Worst gift: For every
birthday, Christmas, Mother's Day, and any other holiday where
a person gives gifts, my MIL gives me the book, "How to
Clean Your House", or, "How to be a Good Mom".
The thing is that she works at a book store, and these books
are error versions only. The first page says "Not
for sale, error edition". So, my thinking is that
she thinks my house is a mess (and it is not) and that I am
not a good mom to my 3 kids (I am). Plus, she gets the
books for free, since they have "errors". What
would you think if your MIL did that? Oh, I should also
say that I get these gifts after I took care of her dying husband
for a year, too. I am not one of her kids, I am her DIL!
Signed - Makes Me
Wonder!
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My MIL lost my husband's
first wife in a car accident. They had two daughters together.
I had two daughters when we were married. Now we have a
daughter together. My MIL has never been very loving to
my older daughters, but now she treats her smallest granddaughter
like dirt on her feet. She always calls to ask about my
husband's older daughters, but she doesn't even mention our little
one (even if she knows that she was sick). She also has
said that our home is my husband and his first wife's home, not
mine (even though I have invested a lot of time, money, and sweat
into its upkeep since we have been married these last seven years).
She also is always talking about how beautiful the first DIL was,
and how beautiful her (and my husband's) children are. I
don't think that I have ever heard her say anything sweet about
our four year old daughter. I barely can stand to be in
the same room with her, but she spends the night here all the
time. My husband ignores her rudeness and says that he doesn't
know what I am talking about.
Signed - Down and Out
In My Own House
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Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Tooth Fairy 3 of 4 /Posted: 2-JUL-03
Here is an update from my August 27th post
signed "I Want What is MINE!". Well, my husband
went to the IL's state to clean out a storage unit that we were
renting. MIL had all of my cameras developed. My thoughts
as to why she took them couldn't have been more correct.
For one, when I was insisting that she give them back she said,
"I was really wanting to develop them for you."
I already knew what she was up to, and was pissed. In the
first place, I was upset that she took them, and, secondly, because
they were for our wedding guests. So, I said, "Thank
you, but I would really like to have them back. I take all
my film to a certain place, and get it on a computer disk, too.
That way, I can email to family and friends." That's
when she straight up refused. When my DH came home from
his trip, he looked excited and said, "Here are the pictures
MIL had developed." It took me about a week to finally
look at them. But, and this was no surprise, they were all
pictures of her friends. And, there was an entire roll of
DH's grandparents eating dinner. There wasn't one picture
of anyone in my family or wedding party, and I am only in the
background of a picture. How nice of her, yeah right!
RESPONSE: Thanks a Bunch!
She's a b!tch, and your DH is a wuss!
RESPONSE: Thanks a Bunch!
Is it too late to annul your marriage?
RESPONSE: Thanks a Bunch!
Ah! The trials and tribulations of marrying a mute! Next time,
marry a real man! They SPEAK UP for their wives!!!
RESPONSE: Thanks a Bunch!
At least you didn't have to pay for the stupid pictures of her
friends. I'd have been annoyed if I'd paid to have the pictures
developed and put onto disk, just to be faced with a load of shots
of people eating.
RESPONSE: Thanks a Bunch!
Maybe it's just PMS on my part, but I could just give your MIL
a good, hard kick in the shins. She annoyed the heck out of me
in your previous post. What a HORRID woman.
RESPONSE: Thanks a Bunch!
You should demand the negatives back and redo them. Make it clear
that she was way out of line, and inform her that if she doesn't
feel that you and your family are important enough to be in your
own pictures, then you are not important enough to see her at
all. And, she is unwelcome at your home. You shouldn't be forced
to spend time with someone who is that disrespectful to you.
RESPONSE: Thanks a Bunch!
What a MOOOO! I would phone your own friends and family and see
what photos they have taken. Get copies, then make your album
up. And (before you accidentally lose the photos that your MIL
took), put the worst of your MIL in the album so that she can't
accuse you of not putting her in! My MIL is pretty vain, to say
the least! It drove me up the wall at my wedding with all her
pre-practiced poses! So, when I made up my own photo album of
the photos from the cameras off the table, I put a few of her
in - with her eyes closed! When she commented, I just explained
that it was a shame that her eyes where closed, but that photo
was the best one of everyone! HA HA!!
Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Tooth Fairy 4 of 4/Posted: 2-JUL-03
Two Christmases ago my MIL gave DH and me
a joint gift. It was a popular video game system.
I thought that this was okay. She said that she figured
I'd enjoy the DVD player, and DH would enjoy the games.
Okay, fine enough. Well, not long after she bought it, my
2 year old pulled it off of the TV and broke it. It could
be fixed, but we called and it was going to cost about 80 bucks.
So ,no big deal. Every time DH talked to MIL she asked about
it. So, finally, one day when my dad was over (he is a Mr.
fixit), I asked him to take a look at it, and in no time at all
it was fixed. I called MIL to ease her worried mind that
her precious baby might not be able to play his video games.
She told me, "Well, I already bought him another one for
Christmas." So, DH told her to mail him the receipt
so he could return it. Christmas came, and usually she buys
me pretty nice gifts. But, this year there was box after
box for DH, and only a couple of cr@ppy gifts for me and DS.
A couple of days after Christmas, the receipt came with a note
for DH. "Dearest Son, That was your gift, so make sure
you only buy something for YOURSELF (underlined YOURSELF), and
don't let anyone else talk you into buying something for them."
Okay, whatever! I have two major problems with the note.
One: The comment "don't let anyone else talk you into
buying something for them". And, two, when we got the
game a year before, it was a joint gift. And, now that it
was going to be returned, all of a sudden it was just for DH.
So, I guess that I did not, in fact, get a gift from them.
Maybe it's just me, but I find it very irritating. To me,
it is just another passive aggressive MIL dig.
RESPONSE: Annoyed DIL
So MIL hates you. How does DH feel?
RESPONSE: Annoyed DIL
Call her on it. Then, NEVER EVER get her a damn thing, EVER again!
RESPONSE: Annoyed DIL
I don't know what to say about your story, other than that I am
hating your MIL for you.
RESPONSE: Annoyed DIL
Why didn't DH say something to her? Mine sure as he!! would have.
He would have been more offended than me if he read that and knew
otherwise.
RESPONSE: Annoyed DIL
Ah, the trials and tribulations of marrying a wimp! Wait. Is
this a repeat? GET A REAL MAN!!!
RESPONSE: Annoyed DIL
Your MIL is a rude, nasty b!tch! I think that you should give
her a broom for her next birthday!
RESPONSE: Annoyed DIL
Yep, definitely a dig at you. She's a nasty piece of work. Try
not to get too upset. People like her surely go to he!!.
RESPONSE: Annoyed DIL
I think that your DH should phone up his mother and ask her, outright,
EXACTLY what she meant by writing that note. If the game controller
was originally addressed to both of you, then it is both your
gift. Her note was rude and tacky, and she does NOT deserve to
be allowed to get away with writing such a thing.
RESPONSE: Annoyed DIL
I think you quite spoilt and ungrateful. No wonder she didn't
bother to get you another gift. You didn't seem to appreciate
the last one, so why is she going to bother spending money on
something else that will probably get broken? It's not like you
seemed bothered that it got broken!
RESPONSE: Annoyed DIL
I totally agree with you. In fact, it's almost closer to downright
rude and AGGRESSIVE than passive-aggressive. But, I guess you're
right that it's passive-aggressive. She probably doesn't know
how obvious she's being, and how she's acting out - whatever her
issues are. You have every reason to feel the way you do about
it; any remotely sensitive person would mind that.
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