Worst gift: My MIL once
gave me her "fat clothes" when I was pregnant. She
brought them over and said, "I think you should be able to
wear these." She totally ignored the fact that she is
almost a foot shorter than I was, and that I weighed almost the
same at the time. I was too stunned to say anything.
They went in the trash, and then I cleaned out the refrigerator.
When I miscarried, she wanted the clothes back. I told her
that I gave them away, that they just didn't fit me right.
Signed - Not Short or
Fat
RESPONSE: Not Short or Fat
Let me tell you that we are not here to please MIL. And, I
know that every woman has this very same problem. So, do what
you do best, and continue that, because you are going to be "you",
no matter what happens.
Worst gift: My MIL has
gone from a size 8, to a size 4, in 3 years. Always the fashionable
type, she has offered her clothes to me, which were just from the
previous catalog. There was no problem, until I had her first
grandchild. She thinks she's too young to be a grandmother
anyway. I had a tough time to begin with, and had to be on
bed-rest the last few weeks. That took me to a size 10, I'm
not complaining. For Christmas, she gave me a new sweater
that was a size 3. Then, she told me that if it didn't fit,
she would keep it and give me $20 to choose something for myself.
Since when can you buy a nice shirt for $20???
Signed - Still Mystified
RESPONSE: Still Mystified
How about getting one of the items from the MIL Mall on this site?
Wouldn't you just love to show it off to Your MIL?
Ok, so DH and I broke
off our steady relationship, but we were still dating. We
had just decided to date other people (mainly because of pressure
from our parents) in order to see if we were really the right ones
for each other. And, we both had fun with other people, but
no one ever came close to the relationship we shared. Anyway,
shortly after, DH's mother moved her family away because of DH and
my relationship. They found out that DH's father had cancer.
And, then I found it out. I was really sad and worried.
I had always liked DH's father, and gotten along with him.
He respected me, and I respected him. But, the cancer didn't
get better, and he died. I got a call from a friend of ours
the night DH's father died. My DH was too upset to speak,
so this woman called - a nice gesture. I began to cry, and
told her to tell him (my now DH) that I would call the next day.
I did, and he asked me to come down to the funeral. I told
him that I would do everything I could to be there. Wonder
of wonders, my father actually agreed to drive me there. I
showed up at the funeral, and MIL was a total bitch. I can
understand her being upset, of course, but the way she treated me
was unacceptable. DH saw me, and his face brightened.
MIL said something really bitter to me, "You've changed who
he is again, as always," and then left. DH and I held
each other for a long time that night, and it was the first time
he ever proposed to me. He was feeling insecure, and I guess
he just decided that was the time, for some reason. There
was no ring or anything, of course. I was fifteen, and he
was seventeen at the time. But I told him yes anyway.
DH and I started calling each other more often after that, and writing
more. MIL intercepted many of the handwritten letters I wrote
him, and told me he wasn't there when I phoned. I later found
out from him that he usually WAS there, and she told him it was
just some magazine of his calling to harass him about something
or another. OK, so these stories aren't that bad yet, but
wait until you hear how she acted after we were officially engaged.
Signed - Not That Interesting
Yet, Just Wait
RESPONSE: Not That Interesting Yet, Just Wait
Please do yourself a favor and make it a long engagement.
I'm young too, and you have no idea how hard a relationship like
that is at your age. I met my DH when I was 16. I am
21 now, and we have a child together. The odds are completely
against young couples. Don't rush into marriage. If
you love him, stay with him. That's great. But you are
so young. Finish school while you still can. Once you
get married and have kids, it is so hard. Just have fun being
young and irresponsible. You can never get your youth back.
Please enjoy it.
OK, I have a lot of
stories to share, as my DH and I have known each other for over
twelve years, and we have been dating for over six. Yes, we
are married now, and we are expecting our first child - a boy.
Let's see, where should I START? Well, MIL never really liked
me all that well to begin with. When DH and I became a romantic
couple instead of just best friends (this happened when I was in
sixth and he was in eighth grade), she flipped totally. We
weren't even doing anything except walking the halls of school together,
and talking for ten minutes under a tree in the school yard after
school. Pretty much the same stuff we did as just best friends,
but we now enjoyed the couple aspect. A couple of years later
we were still dating, and MIL decided that her family needed to
move. They had no reason to. DH's father was making
good money, they liked the town, and they were doing well there.
She said that our hometown was too "stressful" for her.
The only stress in her life was the special relationship DH and
I shared. So, she moved DH three and a half hours away from
me, and then did everything she could to break us up. We had
agreed to have a long distance relationship, and to meet back in
our hometown in five years to get married. She told me that
he was dating other girls, and that I shouldn't bother calling.
When I called him on New Year's to wish him a Happy New Year, I
heard her in the background telling him, "Get off the phone.
Spend time with your family. That girl has taken up enough
of your time." We had barely been on the phone for two
minutes, if that. Anyway, that's not the worst story, but
it is one story of many, many, many stories.
Signed - She's So Insecure
About Her Place In Her Son's Life - She Had To Move The Family Three
And A Half Hours Away?
My MIL is so jealous
of me. She told me from the beginning that I was taking her
"baby" away from her; my husband is her youngest.
We have been together for almost 11 years now, and she has always
tried to get everything I have. I painted my bathroom a certain
way; so she painted hers like it. I started decorating my
kitchen with cows, she started decorating with cows. She thinks
she has to have everything I have - the only problem with it is
that she tries to borrow money from my husband. But, she knows
my husband won't make her really pay it back. So, she always
asks, "Can you get me that and I'll pay you back when I get
paid?" She is always "poor-mouthing", but then
goes and asks for money for silly stuff - not for her bills - just
because she wants what I have! This really aggravates me,
because she is taking advantage of my husband's good nature.
He makes good money, but we should not have to support her just
because she is jealous of all I have. I married him - she
didn't!
Signed - Envied DIL
I just have a quick
question. My MIL treats her two sons (she's twice divorced,
and 52) as if they were her BFs. My DH is, for the most part,
not as likely to get manipulated. But, I was just wondering
- do you think it is a little weird that when she visits her other
son (age 27), she sleeps in the same bed with him? Her friend,
who went with her, sleeps on the floor in his room. My DH
and I think that it is kind of gross, but we would like to know
what all you guys out there think? We look forward to your
opinions!!!!!!
Signed - PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!
RESPONSE: PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!
A little weird? No. Seriously pathological is more like
it. Squick me out big-time. Something seriously Freudian
is going on here.
RESPONSE: PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!
A little weird? No, I think that's sick!
RESPONSE: PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!
That is gross. There is definitely something funny about that!
It sounds like a very insecure woman.
RESPONSE: PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!
Your MIL is f****d up! When your son is 4 years old, and he
just had a nightmare, it's okay for a mother to let him stay in
her bed with her for a few hours. It is NOT OKAY to let a
27 year old sleep with his mother. Doesn't this woman own
a couch?
RESPONSE: PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!
That is SICK and weird. Mom and her friend should sleep in
his bed, and he should sleep on the floor. SO VERY SICK AND
SCARY!
RESPONSE: PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!
Do you really need people to tell you that it's gross? You
already know it.
RESPONSE: PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!
I think she is only one out of many who is twisted regarding her
place as a mom. She has a big problem, and her son has a problem.
And my gosh, who is this "friend"? All of them are
psycho - there is no doubt in my mind. I wouldn't go near
her. And, if you have children, please don't let her EVER
be alone with them for one little tiny minute! She is one
sick puppy!
RESPONSE: PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!
OH MY!! That is creepy as hell! I thought my MIL was
bad enough, living with one son and then the other. At least
they didn't sleep together!
RESPONSE: PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!
Gross is not the word that I would use to describe that. Although
sick, twisted, demented, weird, insane, and creepy come right off
the top of my head!!!!!! EWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!
RESPONSE: PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!
ARE YOU KIDDING?!!!!!! THAT IS WAY WRONG!!!! The problem
here is that the son does not mind. Any full grown man would
know that this was wrong. Where would the woman sleep if there
was a wife or girlfriend there? I can only imagine.
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