Frequent
Fry HerTM Jinxy Lady
Age: 20 Something MIL Age: 50
Something
The Devil Is In The House!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- jinxy lady /Posted: 14-FEB
-08
I thought that finally standing up for myself and breaking
all contact with the ILs would make things better! BUT, as always,
things don't work out as planned! I still don't have contact
with them, but DH does. Yesterday, the she-devil phoned to tell
DH that his youngest sister is getting engaged (the one who is a b!tch
to me and her brother)! Okay, that is fine. But, the part
that got me hopping mad was when my DH said, "Well, that is great.
But, isn't my sister a bit young?" MIL went into a screaming
rage at him for ruining his sister's day! SIL has not spoken
to us since our wedding last year. Oh, and she doesn't even
know that MIL called us to give us the news! The guy she is
getting engaged to is a spineless idiot. SIL is only 21, and
she does not have a steady job. I agree that maybe they are
very young and he is just a typical big brother watching out for his
baby sister! DH doesn't think anything about it, but I'm hurt
and upset because, when we got engaged, she didn't even bother to
join us for the engagement dinner. The ILs did absolutely nothing
for our engagement or wedding! They picked fights with us in
the week leading up to our wedding, and on the wedding day they made
nasty comments and tried to upset us both! Now we have to play
nice because it's mother's little angel? I think not!
I will not be the good DIL and keep my mouth shut! I'm going
to this wedding and getting my revenge! DH even agrees with
me! I know it is stupid to get so upset about their wedding
plans and try to ruin their wedding! Well, back to the real
world. We'll attend the wedding, smile for the photos, and make
polite conversation. Then, we'll leave without so much as one
nasty comment! I will not stoop to their level! I just
wish they would stop hurting my DH!!!!!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- jinxy lady /Posted: 22-DEC-07
I am done with my ILs! I am taking back my life
and my DH, and they can't do one little thing about it. After
all the things they have done to us, after all the things MIL had
to say about us, I still had hope for a relationship with them - that
was, until this weekend! On Fridays I only work until 14:00,
but this particular day I left at 12:00! I decided to visit
my DH at his place of work. I only spent a few minutes with
him before MIL pitched up! She stopped dead in her tracks when
she saw me! It was priceless! She didn't expect me to
be there! She put her hand on her hip and asked me, in a really
nasty voice, "Don't you work anymore?" Even my DH
looked at her in surprise! I just smiled and said, "Yes,
I do!" She got hopping mad because I didn't tell her why
I was not at work! It felt so good to upset her for a change.
That incident was still not her worst! The next day, she phoned
my DH. She had hurt her back, and asked if he would please inject
her for the pain! He said, "Fine," but he told her
that he was at home with his partner from work, so if she was able
to drive over to our house, it would be fine! Five minutes later
she arrived, but didn't get out of the car! DH had to get in
the car with her to inject her, and after that she just drove off!
That was the last straw! I jumped down DH's throat for getting
in that car and for not telling her that she is rude! Then,
I told him that this is the last time ever that she will disrespect
me, him, or our guests! I am done with his family (except his
eldest sister)! He agreed with everything I said, and asked
if it was okay for him to still have a relationship with his mother
and father! I said, "Yes," but only if it doesn't
get in the way of OUR relationship, and if he won't give in to his
mother's every whim! So, the matter is done! Subject closed!
I will not be made unhappy by a woman whose only claim to fame is
giving birth to a wonderful son! DH is keeping to my rules about
the ILs very well! She has phoned about 5 times this week, and
every time he told her to go away, he has his own family now, and
his own house, to take care of! She is not happy! This
is the first time, in a very long time, that my DH and I have not
been fighting about them, and it is great!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- jinxy lady /Posted: 22-NOV-07
So, darling monster in-law is at it again! I
do believe that this woman is crazy! We have not seen them (them
being all the ILs) for about 2 months - lovely, wonderful, 2 months!
There are still a lot of hurt feelings on my DH's side, and a lot
of ideas about murder on my side! After screaming at my poor
GM in public, she disappeared from the radar! Then, she suddenly
popped up at my dad's business for training (my dad owns a gun shop,
and, yes, she does have a gun - very scary)! The whole time she was
in the shop, she complained about how her older children are horrible
to her, that they don't care, and that she wished she never had them,
blah, blah,blah! Dear old dad finally got fed up and told her
that he knows that her older children are wonderful people, and that
she must just remember that God only lends us His children to us to
raise them for Him, so shut-up and get over yourself! I've never
been so proud of my dad! After that incident, she disappeared
again! Then, out of the blue, the day before my DH's birthday,
FIL phoned - no, "Hello", no, "How are you?"
Just, "Can you house-sit? We are leaving the country day
after tomorrow!" Great! My idiot DH was so shocked.
He said, "Yes!" I hit the roof, and he felt like a
idiot! But, what is done is done! The day of his birthday,
MIL phoned, "Happy birthday. Oh, and can you take me to
town today? I don't have the car!" I hit the roof
again, and DH actually said, "No!" I really don't
get these people. They think it is okay to ignore us, tell the
whole world how bad we are, scream at my family, and still ask us
for favors! And, did I mention that they are not spending Christmas
with any of their children (not even their little angle)? They
wormed their way into one of my DH's cousin's celebrations!
Lucky for me, the cousin and his wife adore us, and, unlucky for her,
I keep them very well informed about her and her attitude! So,
I'll be having a WONDERFUL holiday season without her, and she will
be stuck with family who'll side with us and against her! Every
dog gets his day, and it seems like the b!tch is getting a whole weekend!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- jinxy lady /Posted: 25-OCT-07
I've just started to get used to the idea of not having
to deal with the witch in-law's cr@p, when she just pops out of her
box to upset everyone! We have not seen her for almost a month
- not that my poor DH didn't try! He saw her about 3 or 4 times
and called her regularly after she got out of the hospital (broke
her arm falling of her broom!). She kept complaining about us,
the wedding, her arm, her family, etc.! DH stopped going over,
but kept calling! Then she started ignoring his calls and never
answered any of his messages! Just a bit of history for those
who don't know yet, we've been married for a little over two months!
PIL tried to ruin the wedding and didn't speak to us for two weeks
after the wedding! Then, MIL fell, but they didn't let us know
until she left the hospital! I've only seen her once since the
wedding! DH decided that he was done trying and that he was
cutting them out of our lives completely! Now this is where
the old witch gets back into the story! She ran into my GM (literally),
and started to tell her just how bad we are! Now, GM is probably
the only person I've ever met who has never said one bad word about
another person. She is no fighter, just a real softhearted old
girl! MIL told GM about all the terrible stuff we do to her.
We do not call or visit. When we still bothered to visit, we
didn't even ask if she was in pain! Oh, and my personal favorite
- she is so disappointed in us because we used to be such nice children
before we got married! Poor GM was speechless (GM is 80 years
old, and she told me that she has never been so shock!). GM
stood up for us, but she got a tongue lashing! What kind of
person screams at an elderly person in public! GM was so embarrassed!
When poor GM got home, she was shaking from anger and told me that
she understood why we've cut MIL from our lives! This was a
shock to me, since GM is the "try to make peace no matter what"
kind of person! I was so mad when she told me about all the
things that MIL had said. I phoned to give her a piece of my
mind! Surprise, surprise. She didn't answer her phone!
I don't know what to do! She is probably telling the whole world
the same story! I didn't want to tell DH about what happened
(his mother has hurt him quite enough!), but he dragged the story
out of GM! The only thing he said is that he is sorry about
his mother's behavior towards GM. Then he said something that
gives me a slight bit of satisfaction: He said that he will
not contact his mother or father again until they apologize for everything
and anything that they've ever done or said to my family! I
know that he is really hurting, and I will do everything in my power
to keep him from this monster! I just wish that she could see
what a wonderful man he is, and just how much he has to offer!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- jinxy lady /Posted: 09-OCT-07
This year, for Mother's Day, we had a family lunch
at my GM's retirement home. I asked my DH to invite MIL, since
she'll be alone. FIL works out of state, one DD doesn't care,
and the other one is too far away. My family is very close,
and we love gatherings like these. MIL has never been interested
in meeting my family, so this was to be the first time they met!
The day started fine, and MIL was quite friendly for a change.
She looked impressed by the gift that we gave her, so here I was thinking
that everything was going to be great! My family made a huge
effort to include her in every conversation and tried to make her
feel welcome and comfortable! Even before lunch was served the
trouble started! At one stage, while my GM was talking to her,
she just got up and walked out the door. GM was quite upset,
thinking that she had said something wrong! I ran outside to
see if everything was okay, just to find her smoking on a bench in
the garden. I asked if everything was okay, and she said, "Yes,"
that she just needed a smoke break! While we were eating, she
suddenly realized that her most precious angel (SIL - WITCH of note)
hadn't wished her a happy Mother's Day yet! She kept on saying
that maybe her angel was on her way as a surprise, or maybe she was
already at MIL's house to surprise her, or maybe she will phone the
house phone and nobody will be there! She actually believed
that SIL would drive 5 hours just to wish her a "Happy Mother's
Day'! With this in mind, she started to rush us to finish our
meal so that she could get home, in case her angel arrived!
She got mad at my DH when he told her that we were going to finish
our meals, and that it was rude for us to leave before everyone else
finished eating! She went so far as to threaten to walk home
if we didn't take her home immediately! We got up in the middle
of a family lunch to take MIL home! When we dropped her off,
she almost ran to her door. She still hasn't thanked my DH for
inviting her or for the gift that we gave her! DH was really
upset about her behavior! The next day, she phoned us in tears
because her little angel (SIL, being 20 something) never even phoned
her or surprised her. She wanted us to please phone SIL and
ask her why. DH blew up, and told her that she is ungrateful,
and that if she can't appreciate her one child who still cared for
her, she can just forget about seeing him ever again! She said
that she was sorry, she didn't mean to be ungrateful, and she would
make it up to him. She then asked him again to please phone
his sister. Weeks after this episode, we heard that she was
telling all her friends about how awful the Mother's Day lunch was,
how horrible my family was to her, and that she will never eat with
such common people again! I just laughed quietly at this, since
she was the one making a @ss of herself!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- jinxy lady /Posted: 09-OCT-07
Just when I think that MIL is getting better - maybe
I should just stop thinking! We had to visit MIL to drop off
her birthday gift (we forgot her birthday, so we had to a bit of damage
control!). Now, since our wedding was more than a month ago,
this was the first time I've seen her! When we arrived, we waited
for over 15 minutes for her to decide if she wanted to open the gate
for us! Then, she barely greeted us, but she did invite us in!
The first thing she told us was that they had visited my SIL, who
lives in another town (a 5 hour's drive away), and that they had such
a great time. SIL is such an angel, and the best DD anyone could
ask for! For goodness sake, I've only seen my SIL 4 or 5 times
total, and all these times she was unfriendly and nasty! The
thing that gets me is that they could drive 5 hours to visit their
DD, but they could not drive 5 minutes to visit their only son in
the same town! But, other than that, she started crying about
5 minutes into the visit (her favorite game is making us feel guilty!).
She told us that FIL (he is out of the country at the moment!) is
very disappointed with us and their other DD! He does not care
what we say or do, we will never be his children! I always thought
that he was the only half sane person in the whole dysfunctional family!
First, I'm not his child (thank goodness for that!). But, my
DH is, and he has always been their one child to visit them regularly
and phone them to ask if they are okay! When they need someone
to house sit, that would be us. If they needed to have anything
done, they would call us! DH loved doing things with his father,
since he never really saw much of his dad growing up! Second,
MIL started saying that she doesn't know what to do to get her family
back. Uh, well, since she is the one who broke up the family
by telling their eldest DD that she will never be welcome in their
house ever again, and she has been a witch to DH and me for as long
as I can remember, maybe she should start with herself! MIL
is forever telling my DH that she did the best she could with her
kids and, she doesn't deserve the way they treat her! Now, let
me tell you about her idea of mothering. She didn't allow her
children to eat in the house because she is a clean freak and they
would mess up her super clean house! She used to place them
on a newspaper in the garden to eat - winter or summer! They
were not allowed to be home 5 minutes later than the time she said
or she would lock them out of the house. DH and eldest SIL had
to sleep outside in the middle of winter because they arrived a half
an hour late because of a flat tire! And, she still doesn't
understand why her children don't want to be around her! Getting
back to the visit - she even told my DH that she needs to pay someone
to take her to town (she broke her arm recently - falling of her broom!).
My DH told her that if she only picks up the phone and asks, we'll
help her when and where we can! Her reply, "Well, you are
always so busy, you would not find time to help you're crippled mother."
She has a broken arm, for crying out loud!!! When we left, she
walked to the door with us and said that she will tell FIL that we
visited, but that she doesn't think he will want us to visit when
he is back! Since his children are dead to him! Now, how
are we supposed to get our heads around this? They are the one's
who did everything in their power to upset us both at our wedding.
They contacted us for a whole month and never let us know that MIL
got hurt or anything. We are the disappointed! She is
the one who asked her eldest DD to disappear out of their lives and
doesn't want us to visit, but FIL blames his children for the trouble!
I just wish that they could see how much they hurt their children.
The one child whom they make such a fuss about is the one who couldn't
care less!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- jinxy lady /Posted: 01-OCT-07
My MIL was never interested to meet my parents before
we got married! DH finally convinced them to meet my parents
just after we got engaged! I cooked a dinner like no other I've
ever cooked, and I made sure that the table looked amazing!
I love to have dinner parties! When they arrived, it was quite
stiff and uncomfortable, especially since my mother has cats and MIL
hates cats! But, after a while everybody seemed to relax, and
the parents had a few laughs! I thought everything was going
great! After they left, my mother commented that MIL is not
as bad as I said, and that she enjoyed having them! For a few
days after the dinner I didn't hear anything from them. Then,
DH told me that he had a huge fight with his mother about the dinner!
He told me that MIL thought that we (my parents and I) were trying
to be better than them, that my parents are not likable people, and
that my mother's house is dirty. MIL said that she will never
visit them ever again! She felt that I was trying too hard to
make a good impression, and she will never like me anyway, so I can
just stop trying! I was so hurt! This, after we went out
of our way to make them feel comfortable, and all the trouble we went
through with dinner! I decided then that I will never have them
over for dinner again! So far, I've stuck to my decision!
But, now that we are married, I will have to have them over for my
DH's birthday. I just don't know if I'll be able to be nice!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- jinxy lady /Posted: 24-SEP-07
The day my DH proposed to me, my whole family was in
on the planning and preparations, which I really appreciated!
So, the evening after he proposed, he took my family out to dinner,
dad, mom, brother, sister and grandmothers! His own parents
were out of the country, his older sister was on a business trip,
and the younger one would have rather died than attend! After
a wonderful dinner, his phone rang. MIL wanted to congratulate
us! When he passed me the phone, the only thing she said was,
"I heard you that got engaged? This still doesn't mean
I approve!" So, I didn't even answer her. I just
passed the phone back and tried to put her out of my head! The
day the PIL got back from their trip (about 3 weeks after our engagement)
they immediately phoned my DH to say that they will be ready at about
8 that evening for dinner. He was very confused and asked them,
"What dinner?" He couldn't remember asking them to
diner? MIL got nasty and told him that if he could take my parents
to dinner, he can take his own mother to dinner! DH explained
that it was our engagement dinner, and they had missed it, so he didn't
need to take them to dinner now! Then, things turned really
nasty. She started telling him what a bad son he was, and that
I'm trying to break up their family, and on and on she went!
Finally, DH said, "Fine, we will take them for dinner to celebrate
our engagement, if that is, what she wanted! Well, she had another
screaming fit about that. If my DH was bringing me along to
dinner, he can just leave the whole thing! I wasn't welcome
at my engagement dinner with the ILs! Luckily, my DH stayed
calm and told his mother that if that is going to be her attitude,
she won't be welcome in his life any longer! She just broke
down crying and blamed me for being a bad influence on her son!
For a month (a very blissful month) we had no contact with them ,
until conscience started nagging at me and I asked my DH to contact
them! Thing were a tiny bit better after that, but not for long!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- jinxy lady, 1 of 4 needed /Posted: 13-SEP-07
I got married 2 weeks ago. Unlucky me married
into the worst family ever! Don't get me wrong, I love my DH
more than anything! The only thing standing between us and a
happy life together is the Monster-In-Law! The day before the
wedding, MIL never pitched in to help with the decorations.
When she finally arrived in the late afternoon, she gave the venue
one look and said, "Well, this will have to do!" She
even told my mother not to worry, as her family "won't mind things
not being quite up to scratch". The wedding still turned
out to be the best day in my life so far, except for MIL making all
kinds of comments to the family about little things that I didn't
get right. For example: I didn't seat her beloved DD (or,
as I like to think of her, The Wicked Witch) at the main table.
Just to set the record straight, she was not part of the entourage!
Then, she went around telling everyone that she didn't think our marriage
will last very long! All that on her son's wedding day!
Just to top it off, she tried taking over the dance floor, looking
like a cross between a whale on dry ground and a camel on it's back!
DH wanted to die of shame. At least I could secretly laugh at
her! When it was time to leave, she greeted my DH and made a
point of just looking at me. Then, she left - the same with
my SIL! The next day, we left for our honeymoon, and didn't
hear anything from them for the whole week! How lucky can you
be?! Once we got back, we got a very nasty phone call telling
us that she has been in a hospital for days, and nobody cares if she
dies. She said that I will probably keep my DH from her deathbed!
She broke her arm, for crying out loud. I did not walk into
this blind. I've known her for 3 years, and it has been a very
tough 3 years! At the beginning of our relationship, she used
to ignore me when we visited. She even spoke about me as if
I wasn't there! Then, when she couldn't freeze me out, she started
to tell me all about my DH's wonderful ex and how she wished he could
get back together with her! Still, her plot to get rid of me
didn't work (I'm one stubborn individual!). So, she started
to spread vicious rumors about me. When I confronted her, she
only said, "Sorry, I must've gotten the story wrong, then."
So, if anybody out there has got any, and I mean any kind of advice,
PLEASE HELP!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- jinxy lady, 2 of 4 needed /Posted: 19-SEP-07
This story starts where the previous one left off!
My MIL took my SIL and her boyfriend on holiday - no one else was
invited! When they came back, SIL packed her bags and moved
5 hours away from our home town (she only arrived back from overseas
two weeks prior to her move!). DH and I (a very reluctant I)
went over to greet her. SIL shouted at me the moment I set foot
into the house! She called me the most awful names. She
told my DH that I sleep around, that I'm trying to take over her mother's
house, and that I will never be welcome in this family. Also,
if her brother marries me, he will not be part of their family!
MIL stood there with a huge grin on her face! I just turned
around and left! I told my DH that I will never set foot in
that house again as long I live! He was so understanding and
supportive! He even went back to MIL's house later the same
day to give them a piece of his mind! He told them that he never
thought his own family would embarrass him so much and that he will
not set foot back into that house until they have apologized to me!
Well, I'm still waiting for the apology! My FIL was the one
to phone me and ask if I was okay, and if I would please come back
sometime! He is such a nice man, unfortunately he doesn't stand
up against MIL! After that episode I went back to my PIL house
but I've never been comfortable again! DH isn't keen on visiting
either, but sees it as his duty! Now, when we have to visit,
I go out of my way to be friendly no matter how much I hate being
there. It is the best kind of revenge, since MIL loves confrontation!
I haven't seen SIL since, but we get regular updates from MIL about
how wonderful SIL is doing and how much she is missing the family
(yeah right!)
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- jinxy lady, 3 of 4 needed /Posted: 20-SEP-07
I met my FMIL about a year after we started dating.
My DH's parents travel a lot! When we first met, we hit it off
and chatted up a storm! I used to smoke in those days, and we
had these little smokebreaks together, and we used to visit as often
as possible! I thought that I would be one of the lucky one's
that I would actually have an angel in-law! But, boy, was I
wrong! DH has two sisters - the eldest is a career woman and
has never married - she is an absolute darling, and one of my best
friends! The younger one lived overseas until a year ago!
Now, my trouble started with the return of the younger SIL.
About a week before she arrived back, my MIL changed towards me!
We were used to chatting and gossiping. She now ignores me and
speaks about me as if I wasn't in the room! I was so confused.
What happened? Then, the younger SIL arrived. I was so
excited to finally meet my DH's baby sister, who he has always talked
about as his favorite! When we walked into MIL's house, the
SIL ran up to my DH, hugging him and telling him how great it is to
be back, bla, bla, bla. She then turned to me and said, Nothing!
Not a hallo, not a Hi, not anything! So, that was uncomfortable!
MIL then informed my DH that they will be taking my two SILs and the
younger ones' boyfriend to dinner, and if we really wanted to come,
we'd have to pay for ourselves! Unfortunately, my FIL (poor,
wonderful man) overheard and said that if they are going to pay for
the SIL's, they can pay for us! So, we attended to the most
awful dinner in history - nobody spoke to each other, and the younger
SIL kept staring at me the whole time. Every time I would try
to make conversation with someone, she would roll her eyes and whisper
something to MIL! We also found out, that night, that my PIL
will be taking the younger SIL and her boyfriend on holiday and nobody
else is welcome!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- jinxy lady, 4 of 4 needed /Posted: 23-SEP-07
I've come to the conclusion that, no matter what I
do, no matter how hard I try, MIL will never be able to approve of
me! And, I've decided to stop trying! I had a huge fight
with DH about MIL last night! Usually he backs me up 100%, no
matter what. Unfortunately, yesterday was not one of those days!
WE forgot her birthday. I know that we are really bad people
for forgetting! This is the first time something like this happened
in my whole life! When we realized, I was horrified. We
immediately sent her a message to apologize, and promised to visit
the next day! I had to work and could not go with DH to her
house. When he got back from visiting, I immediately phoned
to ask what happened, and if we needed to apologize some more!
The answer I got was, "No, everything is fine. But, you
(being me) need to get a message to my mother to at least wish her
a happy birthday. You know, she is my mother, so it is the least
you can do!" WHAT!!!!! I did get in touch with her the
previous night, and I did congratulate her! When I told him
this, he told me that if I don't do something to mend the relationship,
MIL and I will never be able to get along! Excuse me, but I'm
not the one who tried to ruin our wedding, and I'm not the one who
has been ignoring us for the last month since the wedding! I
told DH, as nicely as possible, that I find the way he worded this
statement hurtful, and that, for the last three years that we've been
together, I've always been the one trying to get MIL to at least not
growl at me when we visit! I've never been disrespectful, and
I've never been mean to her in any way! He should at least try
to understand that I'm not happy about the way he is ordering ME to
make things right! This mending of the relationship has to come
from both sides! The only reply I got was, "Well, she is
my mother, and she will always be my mother!" I lost it
then, and told him that I'm his wife, and I think that that entitles
me to some kind of respect from them both! If anybody can give
me some kind of advice on this issue, PLEASE let me know!!!!!
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