Frequent
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Age: 33 MIL Age: 50
Nice lady if you like a big cup of Crazy!
Frequent
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- redheadedgurrl,/Posted: 7-MAR-08
It just never ends with her. Last year, we canceled our vacation
because she got herself so sick on her own stupidity that she ended
up in the ICU. Not being able to take my kids on our family
vacation was bad enough, but it also put our plans to have a baby
on hold. So, now that she is so selfishly wrapped up in her
new serious boyfriend and his family, perfect time to get away.
She actually emailed my DH, at his work e-mail address, mind you,
saying that she was offended that I asked not to be bothered unless
it was an emergency while we were gone. She also said that it's
my fault that she doesn't leave messages anymore, and to please forgive
her for almost dying when we had plans. She told him not to
"boo hoo" the fact that she is upset, either. I find
it funny how she expects all the sympathy in the world for something
she brought upon herself, but was unable to muster up any for us when
I had a miscarriage. Can't seem to come up with a lick of common
courtesy, either. I am so glad he blows it right off and sees
her for the selfish woman she is.
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- redheadedgurrl,/Posted: 26-AUG-07
I have finally realized just what a selfish witch my MIL is!
In June, the woman ended up in the hospital in septic shock, which
apparently stemmed from Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (google that one!).
Her son, my DH, was there every day for 15 days, missing work, canceling
our vacation, and losing money because of it. He did everything
for her. Who did she thank? Her friends!!! Are you
kidding me?? During that time, we were taking care of her cats
and the household, and decided one day to go through old photo albums.
There are no pictures of her son's first birthday, first Christmas,
or much of his childhood, except for school pictures. But, there
are PLENTY of her and her friends, drinking, smoking and attending
many parties over the years. So, after she got well, my DH's
father ended up in the hospital. Now, this is also after my
ILs divorced, recently. I really don't think that my DH can
handle much more. So, when I confronted her about taking her
son's feelings into account and being more supportive, she suggested
that I convince him to get on medication!! How's that for the
love of a mother? Not to mention she has this "book"
she wrote, a cr@ppy wanna-be romance novel at best, in which her dedication
is to her now ex-husband and best friend. Not a word about her
son, even though the book is somewhat the story of her life, and he
is "in" it. For my DD's 10th birthday, she told us
how she was still too weak to make it, but then told us that she drove
quite a distance to see her "boyfriend" a few days before.
And, she wonders what my problem is with her? Psycho selfish
witch on a freaking broom!!!
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- redheadedgurrl,/Posted: 21-NOV-06
Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha. I just LOVE Karma!!!
Now during all this time that MIL and FIL have not lived together
or even had any sort of active marriage she has told me, over and
over, how her son will leave me and that people are betting on how
long we will last. She makes us miserable. Well, guess
what?!! FIL has told her that he wants a divorce, and is moving
in with another woman.!! I can't help but gloat. It's
only fair, after all I've endured! However, DH expects me to
let it all go, which I will not do. I will be sensitive to her
situation (and smile on the inside), but this does not wipe the slate
clean in any way, shape, or form.
Frequent
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- redheadedgurrl,/Posted: 13-AUG-06
I am sure that most of us have seen the movie
Monster-in-Law. I have lived it. My Evil MIL has actually
investigated me, done background checks, stolen my cell phone records
from before my DH even knew me, and then looked up the numbers in
a reverse directory. When she was not able to find anything,
she made things up. After my DD's birthday party, to which she
was invited, she asked me how long my sister had been sick.
I asked what she was talking about, and she told me that my sister
was sick and would die in the next two years. She knew this
because she can "SEE" these things. Funny how she
can't "SEE" how close her DH (who has not lived with her
for 6 years, but they are "married") and his "business
partner" are, or that he was sick with a disease that caused
him to need a liver transplant a few years ago. Because of that
comment, my DH and I planned a cocktail party/couples shower for ourselves
at a time when she would be working, specifically so that she could
not embarrass either of us in front of friends and family. My
mother was so disgusted by her comment about my sister that she said
that she would not sit at a parent's table with her at the wedding,
and she was going to pass on the shower if FMIL would be there.
Now that we have moved out (because moving my kids and me in was her
idea) and she is all on her own, she is actually just as bad, if not
worse. When we moved, I asked her to contact me regarding the
final utility bills that I had agreed to pay. I also cleaned
the rooms, the walls, spackled any nail holes from pictures, hung
brand new blinds in the windows, left a forwarding address in case
any mail was accidentally not forwarded, and asked her to call so
we could pick it up. I returned my key and my DH kept his in
case she needed him to get in to do something. Just the other
day I found that something for me had been delivered, so my DH called
to see if it was there. When she said, "Yes," I was
a little angry that it sat for 4 days, with no call from her.
In this time she had not called about the bills, either. I was
not going to call her. I am tired of babying her and doing everything
for her (I have had to make calls for her because she just can't handle
real life or utility companies). She then called my DH back
at work and said, "No, you can have your mail when you give me
a check." When he got angry and told her that she never
even gave us copies to do so, she suggested that he drive the 60 mile
round trip to get the copies, then drive the 60 miles again the next
day with a check to pick up the mail. He told her no, he was
sick of her petty, constant BS, and that the more she pulled all this,
the less he wanted to do with her. After he told me all this,
I CALLED HER! I told her that I would come out with a sheriff,
if need be, to collect my mail. I was coming tonight and expected
copies of the bills so that I could get that done, too. Before
we left she called our house and told my DH to never contact her after
tonight. Just another stab in the back to him. She actually
left everything on the porch and hid inside. She could not even
put on her big girl panties and face me!!! COWARD! There
was a note to her son to leave his key, because the locks and the
pass code to the security system would be changed (another jab at
her poor son) and a note to me with the bills that said, "(her
DH's Name) said you will probably never pay me, like (my DH's name),
please don't let him be right." Now, what would make me
want to cooperate after a comment like that? The money that
she claims my DH won't pay her is from years of deciding that he owed
her rent for the time that he was living there, or from borrowing
a stamp or just random stupid stuff that totals over $3600.
I told her before that she had better never come to us for help EVER,
because I would whip out my little notebook and start her tab!!!
She has driven me so insane that I have actually contacted a certain
talk show and they called back and want us on. We have agreed.
Now the producer is working on her!!
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- redheadedgurrl, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 02-JUL-06
Thank goodness for this site. It's a great way to vent, and
I know that I am not alone. My mother and father are divorced,
and not too friendly. Since they both agreed to be at the wedding
and behave, I did not push the issue of having them be announced in
with the bridal party. Since just announcing in my DH's parents
would seem a little awkward, we skipped it and only did our MOH and
BM, along with ourselves and my kids. Tonight MIL told her DS
that I had arranged that because I wanted all the attention.
She knows that this is not true. But, come to think of it, our
wedding was about us, and was paid for and planned by us. MIL
and FIL did not pay one penny, address one envelope, or do anything
to help. They refused, and told us for months that they were
boycotting the wedding - such a shame they changed their minds.
She told her son that someone at the wedding told her that they saw
me try to get his attention, and when he continued to keep talking,
I snapped my fingers at him. This happened when they were trying
to get us to cut the cake. After calling him 4 times, I was
trying to get his attention. She then told him that he has no
balls and that I like him that way. Thank goodness her son does
not even buy into her BS!!!
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- redheadedgurrl, 2 of 4 needed/Posted: 02-JUL-06
Tonight the crazy MIL decided to stir her crazy
pot up again, and told her DS that I will isolate him, make him quit
playing the drums, and not let him be with his friends. When
he told her again to shove off, she called one of HIS friends to tell
him that I am trying to stand in between their friendship, and that
I said that the two of them talking on the phone is abnormal.
Of course, I never said that. She just does not understand boundaries,
and is freaking out because now I have set them and expect her to
follow them, and she can't STAND IT!!!
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- redheadedgurrl, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 24-JUL-06
I have vented many a night on this wonderful
site in the past year, but this one really tops it all!! We
live with my MIL. The purpose is not to help us in any way,
as we pay more than we should to her a month to help support her.
I have survived a year and 1/2 of being her scapegoat, and the meanie
to her victim. Her son and I were married a month ago, and since
then she has totally SNAPPED!! This past week she started a
fight because I had moved my plastic storage bins around in the basement.
I guess I did it without her permission. I moved them because
she had piled tons of her cr@p on top of all my boxes marked fragile.
MIL told me that I moved them to be the center of attention (to whom?
the bugs in the basement?). Later on we heard a crash, and after
my DH got dressed and went downstairs to investigate, she said that
she was playing pool and that was the noise. Everything looked
like it was in it's place, so he dismissed it. A few days later,
my DH and I went into the basement to reorganize, to make her happy.
These are our last few weeks living here, and I want peace.
As I started removing boxes, I found a plastic bin that held some
extremely sentimental wedding gifts that we had received from my family
- a box that I had marked as extremely fragile containing items that
can't be replaced. The lid was off. One of the locking
handles was in the box and one was under the lid. The lid was
cracked and split, almost the whole way through. The corner
and bottom of the box was destroyed, and the dishes inside were cracked
and broken. I was actually so angry that I had the sheriff come
out to file a report. MIL denied it and was told by the sheriff
that he could not prove without a doubt to twelve people that she
did it, but he knew that she was lying. I did my best not to
smile right then. She then tried to say that I had poured water
on her computer keyboard to try to electrocute her. This computer
is locked up in her office, and no one has access to it. Needless
to say, everything is going into storage in the AM, and we are leaving
her butt here. Kharma will get her back. I knew she was
an awful and jealous person, but I never expected this of her.
What a PSYCHO!! No wonder her DH lives 50 miles away from her.
In the end I find it funny that she keeps blaming me for taking her
son away and ruining her relationship, yet she won't look at her actions.
It's she who is ruining it!
Frequent
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- redheadedgurrl, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 13-AUG-06
My MIL is the QUEEN of terrible gift giving, that is if she even gives
one! For my DH's 28th birthday she gave him a marshal arts movie
star coloring book!! Last Christmas she told him what she got
him (after asking me what he wanted) and told him that she could not
afford it ($40). So, either he had to give her half for it,
or she was taking it back! I was floored!!! I ended up
giving her money for it and she just happened to leave my name off
the card, but she did put her DH's name (he did not give any money
for it). I got a teapot with a rooster on it. I can't
even unload it for a quarter at a garage sale (really, I still have
it)! But the topper was our wedding 3 months ago. We got
a card. That's it. There was not even a personal message
written in it. However, when she gets (and expects) a gift from
us, she gushes about what her son gave her, as if I had no hand in
it.
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