Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- sickandtired 1 of 4 /Posted: 27-NOV-06
One day I was driving home from work when my
DH called me. He said that he was over at his mom's house.
His stepfather had called him and needed help with DH's mom.
They were getting a divorce at the time. He said that he had
gone over to get some things, and she was all calm. When he
came over, she just started flipping out. He said that it was
like she was possessed by the devil himself. Keep in mind, this
is a man whom I often call "Saint_______", because I think
so highly of him. He is one of the most caring people I know
(until a stunt he recently pulled to try to get his wife, DH's mom,
access to our DD). He doesn't accuse people of things they don't
do, or try to cause a fuss. If he said something like that,
he really thought it. Anyway, my DH rushed over there (he is
a police officer in our town). He got close to her and looked
in her eyes. He knew within 6 seconds what was going on - meth.
Just days before this, she had baby-sat for our DD. When her
DH came home from work (they were trying to live together then), she
was sick on the couch, curled up in a ball, and our DD was in the
recliner watching TV by herself. He took her to the doctor,
thinking that she was really sick. The doc told him what he
thought then (possibly meth), and wanted to test her. She refused.
No one told us. Then, she was supposed to watch our DD overnight
the following day (the day after the incident where my DH suspected
it), so we could go on an overnight trip for his birthday. Now
his mom was threatening suicide. He took the bull by the horns
and did his duty. He called for mental health assistance, and
had her admitted to the psych ward of the area hospital. Of
course, there were blood or urine tests were run. Several other
prescription substances showed up. DH finally booted her, but
SIL still lets her baby-sit her kids. Sad.
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- sickandtired 2 of 4 /Posted: 29-DEC-06
My DH was in Iraq in the months preceding our
wedding. One of my bridal showers was held in a banquet room
off a local bowling alley. They did that game where the bride
leaves and everyone has to answer questions about what she is wearing,
etc. When I left the room, I was going to go grab a beer at
the bar. My MIL, in front of all 30 or so guests, spouted off,
"Don't let her go to the bar, we'll never see her again."
Keep in mind, I was 22. I was a graduate student at the time,
completing college with honors (and having some fun doing it).
When my DH left for Iraq, I got a night job at a local liquor store
and tended to go for a beer or 2 after work with people whom I worked
with. Seriously, we only got out of work with 1 or 2 hours of
bar time left, even less before last call, which was 1/2 hour before
that. So there was less than 1.5 hours of drinking time.
We would go and split 2 or 3 pitchers (between 4 or 5 people) and
call it quits. This only happened 2 or 3 times each week.
I was in school during the day and working in the evenings.
I was so embarrassed that she said that in front of all those people
(ILs who barely knew me)!!!
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- sickandtired 3 of 4 /Posted: 3-JAN-07
My MIL is psychotic. She and my FIL got
divorced 25 years ago. DH and I have been married for 3.5 years.
FIL was pretty much not involved in DH's life. They really don't
even know each other. My DH, until lately, has been very bitter
toward his father, and very hurt. I even saw him (this is a
hard-nosed, no-nonsense veteran of two wars and a police officer we're
talking about here) cry when he talked about his father. "Why
doesn't my dad give a sh!t about me? He didn't even call me
when I got home from the war!" It made me cry. Whenever
DH would be upset about things that happened in his combat experiences,
MIL would say, "You have to overcome this and be the father that
you never had. Your father didn't care and didn't want a relationship
with you. I raised you by myself (she was actually only unmarried
about 2 years), and I will hate your father until the day I die.
He abandoned you kids", etc. I wanted to slap her then
and say, "What does this have to do with Iraq or Kosovo, and
why don't you stop kicking him while he's down?!?!?!?"
Anyway, in a recent blowup she said to him, "Your wife would
love your dad more than she likes me." I told her that
she was a vindictive, manipulative b!tch, and how sick she must be
to use 25 years of her son's personal anguish to drive a wedge between
the two of us!!!!!!
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- sickandtired 4 of 4 /Posted: 4-JAN-07
My MIL's second DH has been enduring her for
about 24 years. Most of our holidays are spent with his family
(her father lives far away and there is no contact there, and her
mother and stepfather are deceased). She has just one sibling
and usually isn't speaking to him. Anyway, we usually spend
the holidays with SFIL's family. They are great people, as is
he, and I feel truly proud and honored to be a part of that family.
They're the kind who would give you the shirts off their backs in
subzero weather, but still respect boundaries. They don't believe
that if they help you, then you owe them. I love them.
Anyway, my MIL usually shows up three hours late, or not at all.
We all live in the same population 3,000 town, so everyone is pretty
much within 2 miles of DH's step-GPs' home. His mother will
either be sick that day, or she'll say, "Well, I just haven't
got around yet." Usually, she doesn't show, but makes her
DH leave the gathering to take her a plate of food (she doesn't cook,
except for easy-mac, ramen noodles, or pudding - oh, and the pills
that she pops). Unfortunately, the pill thing isn't a joke.
She carries a gallon sized resealable bag full of prescription drugs
in her purse, and always offers her goods to people when they don't
feel well (i.e., vicodin for a headache, no kidding). Sick.
One Christmas, we all met for breakfast like always, between 8 or
9. GM would have a whole breakfast feast laid out. She's
great. Anyway, the younger grandkids were all (actually very
patiently) waiting to open presents, but "mamaw" wasn't
there yet. So, we called her. She said, "Oh, I'm
just getting in the bath. It's going to be a while."
So, an hour went by (now, she was 3 hours late), so we called again.
She said, "Just tell the kids to wait a little while longer,
I'll be there in a little bit" It was about an hour later
when she showed up. SIL (her kids are the little ones) acted
like it was no big deal, that's just her mom. I felt bad for
those kids. This is a regular occurrence. But, when her
brother doesn't show up to something, she and SIL scream and disown
him. She will say, "How can you miss MY grandkid's _______?"
"How can you miss MY kid's _______?" "How come
you didn't do ________ for MY _________?" It's all MY_____
MY______ MY_______ ,with no regards to how it made the grandkids or
kids feel (which they usually don't make a big deal about it).
She's probably the most selfish person I've ever met.
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