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Frequent
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Red Woman, Blue State
Age: nearly 32 MIL Age: 56
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- redwomanbluestate/Posted: 23-JUL-08
*Sigh*. She's at it again! My DH, the kids
and I are moving in with GMIL. She is in her mid-80s, and has
not been getting around well on her artificial hip. So, we are
moving in to her house to help out (we only rent, whereas she owns
her single-family house). GMIL will put DH's name on the house,
making him a co-owner. If anything happens to her, we get the
house. GMIL and MIL have a horrible habit of always picking
fights with one another that escalate into screaming-cursing matches.
While we were over there moving some of our stuff in, they had one
such fight. DH asked them to stop acting this way in front of
our kids, saying that children shouldn't be exposed to this behavior.
MIL jumped all over him and started yelling at him. DH then
left the house to wait in the car, and asked me to join him with the
kids. As I was packing up the kids to get into the car, MIL
was talking badly to them about their father. I hit the roof,
and started yelling at MIL that she was not to speak badly about their
father to them. She started screaming and cursing at me.
She looked so ridiculous that I started to make fun of her, which
really unhinged her. When we got home, DH and I talked about
this incident. I told him what his mother had said about him,
and that is why I fought with her. DH said that I am the only
one in the family who doesn't fight with her (he's right about that),
that MIL must feel really bad about it, and that I should apologize
to her. WTF!? I said, "Not until I get one from her
first." The next day, MIL came over and we made up, or
so I thought. See, she is painting our bedroom at GMIL's house.
That same day that we made up, I got a call at lunchtime from DH.
Apparently, MIL grabbed the wrong color paint, and now our new bedroom,
instead of being a light tan, is now a bright orange-yellow!
It's hideous. I had told a coworker about the fight (the first
time I had ever done so), and told her later on about the paint color.
The first words out of her mouth were, "Well, she got back at
you, didn't she?" And, the more I think about it, the more
I think that she's right.
Signed - It's Hideous
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- redwomanbluestate/Posted: 19-JUL-08
MIL is a piece of work. DH is one of five kids.
The youngest is a 16 year old sister (we'll call her DS5). When
DS5 was in elementary school, MIL got into trouble with the school
for having DS5 out too much. This was because all of MIL's friends'
kids were either in high school, or grown and out of the house.
So, when she wanted to hang out with them, she would have to be the
first one to leave the fun to pick up DS5 from school. MIL would
just not have DS5 go to school for the day, and claim that she was
out because of an asthma attack. Meanwhile, DS5 was going to
karate class and winning competitions. She was too sick to go
to school, but not too sick to compete and pump up MIL's ego?
And, when she did go to school, MIL would rush her to get her homework
done so that she could hang out with her friends again. When
she got stuck on her homework, MIL would do it for her. So,
the school threatened to call Social Services on MIL unless DS5 attended
school more regularly. MIL's solution? HOMESCHOOL!
Which, for DS5, meant do whatever the he!! you want, con your smarter
friends to do the work for you, and you and MIL can hang out with
your friends all day! DS5 hasn't been to regular school since
5th grade. I had her and my DD help me bake one time.
DS5 was 13, and my DD was 8. I asked DS5 to get me "a quarter
cup of water". The measuring cup had the measurements in
fractions on the side. She brought me back 2 cups worth of
water. Even my DD knew that she was wrong. I asked her
if she knew that the measurements were on the side. She said
that she saw them, but she didn't know what fraction "a quarter"
was. Now DS5 and MIL don't even live in the same house.
MIL basically lives with whatever family in the area has a spare room,
claims the spare room as her own, and stays until she gets sick of
having to follow the house rules. DS5 lives with one of DH's
older brothers. She does nothing all day but hang out with friends,
drive them around in her car, and bum money off of family members,
just like MIL. Stupid oldest BIL pays for the car and the insurance.
I looked at DS5's online page and found pictures of her and her friends
drinking and doing something illegal. It listed oldest BIL's
business as a company that she is affiliated with. I reported
this to MIL and oldest BIL. Their response was that when confronted,
DS5 refused to go to church, and they'd rather ruin the business that
keeps them running than risk her turning her back on the Lord.
My response was, "What about spare the rod, spoil the child?"
There was no comeback to that, but the pictures are still up.
Nice!
Signed - Unbelievably Bad
Parenting
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- redwomanbluestate/Posted: 18-JUN-08
I'm shaking just typing this story. As Comic
Book Guy on the Simpsons would say, I've had the "Worst Weekend
Ever!" On Saturday, my DH was working, and I was home with
the kids, MIL,and GMIL. We are buying GMIL's house, and she
is staying with us. My 2 DSs were having a fight over a video
game, and my youngest DS was crying about it. My oldest DS is
my son from my 1st marriage. I decided that if they couldn't
play without fighting, then I would take the system away from them
both. MIL jumped in (as she always does), and said that it's
not fair to our youngest son, why should he be punished. I said
that this fighting is something that always happens, and I'm handling
it, so it's not up for discussion. MIL then cuddled my youngest
DS and told him that oldest DS is the worst brother ever, in front
of me. I yelled, "Don't talk about my son like that!"
She yelled at me, and then cursed out my oldest DS, my whole side
of the family, and me. She said that she spends so much money
on me and the kids, and I should be grateful for it. I respond
with, "What money? You're a SS/welfare/car-accident mooch!"
She continued being nasty, so I told her to leave the house or I would
call the cops. She turned to GMIL and asked if she could stay.
GMIL said that she would not kick her DD out of her house. So,
I packed up the kids to leave. MIL suddenly got hit with guilt
(probably knowing that I'd complain to DH about it), and wanted me
to stay. I said that under no circumstances would I stay in
the same building as her. My kids went out to the car, and MIL
tried to restrain me. She had a hold of my arms and would not
let me go, and she was shouting at me the whole time. I tried
to shake her off, but I couldn't. I gave her a hard shove to
my side, she fell to the floor, and I headed out of there (the kids
and I didn't even have shoes on). I went to my DH's work to
talk to him about what had happened. He already knew the whole
story, as MIL had called and tattled. I told him that I didn't
like fighting with her, but that I would defend myself if I needed
to. He told me that, under the laws of the state we live in,
because she is 60, I could go to jail for senior abuse, even though
she put her hands on me 1st. I had to promise him that I would
never do that again. Then, he punished my DSs (both of them)
for causing the fight. WTF?!! Normally, my DH is a reasonable
guy, but this was ridiculous. At least MIL and GMIL stayed away
the rest of the weekend. But, is DH right? Can I get arrested
for defending myself against a 60 year old?
Signed - Good Thing She
Didn't Shoot Me
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- redwomanbluestate, 1 of 4 needed/Posted:
16-MAY-08
Allow me to start at the beginning. I met DH
when I was 19. I had a kid, and was divorcing my freak-of-nature
ex-DH. DH was 16, and was a friend of ex-DH. In fact,
MIL was best friends with X-MIL. I know, I know, not the smartest
situation to get into. But, don't worry, it has a happy ending.
MIL has 5 kids, ranging in ages from late 30s to mid-teens.
Once MIL's kids reach the age of 13, she stops raising them.
So, at 16 DH lived with me, since his mom didn't care where he was
or where he stayed. Now, they had recently moved north, and
the only people whom they knew were X-MIL and ex-DH. She didn't
know me from a hole in the ground. But, hey, she didn't have
to feed my DH or make sure that he went to school or worry about having
a roof over his head. So it's all good, right? Basically,
I raised my DH. After we had been dating for about 6 months,
MIL decided that she wanted to be a mom again and wanted DH and me
to move in with her. This infuriated X-MIL. MIL loved
to tell me how to raise my son, because she had geniuses in her family
that tested unbelievably high in IQ tests. If only I would listen
to her, then my son could be a genius, too. Unbeknownst to me,
MIL would call X-MIL and throw it up in her face that 16 year old
DH was more of a man than my 20 year old ex-DH. She also like
to tell X-MIL that she was raising DS for me, and was doing a better
job at it than X-MIL could. So, I was surprised when X-MIL called
DSS on me for child abuse of my son. Apparently, if X-ILs couldn't
have me back, they'd at least get my son. Because of the DSS
call, MIL was afraid that DH's youngest sibling, a sister who was
4 years old at the time, would be taken from her. So, she kicked
us out (even though I was paying the bills in her house, along with
DH's maternal grandmother, who was sending money). With nowhere
else to go, DH and I moved in with his GM. It was he!!ish.
It's a cramped 2 bedroom home that no one has taken care of.
The bathtub didn't drain properly, and his uncle, who was suffering
from Parkinson's disease and OCD, lived there as well. No one
was allowed to use the 2 bedrooms upstairs, because that's where the
uncle kept the parts of various TVs and VCRs that he had taken apart.
GMIL slept on the living room couch, and DH, DS, and I slept in the
unfinished cellar. After about 8 months of this, we were kicked
out again. This happened because I refused to provide personal
care services to the uncle (even though I was pregnant and had no
training in handling his meds or physical therapy). We wound
up in our own place. Then, my delightful MIL decided to move
back up north. She moved in next door to DH and me. More
to come.
Signed - Red Woman, Blue
State
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- redwomanbluestate, 2 of 4 needed/Posted:
17-MAY-08
DH and I have been together for 13 years, married for
3. I dragged my feet on marrying him, despite the fact that
we have kids together, mostly because of his family. MIL is
obsessed with looks. She used to be a beauty queen, and when
she was younger, she was beautiful. But, since then she was
married to 2 terrible husbands, and popped out 5 kids by 3 different
guys. She is also an emotional eater. So, she put on a
lot of weight. She was 5'2" and weighed over 200 lbs.
Her looks obsession transferred over to her children. Her kids
were the best looking, most attractive, and most likely to have anyone
whom they wanted. She loves pointing this out in front of other
people, such as her DILs. Once I had her GCs, she tried to pull
the same bull on them. Every time my kids had a hard time in
school, it was because everyone was jealous of how good looking my
kids were. Hey, my kids are good looking, but being a good person
and getting an education are more important. MIL's DDs are attractive,
but because of their looks, they never graduated from high school.
In fact, none of MIL's kids have. But, lately, the DDs have
put on a lot of weight, and haven't given MIL something to brag about.
So, what's a welfare collecting, looks-obsessed family mooch to do?
Why, you get Medicaid to pay for you to get gastric bypass surgery!(For
those of you who don't know, that's the surgery that helps you lose
a ton of weight fast.) Now MIL is down to my size, and is much
smaller than her DDs. She loves to give her DDs and DILs her
old "fat" clothes, as we are now closer to that size than
she is, and she delights in making fat jokes at our expense.
So, instead of getting upset, I've decided to have fun with this.
Whenever she comes around (which is almost every day, unfortunately),
I make sure that I have sweets, and my dear MIL is always offered
some (after all, that's only polite, teehee). I think that in
1 year's time I can have her back to her old fat self. Is that
wrong of me? LOL!!
Signed - Welfare Collecting,
Looks-Obsessed Family Mooch
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- redwomanbluestate, 3 of 4 needed/Posted:
17-MAY-08
I was just reading some of IHateHer's stories about
her MIL giving her used clothes as presents, and it reminds me of
my dear MIL. She also has a lovely habit of going to food pantries
and getting used clothing and food there, and giving them to us.
The food is never something that we would eat, and we have our own
food, so I don't know what that's all about. And, the clothes
are always waaay too big for us. It's like she is trying to
play this never-ending fat joke on us. And, God forbid you should
reject her presents, because that makes you an . . .
Signed - Ungrateful Snob!
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- redwomanbluestate, 4 of 4 needed/Posted:
17-MAY-08
Yay, 4th submission from me! Now I get my own
Frequent Fry-her! I was going to tell you now about how MIL
makes a living. My MIL has 5 kids: Number 1, who is in
his late 30s now and single, # 2, who is in his mid-30s now, married,
and expecting his 1st child with his wife, # 3, who is in her mid-30s
and living with long-term BF, my DH, #4, who is in his late 20s and
has 4 kids, and #5, who is 16. The oldest 3 kids have the same
dad. My DH has a different dad, and little sister has still
another dad. MIL has only been married to the dads of the oldest
3 and the youngest girl. When she was married to her 1st DH,
she worked 3 jobs to support him and the kids, while he did nothing.
She continued to work this way after she divorced him until she met
DH #2. Then she divorced DH #2, when she was in her early 40s,
right after she had #5. Then, she discovered welfare and disability
checks. She hasn't worked since. In the state where we
live, you can only collect welfare for 2 years in a 5 year period.
So, MIL collects welfare for #5, then tried to have #5 claimed disabled
due to asthma. Meanwhile, #5 is competing and winning in national
martial arts tournaments! That child doesn't sound disabled
to me! When that didn't work, she discovered the art of the
car accident. She has gone through 5 cars in 5 years.
Every time she gets a new car, she has an accident and sues someone.
Because of all of her "accidents", she is now collecting
disability for herself, and lives off of her lawsuits. But,
the thing is that she isn't getting a lot when she sues, so to make
up the difference between her living expenses and her checks, she
bums money off of her mother (who's on a fixed income), child #1,
and #3 (whose BF makes a lot of money). She's tried to bum off
of DH and me, but with 4 kids we are just getting by, and I put a
quash on that. The sad thing is that she is teaching #5 to live
like this as well. Child #5 doesn't go to school, but has a
car and a cell phone. She just bums money off of GM, #1, and
#3, just like MIL. Oh, and let's not forget that when #1 goes
all over the country for business, he takes MIL and #5 with him, all
expenses paid. And, when #3 goes to swanky vacation spots for
the summer, or on a cruise, MIL and #5 go along for free, too.
Meanwhile, DH and I are lucky if we can scrape together enough money
to take the kids camping in a tent for a week during the summer.
If anyone complains about the free vacations and the way #5 is materially
spoiled, MIL cries that it's only fair, because she doesn't have a
dad. So, apparently, we all have to pay the price because she
couldn't keep her 2nd marriage together. Oh well. At least
my kids have learned the value of hard work, and won't expect family
members to pay their way. They'll wind up being better people
for it.
Signed - We All Have To
Pay The Price
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