as far as weddings go.  The next day, the MIL said, "The ceremony site was so beautiful.  It was just perfect.  What a beautiful wedding and reception they had."  First, she has never said anything nice about our wedding.  And second, she said that our ceremony site wasn't good because of her asthma.  Now, her asthma is pretty bad (not as bad as she makes it out to be), but it didn't bother her at the wedding.  That was probably because, much to her dismay, she was enjoying herself and didn't have time to think about "dying".  The second wedding was that of a guy friend of ours.  He got married in a church, so there really wasn't any comparison.  And, the reception was at the restaurant that he asked his wife to marry him at.  It was at the top of a tall office building, very "upscale".  It was quite nice, but the service $ucked, along with a couple other trivial things.  It was nice, but to her it was "gorgeous".  Again, there was no mention of our wedding.  Now I don't mean to toot my own horn, but several people have said that ours was the nicest wedding that they have ever been to.  And, we have heard that the people who went to our wedding and to the other two (it's a small town, so we have lots of the same friends) weddings have mentioned ours again AT the other weddings.  Would it kill her to say our wedding was nice?

        Signed - Would It Kill Her?

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