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Mother-In-Law Mall
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and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
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Frequent
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Waiting Patiently
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- waiting patiently, 1 of 4 needed
/Posted: 10-JAN-03
SIL is getting married soon. The wedding is a
1 hour plane trip for us, and costs approximately $200. A lot
of dosh for us. But, before my DH and I had even had a chance
to work out whether could we go, etc., etc., MIL had already said
that DH could go (she will help), but I couldn't. She also had
the audacity to say that we can't take our children!!! At first,
I thought that it must be a "child free" wedding, but when
we finally got the invite last week, it was to Mr. and Mrs. X, and
family. No matter how hard it is going to make things financially
for us, I am going to get there (even if I have to hock something).
I want the satisfaction of showing MIL that we can do it ourselves,
and she has no right to tell us what we can afford to do.
Signed - Sick Of Her!!!
( I
want my own Frequent
Fry Her TM
Page )
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- waiting patiently, 2 of 4 needed
/Posted: 10-JAN-03
My birthday last year fell on Sunday anniversary day.
I thought it would be nice to invite MIL and FIL to the children's
first official anniversary. I had the misconception that we
may be able to form some sort of relationship if I made the first
move. I have been doing this for the last umpteen years.
So far, I have gotten nowhere, but not through lack of trying.
Well, after all the singing was over and books presented, MIL came
to me and handed me a plastic bag. She said, "Happy Birthday.
Here is your present. It is the largest size the shop had.
I think it will fit you." She also said, "I chose
bright colors, as your clothes always look so drab" Auugghh!!!
I like my blue, black and lilac clothing. The colors suit me
a lot better than the hot pink and salmon colored tracky dacks and
tops she gave me (they looked horrendous!!), on top of fitting me
better than the clothes she brought (that were several sizes too big!!).
This was coming from the woman who deliberately wore red to our wedding
so that she clashed with my mother, who wore soft pink.
Signed - Auugghh!!!
( I
want my own Frequent
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- waiting patiently, 3 of 4 needed
/Posted: 11-JAN-03
Due to a medical condition I have, DH and I had to
start trying to have children as soon as possible if we were going
to be able to conceive. So, after we were married, we thought,
"Why not?" We were extremely blessed to fall pregnant
1 month after our wedding. We announced it straight away, as
it was a small miracle to fall pregnant (only a 15% chance of doing
so). A week later, SIL told everyone that she was also pregnant.
We had 6 days between our due dates. Leading up to the impending
arrivals, I was extremely ill with a kidney condition, and was hospitalized
in great pain for several weeks. However, MIL was always telling
me how ill SIL was with gestational diabetes. Even in the hospital,
she told me how lucky I was not to be sick like SIL!!! Knowing
that our dates were close together, we decided that it might be safest
to tell the family our chosen baby names so there would be no duplication.
We did this at a family dinner. BIL scoffed at our choices,
saying that they sounded weird. All through the pregnancies,
MIL and SIL were saying that they were having a boy and that we were
having a girl. Our scan showed a boy, and they were insistent
it was wrong (to the point of MIL knitting girl's cardigans and dresses!!).
SIL wanted the first boy in the family, she already had a girl, and
was so determined that her baby would be born early, and would be
a boy. As things happened, my medical condition lead to high
BP and an induction. We were blessed with a beautiful baby boy.
Three days later, SIL had a baby girl. MIL came into the hospital
and told us about SIL's baby, telling us that she was the most beautiful
baby in the world, although ours was attractive. She also said
that we stole SIL's baby names!! She had wanted the name we
chose for our son for her baby!!! Even today, they tell us that
we spoilt their name choices, how gorgeous their children are, how
clever they are, and that ours will never be good enough for them.
So, I try to limit contact with them, although it is hard on DH.
But, he is sick of being hurt by them as well. Why do families
have to be so cruel???
Signed - Hurt 2 Many Times
( I
want my own Frequent
Fry Her TM
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- waiting patiently, 4 of 4 needed
/Posted: 11-JAN-03
My DH and I were college sweethearts. After a
3 year "temporary" separation, we got back together.
Within 6 months, we were engaged and planning our wedding. MIL
was pleased that we got back together, until we announced our engagement.
She thought it was too soon. Despite the fact that I am a part-time,
self employed seamstress, MIL said that she would make my dress as
a gift to me. After awhile, I paid off the fabric, which had
been on layaway. She picked up the materials. The dress
was to be hand embroidered, by me, in a Celtic love knot, so I asked
MIL if she could have it finished a month prior to the wedding to
give me time to finish it. She was fine with this, as she was
also making the bridesmaid's dresses. The date was looming close,
and I had to keep on her back to get the dresses finished. A
week before the wedding, she finally announced that my dress was ready
for embroidering!!! So, instead of relaxing and enjoying the
run up to our wedding, I was busy sewing and trying not to panic.
I wasn't worried about the actual wedding, it was, "Will my dress
be finished in time?" The train couldn't be completed until
it was embroidered. For the 2 days prior to the wedding, I was
up for 48 hours, sewing nonstop. Even my bridesmaids helped
the night before the wedding!!! When we were getting our hair
and makeup done at the hairdressers, we were still sewing and beading!!
It is in the wedding video!!! To top things off, the bridesmaids
dresses weren't pressed. She had left instructions on how to
do it, so my chief bridesmaid followed the instructions and proceeded
to press away. The iron setting that she had instructed us to
use was too hot, and the iron went straight through the fabric panel!!!!
Luckily enough, my MIL had ordered way too much fabric, so my bridesmaid
was able to fashion a panel from the meters of leftovers. After
the wedding, we discovered that MIL had been telling the guests what
had happened with the dress, and was pointing out which dress it was,
stating that the seams were not even, and the hem was hanging.
The only problem was that she had pointed out a dress that she had
made!!!! All in all, with all the repairs and embroidering,
I was one hour late for my wedding. I had to be sewn into my
dress, and it is still hanging in my closet, unfinished. My
bridesmaids and I had absolutely no sleep the 48 hours prior to the
wedding, so we were exhausted and drained (I fell asleep the minute
we left the church!!). After the reception, MIL pushed a piece
of paper into my hand. It was a bill for all the thread and
notions that she used in the dresses, right down the very last inch
of thread and buttons. Oh, and she tallied it right down the
very last cent. She demanded payment the week that we returned
from our honeymoon. She hasn't improved since. I am still
waiting patiently for a "human" MIL, now 5 years later.
Signed - She Hasn't Improved
( I
want my own Frequent
Fry Her TM
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