THIS IS A FOLLOW UP TO THE HARASSMENT
IN THE WORKPLACE STORY. My ex kept saying to my husband,
"Do you have any idea who I am???" As if he
is a celebrity instead of a small-town troublemaker! I
KNOW, HE IS HAGATHA'S CURSE ON THE WORLD! TAKE NOTE:
MY EX IS A CONVICTED FELON, BUT MOST OF HIS RECORD DOES NOT
SHOW UP IN A CRIMINAL CHECK BECAUSE HE WAS ARRESTED THE LAST
TIME BY THE F.B.I.!!!!! Scary! So those criminal
background checks can be misleading. I have nothing against
rehabilitated criminals (THEY HAVE DONE THEIR TIME), but he
is not rehabilitated. He just has not been caught again,
yet. SADLY ENOUGH, MY LITTLE GIRL HAS CALLED ME, CRYING
TO COME HOME, SEVEN TIMES SINCE I ARRIVED HOME THIS EVENING!
THERE IS NOTHING I CAN DO.
Signed - Well, He
Is NOT God! Is He A Wannabe Thug? Does Anyone Know Who He Is?????
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Worst gift: The very
first present that I ever received from my MIL was a set of makeup
bags for traveling. This may sound practical and no big
deal, but before I received this present I was living more than
5 hours away from her, so obviously I already had makeup bags
for traveling purposes. Since then, the presents have only
gotten worse, including an overpriced alarm clock that she was
so excited to give to my husband and me.
Signed - How Many More
Bad Presents Will I Get?
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Worst gift: I have known
since day one that my MIL hates me, and I have received some pretty
grotty gifts for birthdays and Christmases that are testament
to the fact. The best one was a few years ago. I opened
her present to me on Christmas morning and it was a book, "A
1000 Things To Do With Cream", which her milkman had left
on her doorstep as a free Christmas gift. How am I so sure????
He left one on my doorstep too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Signed - Some Pretty
Grotty Gifts
RESPONSE: Some Pretty Grotty Gifts
1001 things to with cream: #1001: Drown your MIL!!!
RESPONSE: Some Pretty Grotty Gifts
That's pretty bad. Pity you didn't think to wrap up your copy
for her. In the future, if you get anything for free, you KNOW
who deserves it!
This past Christmas
was my 4 month old (at the time) son's first Christmas.
My MIL gave him a card with a $20 bill!!! I wanted to say,
"How sweet! You're going to love playing with this
"toy"." I was so upset. As if that
wasn't enough, she gave me and my husband a separate card that
had $1 in it. It was one of those stupid, funny cards, and
she was attempting to make a joke out of it with the $1.
She just cackled as he was reading it. Needless to say,
neither my DH nor I thought it was the least bit funny.
Also, I'd like to add that she's never bought one single gift
for my son - she was at my baby shower and gave me a card (no
gift). And she has yet to buy him anything. It's not
like she's poor and doesn't get out, she's a very healthy 65 year
old who shops the mall with her best friend every weekend.
She's just very selfish. It's so hard on us, because my
mother showers our son with LOVE and gifts. They are like
night and day. I just thank God that I have such a thoughtful
mother to make up where MIL totally lacks.
Signed - Frustrated3
RESPONSE: Frustrated3
So what if she gave you $20?!?! Use that money to buy your son
something that he needs, or a fun toy. People give people money
and gift certificates all the time!!
RESPONSE: Frustrated3
Get over it! According to your post, I guess that money = love,
since your mother SHOWERS your child and MIL does not. You sound
very selfish to me.
RESPONSE: Frustrated3
You know that gifts are NOT A REQUIREMENT when one becomes a grandmother.
She did give your son money. You should read your submission
again. It sounds really ungrateful.
RESPONSE: Frustrated3
Um, maybe your MIL thought that you could use the money to buy
something that you needed for him. Or, perhaps you could start
a savings account for the child. It is nothing to get your panties
in a bunch over, IMO.
RESPONSE: Frustrated3
At least with the $20 you could buy something appropriate for
your son. Or, you could put it into a savings account for him.
It is much better than receiving pink flowered rompers, a toy
that was broken before he got it, or something for a much older
child (like some of the things that my DSs have gotten from my
MIL).
RESPONSE: Frustrated3
What's wrong with her giving your son money? Yeah, it's not a
toy, but some people would actually be grateful for the money.
You could buy diapers, formula, milk, clothes, etc., for him.
You could even start a savings account for him. Be a little more
grateful and little less sensitive. It looks like you are searching
for something to be irritated about with her. Try harder.
RESPONSE: Frustrated3
Put that money, and any other money that she sends, into your
son's bank account. When he is 21, he will be glad to have it
for school, a car, or whatever he needs at the time. My family
gives cash, as gifts to babies in the family, all the time. My
brother had several thousand dollars in his passbook savings when
he turned 21. All of it came from gifts from the family.
RESPONSE: Frustrated3
I know an awful lot of couples who would love $20 to spend on
their new baby. I wouldn't be surprised if she was unsure of
what the baby needed or would like, and was therefore allowing
you two to spend the money on what you knew he needed. I think
that you're being a bit unfair on that point. As for the $1 part,
I have no idea what that's about.
RESPONSE: Frustrated3
You sound like you need help. Your 4 month old baby could probably
barely sit up, yet alone play with a toy. You could have put
the $20 in his piggy bank. I don't think that your baby will
notice how many toys he owns!?!? It sounds to me like you're
very materialistic. Maybe your MIL is just a bad gift giver.
Sorry, but you have no sympathy from me.
RESPONSE: Frustrated3
The 20 bucks might have been a little inappropriate for your little
boy, but it was a gift to get a toy with. I don't think that
a 4 month old knows the difference either way. I think that the
$20 is still a present, just one that gives you and DH a chance
to choose for your own child. You also could put it away in a
savings account for him. You also need to get over the fact that
not everyone, including grandmas, are going to lavish your children
in gifts and gushing love. You might call that selfish, but you
seem to be expecting everyone to play a certain role. When they
don't "lavish" your precious baby in gifts, they are
selfish. No one has to lavish your children, except for you.
And, what your MIL does with her money is her business, and she
doesn't have to fork it over to you because you had a baby. After
raising my own children and spending a lifetime giving my all
to them, my @ss will be traveling around the world and spending
money at the mall on weekends when I am a grandparent. You name
it, I will make up for whatever I unselfishly gave up in years
past, in my later stages of life. So, don't b!tch because one
lavishes and the other chooses to have a life outside your baby.
She unselfishly gave you money towards a gift, and managed to
also squeeze in a card to each of you - and she put some humor
behind it! Sorry, I don't see selfishness. I just see another
mother who thinks that she's a friggin' saint for having a baby,
and feels that she has the right to call others selfish because
they aren't cooing over her child.
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