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Loving My Babies
Age: 25

frequent fry her, loving my babies Frequent Fry Her TM. - LovingMyBabies /Posted:17-JUN-07
My SIL came over to the house recently with her DD, my DH's niece.  This niece is about seven years old, and, up to this point, has loved spending time with DH and me.  The niece was in the other room with my DH and DS, leaving SIL and me in the living room.  We were generally trying to be nice to each other, when she poked my stomach and said, "Are you sure you're not having another baby?"  This comment was meant to hurt, and I knew it.  I've always been a tall, skinny person, who hates confrontation.  My SIL is a shorter, slightly bigger person.  I told her that her comment bothered me, but she said it was just some left over pregnancy hormones.  Do you think if I was to hit SIL, I could get off with a plea of insanity due to crazy in-law?

        Signed - Crazy In-Law Defense?
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frequent fry her, loving my babies Frequent Fry Her TM. - LovingMyBabies, 1 of 4 needed /Posted:18-JAN-07
This is not about my MIL or FIL (they are both sweet, kind people), but my own parents.  For a little bit of background, my dad died when I was young, and I never really knew him.  My mom ended up getting married three times after this.  The first time I was too young to really care much.  The second time she was married for ten years to a great guy (we still keep in contact and he loves my DH).  She is currently on her third marriage.  She's been married to my SF since I was a teenager.  This one has had a serious drinking problem for years, and my sister and I didn't like being around that.  Due to the problems at home, we both ended up getting married at a young age, barely out of high school.  My BIL is a great guy, who takes great care of my sister.  My DH swept me off my feet, and we've been together for 7 years now.  Yes, he is a good deal older than I am (10 years), but the age difference has never been a problem.  Now, with the story:  We got engaged on my college graduation day.  When we went to tell my dm and SF, dm sat there and did nothing but make rude and extremely mean comments about my DF.  SF did nothing to stop her.  I stood up and told her that as long as she felt that way, we wouldn't be seeing her.  DH and I left, and I was very much upset.  Two years later she has left messages on birthdays and holidays, but only to me, not to DH.  He tells me that I shouldn't be so upset over this, but I am.  Now, with the birth of our first child being only 4 months away, I don't know what to do.  I want my mother to be involved in this child's life, but not if she can't respect my DH.  I don't want her to be around.  What should I do?

        Signed - My Mother Is Driving Me Nuts!!
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frequent fry her, loving my babies Frequent Fry Her TM. - LovingMyBabies, 2 of 4 needed /Posted:14-JUN-07
As I posted in January (it's under the 18th), my mother and I didn't see eye to eye.  I wrote her a long letter explaining the way I felt and why I felt that way.  Luckily, my sister agreed with me 100%, and my mother has been working with us to fix our relationship.  She was becoming an excited grandma, and I thought everything would be okay.  Anyway, after the incident at the hospital, my DH and I figured that it was over, and we should just enjoy our time with our son.  We had told all family members to not visit for a few days while we, as a now bigger family, adjusted to things.  As my DH pulled our SUV into the driveway, we noticed a few cars parked out front that we didn't recognize.  When we walked into the house, there were around 8 people whom we didn't know, and 2 whom we did (my mother and her alcoholic DH).  I tried to be nice for over an hour.  I was tired, my DH hadn't slept in days and he was tired, and my newborn son was tired.  I politely excused myself to go put my son to bed, when my mother tried to take him from me.  "Oh, it's not like you know what to do.  You don't need to put him to bed."  WTF?  I'm the mother who has read every single parenting book there is, and practically raised my sister and myself.  She was the mother who just kept reaching for the alcohol.  Grrrrr.  Hopefully, this will help release some of my anger.

        Signed - Not Like You Know What To Do
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frequent fry her, loving my babies Frequent Fry Her TM. - LovingMyBabies, 3 of 4 needed /Posted:14-JUN-07
My son was born on May 18, weighing in at 8 lbs, 7 oz.  He's a very healthy baby.  I had a natural childbirth, and, as you can imagine, I was tired and sore.  I just wanted to hold my baby and be with my DH.  My SIL (DH's sister), who had been in the waiting room since I had been admitted into the hospital, practically burst into the room with BIL.  I had said, prior to birth, that I wanted a few hours before we had any visitors.  I was still getting cleaned up, but, okay, I guess I can understand her excitement.  This was the first baby in a while.  As the nurse went to hand my son to me, my SIL took him.  I hadn't even held my son yet!!  I was so far past angry and hurt at this point, but I didn't have the strength to get into an all out battle with this woman.  DH (thank the lord he's so sweet) took the baby back from SIL and shooed her out of the room.  Someone please tell me that I'm not crazy for being angry over this.

        Signed - I Didn't Have The Strength
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frequent fry her, loving my babies Frequent Fry Her TM. - LovingMyBabies, 4 of 4 needed /Posted:17-JUN-07
My mother, in what I can only assume was her attempt to again get my sister and me mad at her, had called my MIL and was ranting and raving to her terrible life.  She began naming off different things that my sister and I had done wrong in our lives.  My MIL (bless her soul) told my mother, "It seems to me that the only one with problems is you.  Maybe you should take some lessons on how to be a decent human being from your lovely daughters."  It's times like that when I'm glad I have a normal MIL.

        Signed - Ranting & Raving
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