I have only left one other story
here because I used to think my MIL was "mild", at
least compared to some of the other stories. But, she
recently proved that she is getting worse. We went to
our home state to visit our families for Memorial Day.
DH and I live two states away from all of our families (they
live in the same area). So, time is short, but we do try
to visit everyone. We only had the two weekend days and
part of Monday to spend with them. So, here's what happened:
We spent Friday night with MIL. On Saturday, we were going
to go to my mom's to see her, my sister, and our nephew.
Well, I fell while I was carrying my 2-year-old nephew, and,
since I was trying to shield him from hitting the pavement so
hard, I didn't catch myself and landed right on my mouth, chipping
a tooth, breaking another tooth on the surface enamel, and bloodying
my whole chin, upper lip, and various spots on my body.
My nephew and I went to the emergency room. He was okay,
and they cleaned me up and gave me pain pills, and they told
me to see a dentist as soon as I could. My dad and step-mom
came to see us at the hospital. And, after we got out,
I went home with them, since I hadn't seen them yet, and my
husband went to his mother's. She had gone to a festival,
and had said that she would be back that afternoon so that we
could visit with her. Well, my husband sat there alone
at her house all day, and she did not return until almost 7:00.
As soon as she came, my husband told her that he had to pick
me up, and left. He picked me up and we went to stay the
night with his twin brother. We were supposed to go to
his other brother's house the next day for our other nephew's
birthday. Before we left, MIL called and raised Cain to
my husband on the phone. He looked angrier by the minute.
When he got off, he told me what she said. She told him
that we didn't spend any time with her and my FIL, and that
we should come in for the 4th of July and ONLY see her and FIL.
Also, she said that we spent all of our time with MY family
(this is when we were leaving to go see HER son and grandson),
and didn't he think that he should spend some time with her
and dad? She basically tried to put him on a guilt trip
for not seeing her - in reality he had TRIED to see her and
she wasn't home! And, was she jealous of our family reunion
in the emergency room? It gets better: We went to
the party, and saw her there. I didn't speak much to her,
but that wasn't hard to do, because I was spending time with
my nephew and nieces. I don't know if he talked to her
there or not. We left the party and had dinner with my
dad and step-mom. Then, we went back to her house to stay
the night and visit, since she had thrown a fit over us not
seeing her enough. My husband's twin brother went too.
We got there at around 8:00. Guess when she went to bed?
8:30!!! Hello? Did she want us to be there so we
could watch her sleep? I told my husband that I don't
care if we go visit for the 4th, but I am seeing my family,
too, if we go to the area. He is so mad at her that he
wants to stay home to spite her. I told him that if she
brings up her sob story about us not seeing her, he should remind
her that he tried to see her twice that weekend, and the first
time she wasn't home, and the second she went to bed.
I used to try to be nice to her, but it doesn't matter, she
makes stuff up to be mad about. I am going to be civil,
but not friendly anymore. She talks about my two SILs
behind their backs like they are dogs, and now I'm sure that
she does the same to me as soon as my back is turned.
If she's going to talk anyway, why shouldn't I give her a valid
reason. No more nice DIL from me! I don't know what
her problem is, but it must be hard to spell.
Signed - Not Putting
Up With Her Sh*t
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- squidofthefuture, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 10-JUL-03
My husband's parents never really bought him anything
when he was a kid. He had to work from the time that he
was very young, and if he wanted anything, he had to get it himself.
Now, I understand not spoiling kids, but we're talking about not
giving him so much as a toy, and he had to work to pay for toys
when he was 10 or younger. When he got to junior high, he
had to work to buy his own clothes. These people are not
poor. They live quite comfortably, and to them, writing
a check for a thousand dollars is nothing. DH and I are
by no means rich, but we get by and we are happy. Our son
wants a dirt bike because DH has one. We decided that he
is getting old enough, and we started saving money so that he
can get one for a birthday present next year. My husband's
sister told us that after MIL found this out, she said, "What
the he!! does that boy need a bike for? They're just wasting
their money." This made DH and me so mad. Just
because she didn't think that she should ever have to buy her
kids anything (oh, correction, SIL got anything she wanted and
still does), that doesn't mean that's how we raise our kids.
What we do with our money is none of her business.
Signed - Keep Your
Nose Out of My Bank Account
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Worst gift: My MIL promised
my husband and me that she was going to give me a crib for my
baby shower. She even went so far as to call from the store
to be sure that she was buying the one that was on my registry.
She showed up with a diaper disposal pail, and a pack of travel
size baby wash and lotion. You should see the look on my
face in the pictures of me opening the gift. It's priceless.
Signed - Cribless in
NY
RESPONSE: Cribless in NY
Maybe something didn't work out with getting the crib (I can't
imagine what, but you never know). That is a puzzle. At least
the things that she gave you are things that you can use!
RESPONSE: Cribless in NY
Yep, and you should have gotten the largest dresser drawer that
you owned and made a "little crib". When she asked
you what it was doing in the baby's room, you could have told
her, "Oh, this is just until we get the one you promised
to buy."
Worst gift: This past
Christmas, my ILs came over to our apartment. We all exchanged
gifts. My DH and I really spent a lot of time shopping and
picking out the perfect gifts for MIL, FIL and SIL. They
are soooooo picky about what they get - it hurts sometimes.
Anyway, they all got my DH clothes and things for his truck or
4-wheeler. You know, really nice stuff that they thought
he would like and enjoy. What did I get? A quick trip
down the discount department store trial size aisle. My
MIL and FIL gave me a stocking full of trial size toothpaste,
shampoo, conditioner, mouthwash, deodorant, etc., all toiletry
items. I did not know what they were trying to tell me -
that my personal hygiene sucked, or they are just cheap and hurtful.
My SIL was no better. She did not even spend money on my
gift. She gave me a couple of free sample perfume bottles
from the cosmetic counter where she worked. The bottles
were a little over half full, and none were the fragrances that
I like. She even left the "free sample" sticker
on the side of the bottles. I told DH that I will no longer
invest any time and effort in buying anything for them.
They will get nothing but a $20 gift certificate from the mall.
That is ALL!
Signed - That is ALL!
RESPONSE: That is ALL!
I hope the $20 is for all of them to share!
RESPONSE: That is ALL!
That is $20 too much, in my opinion. I hope that you'll at least
make DH go to the mall to get them.
RESPONSE: That is ALL!
Don't even waste your money on a $20 gift certificate. They aren't
worth it.
RESPONSE: That is ALL!
Next year have DH shop for their gifts, and you shop for your
own family's gifts.
RESPONSE: That is ALL!
Why even get them a gift certificate? They're his family - let
him deal with it.
RESPONSE: That is ALL!
I wouldn't even spend that on them! If you want to give gifts
to someone who will appreciate them, donate money to a shelter
or a charity in your IL's names.
RESPONSE: That is ALL!
Why are you even willing to give them a $20 gift certificate?
I wouldn't give them a damned thing. Why should you waste $20
each on people who obviously don't care about you at all?
RESPONSE: That is ALL!
I would keep all the free samples that you get as junk mail, put
them all in a paper bag (maybe draw a little Christmas tree on
the front, if you have the patience) and let that be their Christmas
gift this year!
RESPONSE: That is ALL!
Uh, do you really think that they are worth $20 gift certificates?
If I were you, I would get them nothing but a card. Or, if you
are feeling generous, some travel size samples of, oh, deodorant,
hemorrhoid preparation, etc. (evil laugh!).
RESPONSE: That is ALL!
Why get them anything at all? I would re-gift everything that
they gave you this year. Give the ILs back their travel size
toiletries, and give SIL back the perfume samples. If they complain
in any way, shape, or form about the gifts not being expensive
or appropriate, simply say, "Of course those are good gifts.
Didn't you think so when you got me the same thing last year?"
and smile. And, don't spend the actual holiday with them.
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