Frequent
Fry Her TM - LongSufferingAussieDIL,
1 of 4 needed/Posted: 2-APR-06
MIL was ok until I went to university. She has
5 kids, 4 boys and 1 girl. The girl is treated like a princess.
When MIL realized that I might have been smarter than Princess (who
never went to university), she started being horrible. Princess
is now 45, dresses like a 65 year old and can't cook. Her choices
- yet MIL is jealous (Princess doesn't care) and constantly attacks
me, my DH (her DS) and her GC. We don't see her very much.
When we got married, they offered to pay for the wine for the reception.
My mum and I decided that we would take the wine list over to their
house and let them choose, as they were paying for it. MIL grabbed
the list, dropped it on the floor, and stared at the TV, ignoring
us all. DH told her off after we left. His dad, not her,
called up my dad to apologize, and she didn't do anything. She
NEVER apologizes. Later on I became pregnant with twins (our
first children). We were very excited. We called the relatives
to tell them. Her response? "But there aren't any
twins in the family." Hello! What about saying, "Congratulations,"?
They don't visit very often. My kids ask them to read to them
and they say, "NO,"!!!!!!
Frequent
Fry Her TM - LongSufferingAussieDIL,
2 of 4 needed/Posted: 3-APR-06
Not long after we were married MIL had a "family
get together". We weren't invited. We found out about
it afterwards.
Frequent
Fry Her TM - LongSufferingAussieDIL,
3 of 4 needed/Posted: 3-APR-06
We visited the ILs one Easter. What a great time
we had. My brother was in a bad car accident. Miraculously,
no one in the car was badly injured, despite the fact that the car
was written off. My dad called me at MIL's to tell me.
We were at the beach. MIL drove to the beach to tell me that
I had to call my dad right away. She said nothing else.
Panicked and shaking, I drove back to their house straight away, as
I new something bad had happened and she wanted dad to tell me.
Except, she "forgot" to mention everyone was OK. The
cow let me believe that something bad was wrong. I mentioned
it to her and FIL later, and they were angry with me!!! Later
FIL apologized for upsetting me. MIL came in at the same time
and stuck her head in a cupboard. She couldn't even look at
me while FIL apologized, let alone apologize herself. I was
so close to going home, but I stayed for the kid's sake. They
like their grandparents. So, on Easter Sunday MIL had little
Easter eggs in tiny "nest" baskets. She made said
that the Easter bunny brought them. My children were ages 4
(twin boy and girl), and 1. She put a bubble blower in my 4
year old daughter's basket and gave nothing to the other two.
Now, the 1 year old didn't notice, but my 4 year old son did.
He didn't understand why his sister got one and he didn't. He
kept on asking me why the Easter bunny didn't like him and wanted
to know why his sister got one and he didn't. It took all my
self control to not to say, "You didn't get one because the Easter
bunny is a mean cow!" I made DH sort it out. MIL
"pretended" to find a bubble blower on the ground that the
Easter bunny "dropped". My 4 year old son bought it.
So, the cow had one all along and chose to only give an extra present
to one child, and ignore the other two. The baby still didn't
get an extra present - she was too young to notice (I noticed!).
What kind of GM does that to their own GC? Why not just give
them the eggs and forget the bubble blowers? Or even forget
the eggs? We had eggs for Easter. I would rather she give
them no presents then do that to the kids. BTW, that was the
last overnight visit we had there. Did I mention that she is
also a really, really bad cook and you can never get a decent meal
there if she cooks? So, I have to do all the cooking when I
visit!
Frequent
Fry Her TM - LongSufferingAussieDIL,
4 of 4 needed/Posted: 3-APR-06
My other ILs are a nightmare as well. DH's next
oldest sibling was, for a lot of years, a dope smoking dole bludger.
His choice. Of course, he had children, but couldn't pay maintenance
because he didn't have a job. He can't get work because he left
school early to smoke dope and surf. But MIL thinks he's a good
father. He decided that he didn't like the idea that my 7 year
old son follows a different football team than the one his dad supports.
Who cares? It's football!!! He accused me of brain washing
my son (yes, we are still talking about football), and had a go at
my son about the team he supports. He rubbished the team to
my son. Of course, my son was upset. BIL is 45, my son is 7.
What sort of an adult attacks a kid about their choice of football
team!? Who cares what team he supports?! I made him apologize
to my son (at least he did it, MIL is unable to apologize).
DH was angry, too. I told DH that I wouldn't visit that BIL
again!
Frequent
Fry Her TM - LongSufferingAussieDIL/Posted:
25-MAR-06
My DH's family are not very nice people. He works
in a ski resort where there was a landslide, and a large number of
people were killed. At the time, we received a large number
of phone calls from family and friends who were extremely worried
about my DH's welfare - with the exception of his own parents and
all of his brothers and sisters. There was no way that they
could have not known about it, as there was 24 hour TV coverage on
every channel. How's that for love?
Frequent
Fry Her TM - LongSufferingAussieDIL/Posted:
8-APR-06
My MIL is a nasty person who is horrible to me, her
son, my children (her grandchildren), my family - everyone.
Here is the strange thing: I get fantastic gifts from her -
not expensive ones, but good ones. E.g. for my last birthday
I got a cute beaded handbag, yet she cannot be in a room with me without
being incredibly rude and insulting. Can anyone explain this?
Has anyone else experienced this phenomenon?
Frequent
Fry Her TM - LongSufferingAussieDIL/Posted:
17-APR-06
We were moving. MIL came over to help.
I was surprised, as at this time I was aware that she truly hated
my guts. However, I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt.
She packed nothing. She just came over to criticize my packing
style. "Do you think you should pack that like that dear?"
"Oh, that's not how you do that!" I couldn't get rid
of her! DH couldn't believe that she stayed for so long, doing
nothing except criticizing!
Frequent
Fry Her TM - LongSufferingAussieDIL/Posted:
22-APR-06
DH is one of 5 children. MIL decided to have
a big "family get together" to invite the whole family.
We weren't invited. She also tried very hard to engineer situations
in which my DH would be invited, but not me. You know, boys
only nights, or if she knew that I had something on, she would have
it on that night. That used to hurt my feelings a lot.
The only good thing about it was that I missed out on eating her cooking.
She may not be the world's worst cook, but she's got to be in the
top 10. DH wouldn't go without me. One day he asked her
outright why she never invited me over.
Frequent
Fry Her TM - LongSufferingAussieDIL/Posted:
2-MAY-06
Of course, things did not improve when the kids came
along. Eight weeks into my first pregnancy, we discovered that
we were expecting twins (they are now 8). It was with great
happiness and excitement that we rang friends and relatives to tell
them our happy news. Everyone was happy for us. Guess
who had nothing nice to say? MIL! When we told SIL, who
is a MIL in training, she was the only other person who couldn't say
the polite thing. Her 2 year old was crying in the background.
She said, "That's all you'll be hearing then." Where
did these people learn their social niceties? I have a lot more
then 4 stories. They certainly accumulate after 22 years.
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