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Fry Her TM
- squidofthefuture, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 9-AUG-03
I had an older car that needed some work done.
It was still an excellent car though. MIL did not think
so, and kept hounding us to quit driving that "junk"
and to buy a car that they were selling for some friends of theirs.
Finally, she was getting on my husband about it so much that I
told him that we would just buy the car because I didn't want
him in the middle of it. At the time, my DH had just gotten
back to work after being laid off for 6 months, so we were a little
short of cash. MIL told us that she would pay for the car
and then we could just pay her back a little at a time whenever
we had some extra. I should have known better. It
took us a good while to get back on our feet, and a year later
we still owed $300. My husband and I talked to his mother
and told her that we would get the money to her as soon as possible.
She told us not to worry about it and to take as long as we needed.
Then, hubby's sister called to tell us that MIL was telling everyone
in the family, and all of her friends, that we would not pay her
back, even though we only owed "such a small amount".
That "small amount" to her was a lot to us right then.
Needless to say, we were furious that she was being so nice to
us while calling us deadbeats behind our backs. As soon
as we got our tax refund check, my husband and I drove up to her
house. He took $300, laid it on her table in front of her,
said, "Here's your money, bye," and walked out.
He got in to the car and told me to drive. As we pulled
out of the driveway she ran out on the porch and kept saying,
"But I told you to take as long as you need! You don't
have to pay me now." By the way, the car we bought
from her was the biggest piece of junk that I ever drove.
The transmission and starter went out on it before a year was
up. My so-called junker (a Mustang) is still going strong.
Signed - Deadbeat DIL
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- foreigntemptress/Posted: 9-AUG-03
So, DF and I organized everything for our wedding
in New England well in advance. Then, DF's grandpa got pneumonia,
and there was no way he could travel to the wedding. DF and
I took a deep breath, worked incredibly hard for a week, and managed
to move the wedding, on two months' notice, to New York. DF
commented to his uncle, the son of the sick grandpa, that it was
hard work. Uncle said, "You're very irresponsible trying
to organize a wedding on such short notice." DF was coldly
angry, and told uncle where he could put that kind of remark.
We did it FOR THE GRANDPA. A few weeks later, we were finalizing
the details, and FMIL wanted everything her way. DF and I
didn't want it her way. Our tastes are very different.
First, FMIL called DF on the phone and screamed, cried and called
him names. DF was polite and didn't give in. Then, FMIL
had her boyfriend write me an email. I'd never met this man.
But, he spent about three pages telling me, basically, that God
will damn me to he!! (I am not joking) if I don't do everything
FMIL's way. Apparently, the Bible says that you should do
everything your FMIL wants or you will go to he!! I know my
Bible. It doesn't say that anywhere. So, I ignored this
email. Then, FMIL's boyfriend wrote to me to say that I must
be a very immature person (he's never met me, remember, and no-one
who knows me thinks I'm immature - I came out of the womb at age
thirty). Why am I immature? It is because, "When
you marry the man, you marry his family," and if I was ready
for marriage, I would be ready to obey his family in all matters.
So, now "mature" means "letting people push you around".
THEN - this is the best bit so far - FMIL wrote to DF. She
told him that I'm both immature and insecure because, "She
is trying to steal you away from your family." NOT TRUE,
FMIL!! NOT TRUE!! She suggested that far from getting
married, I should be in a mental home. She also requested
that we move the wedding BACK TO New England, or, preferably, to
another country altogether, so that she wouldn't have to come.
Well, who's the immature one?
Signed - MIL is Five
Years Old Again
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- foreigntemptress/Posted: 9-AUG-03
DF to FFIL, "You need to remember that this
is my wedding, and mum is going to have to make some compromises."
FFIL to DF, "You have to remember that this is her big day."
So apparently MY WEDDING DAY is now HER WEDDING DAY. She couldn't
make her marriage work, so now she wants mine? Someone just
can't appreciate that a wedding day belongs to the bride and the
groom, and while the groom's mother is the honored guest, the bride
calls the shots. This is ESPECIALLY TRUE when the groom's
mother is not putting a penny towards the wedding. HER BIG
DAY?????? To his credit, my DF went ballistic. He couldn't
believe that either.
Signed - She's Trying
to Take Over My Wedding Day - The Cow
RESPONSE: She's Trying to Take Over My Wedding Day
- The Cow
Her big day??? What a bunch of wackos. I hope that you don't have
to see them very often.
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- foreigntemptress/Posted: 9-AUG-03
It was Thanksgiving, and we're making pies.
I happen to be a very good baker, and I was making pie crust my
way, in my kitchen. She was visiting. She looked at
the syrupy glop that's my pie dough before it's finished, and said,
"What on earth's that?" I told her, "It's pie
crust," and she wailed, "Oh no! I could have told
you how to make pie crust! No-one will eat that!"
She tried to take it away. My DF put his foot down, and I
finished my pies in peace. Later, she decided that we needed
more pie (funny, that!), and made pie her way, saying, "This
is how you make pie crust, see! This one will be nice."
She went on and on about how bad my pie would be. I only took
a little smug pleasure in the fact that my pies disappeared quicker
than rats out of an aqueduct, and hers sat about for days.
No one wanted them. They were too thick and dry.
Signed - Pie Isn't The
Worst of It
RESPONSE: Pie Isn't The Worst of It
That is TOO annoying! How rude she was!
RESPONSE: Pie Isn't The Worst of It
Great ending!! I bet she felt stupid afterwards? Good luck!!!
RESPONSE: Pie Isn't The Worst of It
And, so? What's the point? It sounds like you are obsessed with
food.
RESPONSE: Pie Isn't The Worst of It
I can't believe that she tried to interfere with your pies! Well,
at least the final proof was in the pudding, so to speak.
RESPONSE: Pie Isn't The Worst of It
I would have taken extreme, smug pleasure about it myself. I would
have responded to her the way she spoke to me. "Excuse me,
MIL, but if that is the way you make pie, and people will prefer
it, then tell me why is no-one eating your pie?" What a rude
bag.
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