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frequent fry her - Whenwillitend, 1 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - Whenwillitend, 1 of 4 needed /Posted: 8-AUG-02
I hope you can follow this.  It is very bizarre.  Recently, MIL's MIL died.  She hated the woman, and did not speak to her for about 30 years.  She didn't speak to her SILs either.  After the luncheon, I was behind MIL when I saw her giving her SIL a HUGE hug, and then a HUGE kiss.  Immediately afterward she proclaimed, "Now we are friends."  I nearly wanted to vomit.  Earlier during the luncheon, I saw MIL giving the other SIL, whom she hadn't spoken to in 30 years, a huge hug.  MIL accused this same SIL of intentionally ripping her dress at her daughter's wedding about 10 years ago.  MIL has bad mouthed these people for as long as I have been married to her son, yet now she actually wants to be friends with them???  Is it me??

        Signed - Now We Can Be Friends???

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frequent fry her - Whenwillitend, 2 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - Whenwillitend, 2 of 4 needed /Posted: 10-AUG-02
For years I have heard MIL talk poorly about the "other" DIL (DH's brother's wife).  I am not stupid, and I know for certain that throughout the years, when I was not around, MIL has trashed me in the same manner.  The craziest thing is that the other DIL kisses MIL's @ss to such an extreme, it is nauseating.  For example, I don't ask MIL to watch my children for reasons too numerous to list here.  I could write a book on that subject alone.  MIL has made comments about the fact that I never let her watch my kids.  Recently, one of my children got hurt while under the supervision of a sitter who we have used since the children were born.  I was absolutely sick over the fact that my child had gotten hurt.  When MIL saw my child with her black and blue mark during a family dinner (a dinner that I could not get out of), MIL didn't say that she felt badly.  Instead, she took the opportunity to say directly to me, "Oh, now you realize that YOUR precious children can get hurt no matter WHO you have watching them."  But, then the @Ss-kisser DIL immediately asked MIL (not even 2 seconds after that comment) if she could watch HER child that very evening!!!!!!!  I am not paranoid, but it almost felt like some kind of conspiracy between the two of them.  I can't stand that family, and I wish things were different.  After years of marriage, I can assure you there is no way to get around their fakeness and back-stabbing other than to avoid them.

        Signed - Backstabbed Again

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frequent fry her - Whenwillitend, 3 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - Whenwillitend, 3 of 4 needed /Posted: 10-AUG-02
I try to avoid MIL as much as possible.  I have tried to do my best to get along with her for years, and I have found it best to minimize contact.  However, I MUST occasionally see her for "family" gatherings.  Recently there was a dinner at her house where she served spaghetti.  No big deal, except when the bowl was passed to me, there was none left in it.  When I mentioned that there was none left, no one at the table seemed to hear me.  DH was busy taking care of our children at this time, since he and I have to eat in shifts because no one offers to help with our children, and I get blamed that the family doesn't know our children because I never bring them to visit.  And unfortunately, it is true that the kids don't know the family, but it is because of times that MIL has encouraged them to "pick their nose" in the past (I could go on and on, but I am getting off track).  I don't allow my children to spend much time with MIL, so DH was away from the dinner table when I mentioned there was no food left.  Without a care, MIL went out on the front porch to have a cigarette, and never mentioned a word about the fact that I had no dinner at her house.  On the ride home, I asked DH to stop at a fast food restaurant.  I will eat before I go to dinner at that house again.

        Signed - Just When I Thought It Couldn't Get Any Crazier

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frequent fry her - Whenwillitend, 4 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - Whenwillitend, 4 of 4 needed /Posted: 10-AUG-02
I recently had a very bad upper respiratory infection (chest cold).  MIL apparently had one too.  I try to speak to the woman as little as possible, so I had no idea.  MIL's cold supposedly traveled into her ears, and she got an ear infection.  This caused her to have loss of balance, and she had vertigo as a result.  Recently, at a funeral, MIL decided to inform me (she is giving out medical advice these days) that I have the SAME thing that she had, and if I don't see a doctor soon and get put on an antibiotic, I too will have vertigo and lose my balance.  I told her that I had already gone to my doctor, and he informed me that I had a viral infection, and antibiotics won't do anything for viral infections.  He said that they only work on bacterial infections.  MIL totally ignored what I said, and she went on to say, "You need to get on an antibiotic or you will suffer from the same thing I have."  DUH.  Did she not HEAR me?  She said it like she was wishing I'd get it.

        Signed - Medical Advice from MIL

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