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Mother-In-Law Stories
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Frequent
Fry HerTM
Monster-In-Laws
Age: 41 MIL Age: 63
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- Monster-In-Laws /Posted: 7-JUL-02
My MIL is a nut job! And, that's putting it nicely.
She's had the reputation, from the time she was a kid in school, of
being a little nuts! In fact, I heard comments that she had
to marry an older man (FIL was 14 years older) because everyone her
age knew she was a nut job! When people don't do exactly what
she wants them to do, at the time she wants them to do it, she cuts
all ties with them and never speaks to them again! She did it
to her own mother. She did it to her brother. She did
it to her husband (and, I really think he died to get away from her),
and guess whose turn it is now? Mine!!!!!!!! She was verbally
abusive to me over things that never happened (but she insists people
told her that they happened). And, when my DH defended me, she
told him that she never wanted to see me or my kids again. And,
she said that if he was going to stay married to me (we've been married
9 months), she won't see him either! Nice, huh?! She says
I'm a control freak because I bought my own house before I met my
DH. And, she feels that I'm self centered because I did all
the decorating myself, and it looks wonderful! I'm also self-centered
because I finished my higher education and landed a dream job with
better benefits and bonuses than my DH! She feels that I should
be a passive little farm girl who needs her DH! The truth is
that I want my DH! And, the reason he was so attracted to me
was because I was strong and independent (unlike his mother and sister,
who couldn't change a roll of toilet paper without his help!).
She doesn't like the fact that I can think for myself, so everything
I say or do is twisted grossly by MIL and SIL! Damned if I do,
damned if I don't! Help.
Signed - Everything I Say
Or Do Is Twisted Grossly
( I
want my own Frequent
Fry Her TM
Page )
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- Monster-In-Laws /Posted: 7-JUL-02
My ILs have a spare key to my DH's home. We are
trying to fix it up so that we can move there. We each have
our own places from before we met. We pay two mortgages, and
need to cut down to one. So, we are fixing up my DH's fixer
upper because there is more room there, and it is in a nicer school
district. We got married 9 months ago, and I have 2 children
from a previous marriage. My ILs save everything! They
have houses that are full of junk! So, now they are moving the
overflow to my DH's house without our consent or knowledge!
We've asked them to stop because we now can't move from room to room
because it's wall to wall junk! We tried to refinance to a lower
mortgage rate. When the appraiser from the bank showed up, he
couldn't move, and he refused to do the appraisal! It seems
that they added more junk to the junk there! My DH gave them
30 days to get the junk out. Naturally, that has come and gone.
And, of course it's all my fault. What is my problem?
They seem to think that there's nothing wrong with both of us working
3 jobs between us to pay for their storage space! We already
have a place to live (my house), so why do we need to move?
DH thinks that changing the locks won't work until all their stuff
is out, because it will cause a bigger problem if their stuff is locked
up. I'd like to trash it all, but I know there will be a legal
problem if I do that! Now they all complain about me, and say
that I'm self serving! I work my butt off, and we always have
to go without to meet these two mortgage and tax payments! And,
for what? When did I agree to provide a storage rental house
to them? Help!!!!!!!!!
Signed - I'd Like To Trash
It All
( I
want my own Frequent
Fry Her TM
Page )
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- Monster-In-Laws, 1 of 4 needed
/Posted: 22-JUN-02
So, my MIL is a witch! Everything she calls me
is a lie that she made up in her head! She is angry about all
these "bogus" claims about me. But, I think she has
serious mental problems that her family should be getting her treatment
for, instead of helping her attack me! She told my DH that she
never wanted to see me again (or my kids) because 3 years ago at Christmas,
I started opening a gift that she bought my husband by mistake!
She handed it to me and said, "Here." It had no name
tag on it. I said, "Thank you," and started opening
it. She said, "No, it is for your DH." So, I
put it near him before it was fully opened. She, of course,
waited 3 years to make a stink about this! She felt that since
we weren't married, I had no right to touch his stuff!!! The
best part is that when you kindly ask her if there's a problem, or
whether I did something to upset her, she gives sugar coated reasons
like, "Oh no. I just haven't been able to work in my garden."
Or she says, "My knee is bothering me," etc. Then,
she'll call my DH at work and let loose on him about how evil I am.
When he defends me, she tells him that he's too close to me to see
clearly, and that he should have never married me! She never
buys gifts for the kids and me for the holidays when we are together
(but she buys for everyone else, including my DH). And she takes
any gift(s) that we buy her and gives them back to my 10 year old
son, stating that she doesn't want anything! Of course, he gets
hurt. He's 10!!! Family get togethers are horrible, since
the rest of the family feeds into her behavior as not to upset her,
because that's the way she is! Until recently, I was really
getting down on myself because I was starting to believe that I was
not a nice person. Then, my friends pointed out that it's her,
not me. After I stepped back and looked, I realize that just
because she says all these bad things about me, it doesn't mean that
I have to live up to them! She even attacks my family!
My mother called to wish her a Merry Christmas, because my parents
live 8 hours away, and she called my husband to tell him that my mother
was checking up on her!!!! Any advice on how to deal with this
behavior? Even though the kids and I ignore her (she demanded
for us to do this), she still manages to get to me. Help!!!!
Signed - She Still Manages
To Get To Me
( I
want my own Frequent
Fry Her TM
Page )
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- Monster-In-Laws, 2 of 4 needed
/Posted: 22-JUN-02
My ILs always call my DH at work! It has gotten
to the point where other employees are complaining to the boss that
he's slowing everything down by these calls! The boss contacted
me get me to help with the situation, since I used to work there too.
The best part is that, because my husband works the 2 pm to 10 PM
shift, everyone thinks it's okay to call him when they get home from
work after 5pm. That is the busiest time in the hospital!
They don't realize that he can't take care of people if he's on the
phone!!! They think everybody can wait! So, I kindly mentioned
that since people were complaining and he did have a job to do, maybe
they could limit their calls to ones that are very important, or to
emergencies only! Well, that translated (in their heads) to
me saying, "No one is ever allowed to call him again!"
They are feeling, "Who the he!! do you think you are?"
They've been calling him for years there, and now that we're married
(since September), they have to change their way of doing things?
So, they concluded that I'm bossy and self-serving because of this,
and now, no one in his family talks to me! FYI, these are all
people in their mid-thirties and up! So now they have started
calling the house at 11pm to talk to him! I have 2 kids from
a previous marriage, and I work! I think these phone calls are
inconsiderate! They are not about anything other than gossip
or chit chat. Short of moving and never giving them the address
or phone number, does anyone have any ideas?
Signed - She Probably Considers
Me Terribly Rude
( I
want my own Frequent
Fry Her TM
Page )
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- Monster-In-Laws, 3 of 4 needed
/Posted: 23-JUN-02
My ILs are truly "out there!" They
save everything! I mean everything! They have 2 trailers
and 9 station wagons on their property to "store" stuff
in! They think everything is going to be a "collectible."
My DH didn't even have a bedroom when he was a kid because all of
the bedrooms (4 of them) were used for storage! He slept on
the couch! You can't move in their house because it's floor
to ceiling boxes of "stuff' that are going to be collectable!
When they buy you a gift, you can't use it! You have to keep
it in the original box because it's going to be collectable!
They drive around town picking up everybody's junk because something
in there is going to be a collectable! Mind you, they have nothing
worth any money with all this junk they save! I haven't been
to the house in 2 years because I saw rats in one of the station wagons
that they use as a storage box! They don't care. They
say that the cat will get the mice and rats! I have no idea
how my husband is related to these people. I keep telling myself
that it's not genetic because they probably found him somewhere and
kept him "because he's going to be a collectable"!
It helps me deal with these people! They save wrapping paper
from every gift they have ever gotten! They don't even reuse
it. They save it because it's going to be a collectable!
My ILs have even gone through my garbage on holidays and taken out
wrapping paper, plastic forks, empty egg cartons and toothpicks -
because they're collectibles! All of these items are collectable,
except for the toothpicks, because (according to them) they can be
washed and reused! They insult me and talk cr@p about me because
I don't conform to their way of doing things! And, these frugal
people will fall for any get rich scheme that is going! In the
3 years that I've known my husband, I can't tell you how many times
they invested money in order to triple their money, and came out with
nothing!!! This has gotten to the point where they openly attack
me at family events because I don't act like they do. They think
I'm wasteful and selfish! I'm miserable around them! It
has gotten to the point where they make up lies about me to other
people in order to make me look bad. I don't even talk to these
people. Yet, according to them, I'm always saying something!
They think it's okay to bring their overflowing stuff to my house
(yes my house - I bought it myself before I met my husband) to store
stuff down my basement. I said, "No," and all this
cr@p started! Help?
Signed - They Think I'm
Wasteful And Selfish!
( I
want my own Frequent
Fry Her TM
Page )
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- Monster-In-Laws, 4 of 4 needed
/Posted: 23-JUN-02
My MIL is a nut job! For whatever reason, she
has major issues with me being independent. I bought my own
house shortly before I met my DH, and she doesn't like that!
Nor does she like the fact that I painted and wallpapered it all myself!
She thinks I'm self serving and self centered because of this!
Of course, she knows somebody who knows somebody who knows somebody
- and she knows the "real" (so called) reason that I got
divorced! She won't say though, she just kinds of plays the
"I know something you don't know" game with my DH.
The truth is that it was your normal "grow apart, go your separate
ways" kind of divorce. She's just playing head games with
us! I spoke in front of the state house to get a bill passed
into law (which was successful), and she has issues with that too!
She doesn't address the fact that it will help countless people, but
she felt that it was self serving! Yeah, I get off my butt and
do something about injustice, and it's self serving! When my
DH sticks up for me, she tells him that he's too close to me to see
clearly, and that he should have never married me! The truth
is that my DH and I never fight about anything, except his mother
and his family! They have put me under a magnifying glass, and
I'm damned if I do, and damned if I don't! Any advice?
Signed - They Have Put
Me Under A Magnifying Glass
( I
want my own Frequent
Fry Her TM
Page )
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