My MIL is the MIL from he!!!
Since the day I met my husband, she has been nothing but a pain
in my backside, to put it not so crudely. The funny thing
is that she is the one who convinced my husband to ask me out.
We all worked together, and I was the new girl at the plant.
She immediately spotted me, and asked her son, "Did you see
the new girl that they hired???" So, it is basically
her fault that we met and fell for each other. And, believe
you me, it is a good thing that I love my husband or I would have
said "so long" long ago! Ten years have come to
pass, we have been married for eight of those. In this time,
my MIL has managed to do everything in her power to make me feel
less than zero. And, for some strange reason I still feel
compelled to try to be nice to her and to do things for her, it's
like a sickness - the need to please or be accepted. I know
in my rational mind that it's a fruitless cause and that I'm just
wearing myself out for nothing. I have tried many times
to "extend the olive branch " to her, so to speak, and
every time she just chops it off. My husband is spineless
when it comes to her, not to mention blind to her nonsense.
He wouldn't dare say anything to his "momma".
His whole family is tacky and crude. They are racist.
We have gone into stores, and she will pick up items and turn
them over to make sure that they are American made. If they
come from certain other countries, she wont buy them. She
is a moron. She has a story for everything. I have
had to hear more stories about her childhood, her family, pets
that she had or even ones that her own mother had while she was
a child. I have to hear about all of her hard luck stories,
and the worst, by far, are the ones about her own 4 children.
I have to hear all of these stupid stories of my husband's older
brothers - everything from how they where conceived, to their
births, to every stupid little thing that they every did.
I've heard about every sneeze, every fart, how smart they are,
and everything that they've ever said. And, she will drone
on and on and on - sucking the very life right out of you with
the years of expertise that only a psychic vampire would know
how to use. She never likes to talk about my husband much,
only to tell the things that are most embarrassing to him in front
of everybody. After all, he is still 12 years old in her
warped mind. Could this be why she will seat us at the kids'
table when too many people show up at parties? He!!, I would
rather be there than near her, but she is insulting. And,
god forbid anyone should challenge this woman to a battle of the
wits. She, after all, thinks that she is superior when it
comes everything. She has even argued with guests about
things that don't make sense to anyone else but her. But,
by golly, she read it in one of her books in black and white,
so it must be the gospel. No one else can have an opinion
on anything without her chiming in with her two cents worth.
Lots of times we sit outside having casual conversations, some
are private and they don't even include her. But, she will
come out and want to know what we are talking about. And,
then she will have to spout off some of her nonsense. Every
time we have to go over to her house, the minute we walk in (I'm
serious - sometimes I haven't even had time to set my purse down)
she will come over and say, "I want you to see what I bought
for so-and-so (usually for my perfect SIL)". Then she
will lead me by the arm, like a child, to show me some illustrious
piece of cr@p that she bought for my SIL or the kids (something
that she paid way too much for, as if I give a damn). She
is petty. She goes to bed every night with a green mud mask
on her face and toilet paper wrapped around her head to keep her
hair in place. NO JOKE. How would you like to wake
up in the morning and roll over and have that staring you in the
face? There isn't enough Viagra in the world that could
induce spontaneity for something like that. I'm telling
you that these people are enough to make you want to sign yourself
up for a padded room with a view and all the tranquilizers to
keep you in a medicated coma for the rest of your life.
Well, now that I have regaled you with my horror story, I think
I will go clean the house!!!! Thanks for listening!
Signed - Waiting For
The Straight Jacket
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/Posted: 25-AUG-03
When my DH and I were engaged, my then FMIL made
an attempt to talk me out of marrying him. She made is sound
like it was in MY best interest not to marry him. According
to her, his behavior was strange, not normal - "Not the boy
I raised." Needless to say, I married him anyway, and
we've been happy for seven years. When my BIL got engaged,
she tried the same thing. Only this time she would excuse
the two of them, taking him away from his fiancé, and cry
and cry that he shouldn't get married. They would come out
from behind closed doors with her crying and hanging all over him.
It was just sick.
Signed - It Was Just
Sick
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Worst gift: My SIL gave
me a wrapped box of wrapping paper and bows! This was my Christmas
present from her. I was surprised when I opened it, to say
the least. I covered well, and thanked her, to which she replied,
"Well, it IS something you will need." Ha, ha, hah.
I will never forget that present as long as I live. She was
wealthy, but she was a cheapskate. And, she bought all of
her gifts at second hand stores.
Signed - She Was A Cheapskate
RESPONSE: She Was A Cheapskate
Well, it IS something that you'll need!
RESPONSE: She Was A Cheapskate
Just because someone has money, they do not have to spend it on
you.
RESPONSE: She Was A Cheapskate
Give it back to her at Christmas. Tell her that you liked your
gift so much that you wanted to return the favor. After all, if
cr@p like that is good enough for SIL to give, then it must be good
enough for her to get!
RESPONSE: She Was A Cheapskate
WOW! Petty, demeaning, cheap, and insulting! It seems like she
covered some good MIL ground with that gift. IDEA! Give the same
thing to her next Christmas with the same response. Even if DH
wants something else, give it to her as well, "especially from
you", with a big smile.
RESPONSE: She Was A Cheapskate
Actually, I don't think that wrapping paper and bows are that bad
of a present. They will get used. It may be a "cheap"
present, but it's not as bad as something that will collect dust
in an attic. And, in all honesty, some of those "wrapping
sets" are fairly expensive (and overpriced, in my opinion).
Give her a break.
My MIL is sweet on the
outside but evil on the inside. Not too many people see the
evil side. She saves that side, mostly, for me. It so
happens that there are a few birthdays in the same month as my birthday
in my DH's family. One day, I was driving the MIL to an appointment.
She was telling me about what she had gotten a few other family
members for their birthdays. She went on in great detail,
even describing the wrapping paper and bows. Then, she looked
at me and said, "OH, I forgot to get you something for YOUR
birthday." I didn't think much of the fact that I didn't
get anything from her on my birthday until she rubbed it in my face.
Well, everyone has birthdays, and for her next birthday I decided
to let my DH get the gift, being that she was his mother and all.
Well, he never managed to get one. The next time I saw her,
I wished her a happy belated birthday, to which she just teared
up and looked the other way.
Signed - She Can Dish
It Out, But She Can't Take It
RESPONSE: She Can Dish It Out, But She Can't Take It
Excellent!!!!
RESPONSE: She Can Dish It Out, But She Can't Take It
Well done.
RESPONSE: She Can Dish It Out, But She Can't Take It
You go, girl! I'm proud of you.
RESPONSE: She Can Dish It Out, But She Can't Take It
Oh well. She reaps what she sows.
RESPONSE: She Can Dish It Out, But She Can't Take It
This post made me smile. Old Bag.
RESPONSE: She Can Dish It Out, But She Can't Take It
This was the best story that I have ever read!!!!!
RESPONSE: She Can Dish It Out, But She Can't Take It
Hee, Hee, Hee.
RESPONSE: She Can Dish It Out, But She Can't Take It
Good for you. Don't buy that b!tch a present ever again. Continue
to make her cry. She deserves it.
RESPONSE: She Can Dish It Out, But She Can't Take It
BA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! And, the beauty
of it is that you did nothing wrong OR spiteful!
RESPONSE: She Can Dish It Out, But She Can't Take It
Good for you! You should have said, "Oh, happy belated birthday
MIL. Your wonderful son was in charge of your gift this year, what
did he get you?" just to rub it in more. She deserved it!
RESPONSE: She Can Dish It Out, But She Can't Take It
What a headache. Well, my ILs DO get me birthday presents, and
they're good at it. But other than that, I doubt I have a much
better relationship with them than you do with yours. I think that
it's fair that you let your DH shop for her. It seems like a good
rule of thumb to let each of us deal with our own side of the family.
You didn't do anything unfair. Maybe she learned a lesson from
this. I just heard a good saying, "Don't go to the hardware
store for milk." That might apply, for some of us regarding
going to our ILs for love, acceptance, and nurturing. We'd be best
off looking for that from other people!
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