Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- UpHerButt 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 11-APR-02
This is just a general complaint rather than a story.
My MIL is from a very small southern town. She never worked
after she got married. She stayed home and raised three boys.
Fine and good. BUT, she subscribes to the idea that men should
not lift a finger in the house. I don't think my husband ever
had to even take his plate from the table to the sink. She
believes that the husband is the boss and chief, and the wife should
be subservient. This is how she raised my husband!!!!
Fortunately, he has been trainable on this point.
Signed - Fortunately,
He Has Been Trainable On This Point
RESPONSE: Fortunately, He Has Been Trainable On This
Point
Every generation has its own ideals (and ideas
about everything). She is fully persuaded in her beliefs,
and, truthfully, that's okay. Just like it's okay for you
to disagree. However, I am glad that your DH is trainable.
My DH really helps me a lot, and I am so grateful (since we both
work outside of our home). It sounds like you are doing everything
right in getting your DH to help. Your MIL may get a little
jealous of this, so be prepared for it just in case. If she
offers an opinion, stop her in her tracks, and tell her it is not
her place to get in the middle of an agreement that you and your
DH have come together on. She ran her home, and the two of
you will run your home.
RESPONSE: Fortunately, He Has
Been Trainable On This Point
You will have to train your husband to do
things around the house. Tell him how much you love him when
he helps do the dishes. "It turns me on," worked
with my husband. He always does the dishes because I used
a silly little quote.
RESPONSE: Fortunately, He Has Been Trainable On This
Point
I'm sorry, but I have to respond to this.
I hope no one gets angry. Why do the women who write in and
say that after MIL got married, she never worked again? I
guess I'm from the old school. Since I married my DH, I haven't
worked outside of the home. I'm in my early 30s. But
I can say I have worked my butt off in the home. I love my
DH, and he works so hard. I don't want him to come home and
work too. Granted, it would be different if I worked outside
of the home. Have you ever thought that these women feel the
same way as I do?
RESPONSE: Fortunately, He Has Been Trainable On This
Point
My MIL always seems to be worried about whether
I am working, and wants me to stick my kids in daycare. When
I got a part time job, she said, "Oh, now you wont have to
ask for any of DH's money. You will have your own."
I could SCREEEAAAAM!
RESPONSE: Fortunately, He Has Been Trainable On This
Point
Heavens, I think we are living a double life!
I've just responded to your terrible story about your miscarriages
(I'm the one who lost weight!), and just scrolled back to read this
one. MIL was exactly the same with FIL and DH when he lived
at home - she even cleaned their shoes!?!?!? On Sundays at
lunchtime they went to the pub while she cooked the lunch.
Then, in the afternoon, she scrubbed the oven out while they snoozed
the afternoon away. The last time I voluntarily let her in
was when I had come out of the hospital. She offered to come
around to do the housework, ironing, etc., as DH obviously couldn't
do it!! She spent all day cleaning, etc. FIL sat in
an armchair and didn't move - not once. I was so embarrassed.
Like yours, my DH has also been trained. Housework is a joint
venture - he does the bathroom while I vacuum. We cook together,
and go shopping together. MIL cannot/will not understand why
he does this. As she says, "He never did anything at
home."
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- UpHerButt 2 of 4 needed/Posted: 11-APR-02
I am so sick of my MIL that anything she does bothers
me. I don't think I'm unreasonable to want to run over her
for this. The woman talks with her mouth full of food.
It's revolting. Even if she's not talking while she eats,
she makes this sloshing-around noise in her mouth with the food,
and I just want to put a bag over her head. I really cannot
stand this woman.
RESPONSE: I Really Cannot Stand This Woman
Come on, do you really think she sits at the
table and thinks to herself, "I think I'll make revolting noises
and talk with my mouth full just to annoy people"? She
probably doesn't realize that what she's doing is grossing people
out. Give her a break, and find a gentle way to tell her about
her habit. Or just don't eat with her.
RESPONSE: I Really Cannot Stand
This Woman
My MIL also talks with her mouth full.
She also belches loudly at the dinner table, and doesn't excuse
herself. She does not ask for things to be passed to her,
either. She just reaches across the table and gets them herself.
I know how you feel!
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- UpHerButt 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 11-APR-02
I have the misfortune of living directly across the
street from my MIL (who is very nosy to begin with). She is
a gossip, and can contribute nothing to a conversation except some
tidbit about somebody. Anyway, our phone rang at 7 a.m. one
morning. She said that she noticed no lights were on at our
house, and she wanted to make sure we hadn't overslept, because
we had been out so late the night before. Does anyone else
find this bizarre and pathetic? Get a life woman!!!!!!
Quit looking out your living room window to see what we're doing!
RESPONSE: Get A Life Woman!!!!!!
Tell her to get a life, or let your answering
machine take your calls. Or MOVE!
RESPONSE: Get A Life Woman!!!!!!
Your DH needs to step up to the plate and
tell momma to get another hobby!
RESPONSE: Get A Life Woman!!!!!!
I would be looking for a new home with no
for sale signs up in the neighborhood.
RESPONSE: Get A Life Woman!!!!!!
That sounds like something from "Everybody
Loves Raymond". That would drive me crazy too!
RESPONSE: Get A Life Woman!!!!!!
She might be concerned. If that is a
problem, move further away!
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- UpHerButt 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 11-APR-02
I have had three miscarriages over the past four
years. During the third pregnancy, my MIL said to me, "You
are doing so well this time. Last time you did everything
you could against having a healthy pregnancy." When I
subsequently lost that pregnancy, she told me to, "look on
the bright side", but she never enlightened me as to what that
bright side was. This woman is an absolute IDIOT. I
cannot stand her!
RESPONSE: Still Looking For The Bright Side
Tell her to suck eggs! What an idiot!
RESPONSE: Still Looking For The
Bright Side
Tell her to butt out!!! She is an idiot
who should not be allowed to run her mouth.
RESPONSE: Still Looking For The Bright Side
She blamed YOU for a miscarriage? A
miscarriage is the same as losing a child once it is born, in my
opinion. She should be ashamed. I would have blasted
her! B!TCH!
RESPONSE: Still Looking For The Bright Side
Your MIL is being very hard on you.
Make sure she does not control your emotions. Having a miscarriage
is very difficult. Get help, and stay away from that inconsiderate
woman!
RESPONSE: Still Looking For The
Bright Side
I am so sorry for your losses. Your
MIL is a moron. Obviously, she has never suffered any losses.
I also lost several babies before successfully having my DS.
When he was on the way, MIL announced that she was glad we were
out of danger, because SHE could not take another miscarriage.
I don't know what gets into these MILs. Try to ignore her
- just look at her while she is saying something so stupid.
Then, when she is done, just say something like, "Anyway -
," and go off on another subject as if you can't be bothered
with her idiotic and callous comments.
RESPONSE: Still Looking For The Bright Side
Sorry for your loss, and for you facing such
unkindness. I know how you feel. I suffered an ectopic
pregnancy, and ended up having major abdominal surgery because my
tube had ruptured. Consequently, I lost a lot of weight.
MIL said, "It was no bad thing, as you weren't thin, were you?"
It is the only reference she's ever made to the whole episode.
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