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Age: 28    MILAge: 40 Something

frequent fry her - squidofthefuture Frequent Fry Her TM - squidofthefuture/Posted: 12-SEP-09
DH had a scare a couple of months ago, and thought he was having a heart attack.  He left work and went to the emergency room.  I knew it must have been bad, because he is not the type to go to the doctor for anything.  It turned out to be nothing serious, and he got to go home from the hospital the next evening.  Even though the ILs knew he was in the hospital, possibly with heart problems, they never even called him to find out if he was OK.  My mother called 3 times to check on him, and my father called 2 times, but his own parents didn't care enough to call even once.

        Signed - How Can They Be Such Jerks?
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frequent fry her - squidofthefuture Frequent Fry Her TM - squidofthefuture/Posted: 27-NOV-03
Last summer I had finally gotten tired of all the BS, so I told DH that I would no longer be going to his parents' house to visit.  I never asked him to stop, I just refused to go.  That summer and fall we went through a very rough time, and actually split up for a while.  We later realized that we had too much going for us to let the problems that we were having ruin our relationship.  We made a new commitment to each other, and have been going strong ever since.  Recently, DH told me that the whole summer when I was not accompanying him to visit his parents, MIL and SIL were constantly telling him that I was cheating with SIL's ex.  At first, he would tell them that I would not do that, but after months of this, they managed to put doubts in his head.  He says now that this was a big part of the problems that we had last year.  He just hadn't wanted to believe that his own mother and sister would try to cause trouble like that.  He had known for some time that they would do little things, but this was major.  At one time, MIL even told him, "You really need to just pack your bags and leave her, because you should not have to put up with that kind of thing."  I am just at a loss as to how they can be like that.  No, our relationship wasn't perfect, but they knew that I made him happy.  Even during the rough times, my own mother just hoped that we would be able to work things out, but MIL and SIL were plotting to split us up, even during the good times.  During the time that we were apart, they let him in on the little things that they had done all along, thinking that I was out of the picture, so they could show him how they had "helped".  Little did they know that the things they told him were part of what convinced him that we deserved another chance.  As I mentioned in one of my other stories, he has know broken off all contact with his immediate family and things have been so much better between us.  We are expecting a baby in May, and right now we're trying to decide whether to reestablish contact with them after the baby is born.  We haven't made a decision yet.  But we have decided that if we do start speaking to them again, we will sit down with them and let them know that their lies and manipulating will not be tolerated this time around, and that if they want a relationship with us, they will respect our relationship as husband and wife.

        Signed - Tired of the Crap

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frequent fry her - squidofthefuture Frequent Fry Her TM - squidofthefuture/Posted: 30-SEP-03
When my husband told his parents that he was going to ask me to marry him, his mother's reaction was, "Oh God, she's pregnant!"  He told her no, but she refused to believe that there could be any other reason why her son would want to marry me.  She watched me like a hawk for signs that I was hiding a pregnancy, until 9 months had passed.  Now that we've been married for 3 years, I actually am pregnant.  But, luckily I don't have to deal with MIL, because DH severed ties with his family a few months ago after finally getting tired of their manipulating and lies.

        Signed - Married For Love

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frequent fry her - squidofthefuture Frequent Fry Her TM - squidofthefuture/Posted: 13-AUG-03
My husband recently asked his parents for help getting a loan.  We just bought a house a year ago, so we have a large amount of debt.  We didn't have the greatest credit, even before that, due to several hundred thousands of dollars of medical bills that my husband is still disputing with the insurance company.  Well, the in-laws said that they would help, and my husband was very happy.  Knowing these people from an outsider's point of view, I warned my husband not to get his hopes up until the papers were actually signed.  They kept stalling about it.  And, then, they finally told hubby that they could not help him, because his sister might find out and be upset that they helped him after they would not help her with buying a vehicle.  His sister sits at home and does nothing but complain about how she has no money.  She is so far behind on trailer and land payments that she is about to lose everything.  It is funny that she and her husband are so poor, but they can still manage to have a new computer, a game system with at least $300 worth of games, a new DVD player, etc., etc.  I can understand them not wanting to take a chance with her.  My husband is the hardest working man that I know.  He has completely turned his life around in the 5 years since I met him.  The only time he has ever missed work is when he was so sick that the boss sent him back home when he showed up, and one other time this winter when we had a blizzard that dumped 4 ft of snow and it was impossible to get out.  He has always helped his parents out, even buying his mother a car before he was 21.  There is practically zero risk for them.  I am positive that MIL is behind the sudden change.  FIL said yes immediately, but then, as soon as MIL found out, the stalling began.  She has always favored SIL anyway, and I am sure that she is upset that FIL would dare to make the decision to help my husband after they didn't help SIL.  They are going to buy property for SIL if she gets thrown out of her place for not paying land/trailer rent.  So much for the excuse of not helping hubby because they won't help his sister.

        Signed - No, They're Not Obligated, But

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frequent fry her - squidofthefuture, 1 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - squidofthefuture, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 22-JUN-03
My MIL started out on her quest to remove me from her son's life well before we ever got married.  She took great pleasure in telling tales intended to cause me to doubt the relationship and/or my then boyfriend's character.  One night, I was talking to him on the phone.  He was supposed to come to my house that night, but he called to say that he couldn't make it.  This was fine with me.  His mother overheard.  He then decided to scrap his other plans and come see me, but never called back to say that he would be there.  His mother still assumed that he was not going to be with me.  Naturally, the next day, while he was at work, she called to tell me about how he had been out with another woman and how she just thought I should know what was going on.  I wasn't sure whether to be angry or to laugh my butt off.  At the time when this other woman was supposedly picking him up at his mother's house, he was here with me and stayed here the entire night.  Another time, she called to let me know that he was with a friend whom she didn't care for, and she wanted to tell me some stories about how the two of them had gotten into trouble with the law.  I knew that my husband had a rough past, but I felt that it was his decision whether or not to tell me about it.  She was irate when I refused to listen to her stories.  I told her that it was between her son and me, and that I would not hear the stories from anyone but him.

        Signed - I'm ***So*** Sure She Just Wanted To Help

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frequent fry her - squidofthefuture, 2 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - squidofthefuture, 2 of 4 needed/Posted: 9-JUL-03
My husband really likes eagles, and he collects items with eagles on them - figurines, etc.  At our housewarming, MIL gave us an eagle statue.  It was fiber-optic, yet still would have been tasteful if not for the fact that it was perched on top of what looked like a pile of whipped topping with blue highlights.  It was decorated with pink rosebuds and gold stars.  And, not to mention, 8 pounds of iridescent glitter.  Oh, and it was clutching a glitter accented Confederate flag in its talons.

        Signed - Still Picking Glitter Off of Everything, After A Year

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frequent fry her - squidofthefuture, 3 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - squidofthefuture, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 10-JUL-03
My husband's parents never really bought him anything when he was a kid.  He had to work from the time that he was very young, and if he wanted anything, he had to get it himself.  Now, I understand not spoiling kids, but we're talking about not giving him so much as a toy, and he had to work to pay for toys when he was 10 or younger.  When he got to junior high, he had to work to buy his own clothes.  These people are not poor.  They live quite comfortably, and to them, writing a check for a thousand dollars is nothing.  DH and I are by no means rich, but we get by and we are happy.  Our son wants a dirt bike because DH has one.  We decided that he is getting old enough, and we started saving money so that he can get one for a birthday present next year.  My husband's sister told us that after MIL found this out, she said, "What the he!! does that boy need a bike for?  They're just wasting their money."  This made DH and me so mad.  Just because she didn't think that she should ever have to buy her kids anything (oh, correction, SIL got anything she wanted and still does), that doesn't mean that's how we raise our kids.  What we do with our money is none of her business.

        Signed - Keep Your Nose Out of My Bank Account

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frequent fry her - squidofthefuture, 4 of 4 needed
Frequent Fry Her TM - squidofthefuture, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 9-AUG-03
I had an older car that needed some work done.  It was still an excellent car though.  MIL did not think so, and kept hounding us to quit driving that "junk" and to buy a car that they were selling for some friends of theirs.  Finally, she was getting on my husband about it so much that I told him that we would just buy the car because I didn't want him in the middle of it.  At the time, my DH had just gotten back to work after being laid off for 6 months, so we were a little short of cash.  MIL told us that she would pay for the car and then we could just pay her back a little at a time whenever we had some extra.  I should have known better.  It took us a good while to get back on our feet, and a year later we still owed $300.  My husband and I talked to his mother and told her that we would get the money to her as soon as possible.  She told us not to worry about it and to take as long as we needed.  Then, hubby's sister called to tell us that MIL was telling everyone in the family, and all of her friends, that we would not pay her back, even though we only owed "such a small amount".  That "small amount" to her was a lot to us right then.  Needless to say, we were furious that she was being so nice to us while calling us deadbeats behind our backs.  As soon as we got our tax refund check, my husband and I drove up to her house.  He took $300, laid it on her table in front of her, said, "Here's your money, bye," and walked out.  He got in to the car and told me to drive.  As we pulled out of the driveway she ran out on the porch and kept saying, "But I told you to take as long as you need!  You don't have to pay me now."  By the way, the car we bought from her was the biggest piece of junk that I ever drove.  The transmission and starter went out on it before a year was up.  My so-called junker (a Mustang) is still going strong.

        Signed - Deadbeat DIL

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