Worst gift: My SIL should
be posting about a re-gifted gift. My MIL and FIL like
wine, so I purchased a few bottles for them at our local winery
(local to us, not them!) for Christmas one year. The next
year, to my amazement, the MIL had re-gifted one of the bottles
of wine that we got her to my SIL! They do not sell this
wine in their area, so I know where she got it from! LOL!
She has a way of asking everyone for a gift list (oh, and giving
them). And, then, instead of getting what is on the list,
she gets something similar - or completely off, although most
times it's the completely wrong size/color/brand. Then,
when she gets gifts that she does not like, she will go out
of her way to write little notes to us to tell us that she does
not like this/that/or the other, and to not buy her those things.
She hates all of our gifts and now asks for gift certificates.
But, she gets all of us cr@ppy cr@p that we have to spend all
day returning! Why does she bother? We would rather
get nothing! UGH! Oh, and BTW, she is a doctor's
wife! LOL!
Signed - DIL of the
CR@PPER!
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Once, we were on a
long drive, and we had my MIL with us. A lorry (truck) coming
the wrong way at fast speed hit us and went on his way - "hit
and run". After the impact, which was on MIL's side,
we found that she had died on the spot. I grabbed the mobile
and phoned the police. They asked about the other car's
registration number and so on, which I did not know. Then
asked us, "Was anyone injured?" I replied that
my MIL had died on the spot. "Well," said the
police, "Since no one was injured, we need not hurry."
Signed - Just Me
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My MIL is the most self-centered
individual that I have ever met. The first weekend that
my husband and I moved into our first apartment (in another state,
and 1 week after we got married), my MIL and my husband took off
for a weekend getaway to the mountains, and left me behind.
Before they left, she told me, in a snide tone, that I wasn't
invited because they had planned this trip before we planned to
getting married. Seven years later, she is still the witch
that she was back then.
Signed - Can't Stand
the Lady
RESPONSE: Can't Stand the Lady
Why did your husband go?
RESPONSE: Can't Stand the Lady
Why are you blaming your MIL? Your DH should have said no!
RESPONSE: Can't Stand the Lady
Your MIL isn't the problem, your DH is. I cannot believe that
you are still with him.
RESPONSE: Can't Stand the Lady
And you let him come back?!?!?! You deserve the lady and her
attached son.
RESPONSE: Can't Stand the Lady
Your DH left you one week after y'all married to go off for the
weekend with his mom? She's the LEAST of your problems!!
RESPONSE: Can't Stand the Lady
Good grief, I can't believe you married someone who thought so
little of you that he would go on vacation with someone else a
week after you were married.
RESPONSE: Can't Stand the Lady
It sounds like your DH is at fault, too. If my DH left me, 1
week after we were married, to go out of town with his mother,
I'd be livid! Expect her to keep pulling that kind of cr@p with
you, because he'll let her do it. Sorry!
RESPONSE: Can't Stand the Lady
I'm sorry, but if my DH went on a weekend trip with his mother,
and left me behind because it was planned before we were married,
there would be big problems! I wouldn't just blame MIL here,
but what about your DH??? Seems he's equally at fault.
RESPONSE: Can't Stand the Lady
Sorry, but your DH sounds rude, too, if he went without you 1
week after you got married. That would piss me off. She was
bad, but your DH was worse. Sorry to say it, but he was.
RESPONSE: Can't Stand the Lady
I think that you should be a bit cross with DH, as well. I wouldn't
be married today if my DH went on a weekend getaway with anyone
one week after we were married.
I have a confession
to make - I simply hate my MIL. I can't even bear to face
her. She is simply too overbearing. Actually, she
is sooo used to her two sons and husband pampering her that she
simply refuses to listen to anyone else. Whatever she says
is God's word, and you have to listen to her or else you have
had it. Actually, before my marriage I had been warned that
my MIL was a very strict woman. But I had ignored it during
that time. It started right from the time before my marriage
when I had to purchase my wedding dress. The fuss that she
created in front of others while purchasing it, because I didn't
take the one of her choice, was too much. She kept taunting
me as to why she was brought along for the selection of the dress,
when I couldn't respect her word and purchase the dress of her
choice. Because of that, she didn't even bother to compliment
me on my wedding dress on the day of my wedding. She had
made my parents bear the entire brunt of the marriage, because,
according to her, that's the tradition. Even after the marriage,
she didn't bother to thank them for the wonderful marriage and
arrangements that were made. After our brief honeymoon,
DH told me that we were immediately moving to another city where
he was working, because he had been asked to report to work urgently.
I needed to get all my stuff from my parent's place. It
is approximately a 2 1/2 hour drive from my place to my in-laws
place. Since it had become too late, my mom and sister volunteered
to drive us down. When we reached my hubby's place, the
atmosphere there was very tense. My MIL was fuming because
it was 9 PM when we reached there, and we had flopped her plans
to go out to a restaurant for food, so she had had to cook food
herself. She began shouting at my mom, there and then, that
she didn't have any sense getting us both home so late.
My mom was very embarrassed. Nobody even offered her a glass
of water or told her to sit for some time. She left within
5 minutes, after the long journey. It, incidentally, was
my birthday that day. I felt so badly that my ILs treated
my mom that way that I was almost on the verge of tears.
DH had been running his house for the past 10 years, and sent
a hefty amount home, he even does so now. She feels that
it is his duty to send that much money home. He even had
to go through a lot because of a broken engagement. So,
this lady started feeling insecure, and even taunted me about
taking stuff that we had purchased. Because of that, I had
to leave back my toiletries, shampoos, cosmetics etc. She
wanted everything of mine which she liked. I was supposed
to offer them to her if she said that she liked it. Within
2 - 3 days, we shifted to our new city. MIL wanted to come
with us to help us out, but DH avoided her for some months.
She wanted to leave FIL and BIL alone and move in with us.
This, in spite of the fact that FIL is a heart patient and needs
care. Finally, she insisted on coming after 4 months.
The havoc that she created in our lives was just too much.
First, she fought with me for making her feel that I was snatching
her son away from her. She tried to create competition with
me, and would want to see whom DH would listen to. There
was no privacy for us, and this lady wanted to tag around everywhere
that we wanted to go. She yelled at me soo badly when I
offered to buy a shirt for my FIL (FIL is a very nice person,
but doesn't open his mouth in front of his bossy wife), saying
that I needn't offer them anything. DH was their own son,
and if they ever needed anything, they would ask him. It
was their son's house, and they would come and stay whenever they
wanted. She would keep taunting me, time and again.
Finally, my DH would have it no more, and he told them indirectly
to return back. So again, a big havoc was created at night,
and she told DH that she would break all relations with him, and
that he was no longer her son, blah, blah. The next morning,
however, she had cooled down and said that she was sorry for the
way she behaved. But, nature doesn't change, after all.
She was back to her own ways. We both were waiting for her
to leave. Her tickets were scheduled for a month later (because
people would laugh if she came back home earlier from DH's place!!!!),
and weren't we glad when she was leaving!! But, she had
a tight face on, and refused to even look at our faces the day
she left. She sat in the train and was fuming, and then
she started crying (we didn't know why???). Later, we learnt
that it was because we didn't ask her to stay for a few more days!
IMAGINE THAT!! After that incident, she went back and told
everyone that DH didn't look after her well, etc.?? After
that, again after 2 - 3 months, the harassment started.
This time, it was over the phone ("Why don't you come to
meet us, take up a flight and come soon"). They act
as if that doesn't cost any money! Finally we went after
a gap of nearly 8 months. This lady again chewed my brains.
She was upset when we wanted to go to my mom's place for 2 days,
and again began taunting me for that. The one week that
I was there was like HE!!. Now, we are back to our own place
and I am 7 weeks pregnant. My MIL wants to come to take
care of me???? But, I don't want her here at all.
She will be all after me AGAIN and disturb me psychologically.
I have told DH. Overall, DH is a GEM of a person, and MIL
is just too much. I keep wondering what will happen in the
future, because I love DH so much, but I can't bear this lady.
It even affects my relationship with DH at times. She is
of the opinion that I should sit back and only listen to her,
no matter what she says. So what if she yells at me, since
I am younger to her, I should be listening to her! I am
a doctor, by the way. She only wants us to all keep praising
her for all that she has done for DH. She tells me, "You
are married now, you have to forget your parents."
I am not allowed to mention my mom's name in front of her - no
talking about my parents. I just HATE her.
Signed - I Just HATE
Her
RESPONSE: I Just HATE Her
DH is not a gem. Realize that, and everything will become clear.
RESPONSE: I Just HATE Her
Surely you jest. You are a doctor?? Of what? Tell your husband
to grow a "pair", and boot this broad out of your life.
RESPONSE: I Just HATE Her
I hate her, too. Please write more about how your DH reacts towards
his mother when she acts like this to you. Have things gotten
worse now that the baby's due date is closer?
RESPONSE: I Just HATE Her
This is the worst MIL story that I have ever seen on this site.
The woman is a true menace. Stay away from her.
RESPONSE: I Just HATE Her
Get a backbone and put her in her place. You never know, she
might just back off. And, if she doesn't, cut your ties with
her. And, in the process, give your DH a kick in the rear and
tell him to wake up and stand beside you. If he doesn't, then
you have a problem. Do you plan to live this way for the rest
of your life?
RESPONSE: I Just HATE Her
It is very important that you and your DH make a united front
so that he can tell his mother that she should not try to come
and take care of you. IT IS YOUR CHOICE whether you want someone
to come take care of you or not. Period. She has no right to
treat the two of you badly and then expect to be welcomed with
open arms. Would your DH ever forgive his own mother if she (indirectly)
upset you and caused you to lose the baby? It's not a chance
worth taking. You two are a family, and she is the outsider now
- she needs to understand that. Good luck!
RESPONSE: I Just HATE Her
Are you an idiot? You must be an idiot to put up with so much
abuse. Put MIL in her place. Make DH keep her there. Cut this
woman off completely, and do not let her see your child, ever.
She treats you like a doormat, because you are acting like one.
Either take a stand or shut up about it.
RESPONSE: I Just HATE Her
You have to do something about this now. It's going to get much,
much worse after your baby is born. You have to stand up to this
woman yourself. It sounds as though you have your DH's support,
so discuss it with your husband, and then tell this woman exactly
how you are to be treated from now on. You sound like a smart
woman. Would you let a "friend" treat you this way?
RESPONSE: I Just HATE Her
It doesn't matter though, you have every right to love your parents
and talk about them whenever you want to. Don't worry about her.
Ignore that, and do what you want. If she thinks that she has
control of you, she'll continue to do it and try to control more.
Rebel against her.
RESPONSE: I Just HATE Her
You're a doctor. You're smart enough to complete a medical degree,
but you're not smart enough to set some boundaries with MIL??
She is disrespecting you, your mother, your family, and your relationship
with your husband. What sort of role model are you for your child-to-be
if you are nothing but a doormat? Get a handle on things, and
stand up for yourself like the smart, educated, strong person
that you are.
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