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- dwnnll, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 12-JUL-03
I found this site a few days ago and just had
to post about my MIL. My MIL is a person whom you never
want to meet. She is rude and mean to everyone, including
her own children. I have seen her throw a pizza at BIL,
and she has told my DH that she wishes that he was never born.
DH and I have been married for 6.5 years and have 3 children.
We were married when our oldest was 1 year old. We have
2 DDs and 1 son. When I had our first child, DD#1, she
told me that I should be happy that I had a girl because she
never wanted sons, as they are too much trouble. She has
2 sons and one spoiled rotten DD. MIL has told our oldest
DD, who was about 4 months at the time, "You are so cute.
Too bad your parents are not married." I know that
she did not understand, but I was standing there, and it seemed
to me that she was saying that something was wrong with DD since
her dad and I were not married at the time of her birth.
MIL will give DD lots of semi-nice gifts, and give our son little
cr@ppy junk. He's only 2, so he does not notice it yet,
but DD#1 does. She has told DS that if he's not good,
X (HER FIRST NAME) (we use her first name - my kids do not call
her grandma - she does not rate it) will not give him anything
for his birthday (she does not give mommy anything either).
Out of the 7 birthdays that I have had since we have been married,
she has given me 3 birthday cards. These were after I
made a stink about how she called my house on my birthday and
didn't even wish me happy birthday. My children have started
to notice how she treats me. My oldest DD asked me, "Why
does X hate you, mommy?" I just tell her that I don't
know. At my 1st baby shower (at my mom's house), MIL asked
my mom if she was sure that the baby was DH's, or if I have
been sleeping around. My mother was about to hit her,
but she decided to leave the room instead. All MIL did
at DD#1's baby shower was talk about how people should not have
babies unless they are married. Well, quite a few people
at my shower have had kids while they were not married, and
everyone now hates her. No one on my side of the family
will go to any function that MIL is attending. We have
to have 2 separate events for each side of the family.
MIL mostly complains that we have never let her watch any of
our kids. MIL has sent us papers on grandparent's rites.
BIL, who lives with MIL, has even said that she has talked to
lawyers, but can't afford one. We have since moved across
the country. I have more stories to tell of this horrible
person. But those will have to come another day.
Signed - You Never
Want To Meet Her
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Worst gift: Oh boy!
I LOVE this site! My husband and I haven't spoken to his
family in almost 3 years (that's another story). Two Christmases
ago, when he was still speaking to one BIL, MIL had that brother
send a package to us. It contained a gift for hubby, and
one for each of our girls, and nothing for me or my stepson, who
was living with us at the time! All were signed, "Love,
Mom!" DH sent it back, unopened. He said that
it was too bad if she couldn't count (like he needed another ugly,
striped rugby from her anyway). We don't speak to any of
them now - and we don't miss all the games that they play!
Signed - Really, No
Gifts Accepted From The Old Bat
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Worst gift: My MIL gave
me an old stationery gift pack and make-up bags for my birthday.
She told me that she had gotten them from someone else many years
ago. She said that she didn't like them, and that they had
been lying in the basement for years. With a big smile on
her face she said, "Happy birthday, and I hope you like them."
Signed - No Writer
RESPONSE: No Writer
Re-gift them to her and say, "Hope you like them."
RESPONSE: No Writer
I hope you said a polite "thanks", and then, upon getting
them home, chucked them out.
RESPONSE: No Writer
My MIL, who can be a bag, at least makes an effort when it comes
to gifts. However, she always gets free samples as gifts from
her brother and SIL, who are quite well off. She is thrilled
when she opens her Christmas or birthday present from them, and
it is a small bottle of well-known, expensive perfume. "Oh,
look, they must have spent a lot on this. It's EXPENSIVE!"
Of course, there is a tiny label on the bottom that says "Not
for resale as individual unit", so you know it came free
with a larger purchase of that same perfume. MIL is too stupid
to realize this, so I just let her be happy in her illusion.
Why raise a stink (no pun intended)?
Worst gift: Thankfully,
my story is about my ex-MIL. She liked to give "self
improvement" gifts to me. Meaning, areas where she
saw that I needed improvements, not things I personally wanted
to improve. For example, for Xmas I once received a beautiful,
expensive sweater that I had admired in a catalogue. But,
I got it in a size medium, when I wore a large. My DH commented
on how it was the wrong size (I wasn't going to say anything and
possibly hurt her feelings, as it was a very thoughtful gift up
to that point). Ex-MIL responded that she thought that it
would give me inspiration to lose weight so that I could wear
it. She gave me running shoes another time because she heard
that jogging was a very good way to lose weight. Now, mind
you, I NEVER said anything about wanting to lose weight, and was
very comfortable (as was my DH) with my size. The list of
"improvement" gifts include freckle removing cream,
exercise videos, books on how to be a submissive wife, and numerous
clothes in too-small sizes. I finally said something to
her one year that she didn't need to buy me anything, she could
just give DH and me a "couple's gift" for the house,
or something. She responded by saying that she liked giving
me things that I didn't even know that I needed. I was nice,
polite and kind to that woman for 7 years. I accepted the
cr@p with a smile, and gave it away or returned it for a correct
size, etc.
Signed - Relieved To
Be Out Of That Family
RESPONSE: Relieved To Be Out Of That Family
That is so insensitive and annoying! You must be THRILLED that
she's now your ex-MIL (I hope you never have any reason to see
her, ever). Good riddance!!
RESPONSE: Relieved To Be Out Of That Family
Books on how to be a submissive wife - SUBMISSIVE WIFE?! Just
for that, I would have cut off all contact with her! And, telling
you that you need to lose weight?! Ridiculous.
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