My ILs went on a trip and brought
back matching T-shirts for me and my husband. I have been
wearing an XL T-shirt since I was in Jr. High because I have always
liked them big. She bought me a medium. And, she wants
to know why I don't wear it. The shirt is so small that
my 10 year old niece could not even wear it.
Signed - Another Bad
Present
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Worst gift: Last year
for my birthday, MIL said that she was sending a gift certificate
for a clothing store that I really like. I am still waiting
for it to come. I imagine that she decided not to get me anything
and forgot that she had said that it was coming. It would
have been the first birthday gift from her to me in years.
I did get a card, though! I don't really expect her to get
me anything, but why would she say that she is going to do something
and then not do it? It's a joke between my DH and me now.
Signed - Laughing About
It!
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Worst gift: My FMIL
has no idea that when you give someone a gift (unless it is really
personal or an heirloom, like the diamond she coughed up for my
engagement ring, which I give her full credit for), you are supposed
to BUY it instead of rummaging around in your basement for some
old piece of junk that you are trying to get rid of. Examples
of my "acquisitions" include a cheesy watch that comes
with the perfume that she wears, old flashlights, a broken umbrella
and (my fave) a 3x5 card box in puke green that still had the sticker
on it - a sticker that had the price as $2.50 and a date - the date
was 1973!!!!! Lord help us all when we get a wedding present.
BTW, she and my future FIL just bought a condo down the hall from
us, and they plan to move this fall - WITH my future hubby's 40-year
old mentally ill sister who still lives at home. Me thinks
we will be moving soon.
Signed - Completely Freaked
Out
RESPONSE: Completely Freaked Out
People have different gift giving practices. She gave you a diamond?!
How sweet you are to say that she "coughed it up".
RESPONSE: Completely Freaked Out
I don't really agree with the first sentence. One of the best gifts
that I got in HS was from a friend who gave away books on her parents'
shelves. She couldn't afford presents, so she went through the
shelves and found books that she knew her friends would love. Then
she made sure that her parents were Ok with giving those books up.
Granted, she did put thought into it, even if she didn't put money
into it. The gifts you have received sound as if they didn't even
have that.
RESPONSE: Completely Freaked Out
I am confused by parts of this story. Are these gifts for an occasion,
or is she just giving them to you? Sometimes my mom offers me what
I consider "cr@p" because she found something in the basement
that she never uses and wants to offer it to me before throwing
it out. Are there discrepancies between what she gives you and
what she gives other people? Some people just aren't good at giving
gifts.
RESPONSE: Completely Freaked Out
So what if 40-year-old mentally ill SIL lives at home with her parents?
Perhaps that is the situation that works best for the three of them.
And you could be a little more grateful about the gifts. If MIL
gives those types of gifts to everyone, then you should not be upset
about it. BTW, it must have been very difficult for MIL to give
you that engagement diamond. Perhaps she wanted it to go to DD?
Show some respect and understanding.
RESPONSE: Completely Freaked Out
Your MIL seems to have good intentions with her not so well thought
out and recycled gifts. Try to laugh about it if you can, and have
DF buy all the gifts for his family. What really concerns me is
that FMIL, FFIL and FSIL are moving in so very close to you! It's
creepy that the ILs would want to live so close to the two of you.
I can only imagine that they will expect to be totally involved
in your day to day lives. You should be moving sooner than soon,
and as far away as possible!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- foreigntemptress, 2 of 4 needed/Posted:
7-AUG-03
DF and I met while studying abroad. I'm English,
he's American. His mother came to visit us in our student
pad abroad (we were sharing a flat). She refused to come during
our winter break, when he'd asked her to come. She had to
come over Thanksgiving. She came, and every single day she
spent HOURS on the phone to America (on OUR phone bill), going on
about what a horrible time she was having. My DF refused to
take time off from his courses to be with her. Of course,
this makes him rude, selfish, and means that he doesn't care about
his mother, etc. Never mind that he asked her to come during
the break, and never mind that he's a responsible student who doesn't
want to miss courses. So, she ran up a huge phone bill, telling
all the folks back home how mean he was being. And she's the
most inconsiderate person. EVERY TIME she washed her hands
(or anything else), she had to take a fresh towel. After three
days there was a huge pile of once-used towels on the floor, and
she asked if she could do the wash. DF told her, "No,"
as she couldn't possibly need to do laundry, and she could reuse
those towels, since they weren't dirty. About this time, her
nasty used sanitary items appeared in my bathroom, in the bucket
I use for cleaning the floor. Hello? Has this woman
ever heard of garbage cans?
Signed - She Didn't Even
Wrap Them Up
RESPONSE: She Didn't Even Wrap Them Up
EEEEEEEWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
RESPONSE: She Didn't Even Wrap Them Up
Horrible! Sympathy for you.
RESPONSE: She Didn't Even Wrap Them Up
Off with her head!!!
RESPONSE: She Didn't Even Wrap Them Up
How gross. She obviously has no self pride at all to do that.
RESPONSE: She Didn't Even Wrap Them Up
OM, she didn't even wrap them up?! If there's ever another visit,
insist that DF's mom stay in a hotel.
RESPONSE: She Didn't Even Wrap Them Up
Are you sure that DF wasn't adopted? Take it as a warning as to
what to expect from her on future visits, and plan accordingly!
RESPONSE: She Didn't Even Wrap Them Up
EWWW!!!!! Sick!!! I hope that you don't have to see her too often.
It sounds like you DF doesn't like her too much, either?
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