Worst gift: I was dreading
finding out what I would receive from my dear old MIL for Christmas.
In the past, she has given me hideous shirts, or pants which are
not my style. I am 33 years old. She has given me polyester
pants, or other styles of clothes which are not flattering to someone
who is overweight (such as horizontal striped shirts - making sure
they would be too small). Last year, I made a statement in
front of her, my DH, and SIL that I'd rather people didn't buy me
clothes, since they usually don't fit right, and I like to buy my
own clothes. I didn't think that the way I said it was rude.
I know a lot of people feel the same way (they'd rather buy their
own clothes). When my SIL opened her presents from MIL (I
was not present of course), MIL said nastily, "I don't buy
stuff like this for DIL, because she says I don't have any taste
in clothes." My SIL told me about it the next day.
She and I are friends. By the way, I received a housecoat,
which did fit, and make-up, which was actually nice. The colors
went well with my complexion (as if she gave it a thought).
I thought she was on a roll, until I received a pair of slippers.
They do not fit me right. I wear a size larger than she gave
me. She even asked me, recently, what size shoes I wear.
I am giving the slippers to my sister who wears that size.
My DH and I gave MIL something which we know she collects.
She did not even acknowledge it, say thank you, or kiss my butt
- whatever. I think that what we did for her last year was
easier. We gave her and my FIL a restaurant gift card.
Sorry this is so long. I just needed to vent!
Signed - Would Rather
Just Have A Gift Certificate!
Worst gift: My husband
and I got married 5 months ago. My in-laws agreed (with my
parents) that they would pay for the wedding pictures. Well,
they didn't borrow enough money to pay for the pictures. And,
so, they put the debt on us. We held out. As a cop-out,
they paid for the pictures as our big Xmas gift! What a jip!
Signed - What A Jip!
RESPONSE: What A Jip!
Um, I know you will get posts apologizing for a negative post, but
don't you think you are being a tad unfair? If your in-laws
had to borrow money for pictures, then they are probably not very
well off, and it was probably a hardship for them to pay for them.
It sounds like you should be grateful that they made an effort to
give you the pictures for Christmas. Although I suppose it's
possible that you left out something, I think you should understand
that not everyone has the means to pay for expensive weddings or
the means to pay back large loans.
RESPONSE: What A Jip!
I'm a little dismayed that your ILs had to go into debt to pay for
your wedding photos (which is quite a generous gift). And,
when they finally were able to pay for it, that you seem feel gypped.
If they picked the photographer, and went knowingly into debt, that
is one thing. If you picked the photographer, and forced them
into debt, that is a whole other ball of wax. I would pay
for the photos myself rather than force my ILs into debt.
RESPONSE: What A Jip!
They had to get a loan to pay for the pictures, and you're b!tching
that it was a "jip". Sorry for the harshness, but
you should really be glad that they gave you a dime. You sound
very unappreciative!!!!
This is not a joke.
This is for real. My fiancé and I were living together
for 7 years. Finally, we decided to get married. Our
love story was known to everyone around us as the strong and true
love. WE both came from different religions, so the situation
got worse when my MIL found out that the relationship was turning
out to be serious, and was leading to marriage. When I started
preparing for the marriage, she disagreed with me on practically
every single detail of the marriage arrangement, including the number
of guests, photographer, wedding dress, etc. In addition,
she started nagging my fiancé that I was not suitable for
him. She said that he would find someone better than me (especially
since we both came from different religions). She started
to pinpoint my attitude, my make-up, my dress style, my everything.
This led my fiancé to a point where he broke up with me,
and the wedding was put off. Forever. Later, I got to
know what she had in mind: To marry her niece to her son (my
fiancé). This is my story of my MIL who destroyed my
life and my love. I agree with the fact that my fiancé
gave her an ear to listen, but she was wicked enough to take that
for granted. Story ended.
Signed - Broken Hearted
RESPONSE: Broken Hearted
Good riddance. It saved you a lot in terms of divorce later
on.
RESPONSE: Broken Hearted
I am so sorry you are broken hearted. But, in the end, you
are better off not marrying your fiancé. You would
have had a lifetime of misery. His mother sounds like she
would have interfered with every aspect of your married life, and
your fiancé. would have done nothing to stop her. He
is a true blue momma's boy, and you deserve much better! Believe
it or not, there is someone out there for you who will love and
cherish you, and put you before all others (including his mother)!
You will find that someone soon! Keep believing in yourself,
and you will find your soul mate someday. In the meantime,
good riddance to your wimpy, spineless boyfriend and his evil mother!
RESPONSE: Broken Hearted
I am really sorry you went through this. It is sad that there
are mothers for whom the real happiness of their children is not
a priority. At least now, when you are separated from your
fiancee, you won't have to deal with her for the rest of your life.
It is better to have a broken engagement than a broken marriage.
Good luck to you.
RESPONSE: Broken Hearted
If your fiancé. was that spineless, then you're better off
without him!!!!!!!!!!!
RESPONSE: Broken Hearted
You have every right to feel angry. But, don't fret.
She will get what's coming to her in bad karma, if not other consequences.
My MIL is the most cunning,
and worst kind of person I have ever met. She is dependent
on us financially. Yet, she once told me that she would not
have married her son to me if she knew I was so fat. MY FIL
told me to sell bras and other undergarments to make money.
I hold a master's degree in Computer Science. My marriage
has become dull ever since I have lost any interest in my DH.
We had massive fights. He hit me also, thrice, and blood started
oozing out of my mouth. Ever since, I became violent and started
hitting back. He just keeps quiet, and I hit him like anything.
He then goes out of the house. MIL asked for money from my
parents, but I forbade them to give it to her. Ever since,
she has been a real witch. She told all my cousins, and everybody
else, that my parents did not teach me to cook and clean before
marriage. I have decided not to meet her for the rest of my
life. I have had enough of this suffocating life. I
would rather die. My husband now wishes that I should go to
his parent's place the next time I go to my country. This
is causing lot of tension between us. He says our marriage
won't be possible if I do not compromise. This stuff is so
sickening. It's making me old. I have had enough.
I just pray to god I get out of this mess and start a new life.
Sometimes I wish to go away and start fresh.
Signed - Most Sad Person
RESPONSE: Most Sad Person
You need either some SERIOUS counseling, or a divorce. NOBODY
has a right to raise a hand to their spouse. Get out, and
get out now.
RESPONSE: Most Sad Person
This is a terribly sad story. I think that, maybe, the problem
is more than the MIL. If there is physical violence in the
relationship, you must get out, not retaliate.
RESPONSE: Most Sad Person
Divorce him if you don't have any kids. See a therapist so
that you can make sure that you don't carry on the hurt and abuse
of this relationship into the next one. If you have kids,
then you may want to try counseling first. No marriage can
survive domestic violence without serious intervention. One
with no kids does not call for intervention - it calls for a quick
exit.
RESPONSE: Most Sad Person
You have a very unhealthy marriage, MIL or not. Your DH should
never, EVER hit you. And, you should not be hitting him either
(unless it is in self-defense). You both need some serious
marital counseling. If you really, truly feel you do not want
the marriage to continue, then end it. You have every right
to find happiness of your own. Don't stay in such a volatile
situation any longer.
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