My MIL is a total slob, never shuts
up, always lies, acts like she knows everything, is totally 2
faced, and is a cold person to her grandkids (mine, not her other
grandkids). She's such a b!tch that her own son doesn't
talk to her. She's always trying to make a fool out of me.
One Thanksgiving, soon after we arrived, she started to put the
food away. Many times my kids, ages 5 and 3, ask for food,
and she puts it away. She says that it's for her husband,
for his lunch the next day. She tried to put a wedge between
my spouse and me. She's in total denial that her favorite
son does every drug that he can. She's the biggest hypochondriac
that you will meet. She feels that the world should revolve
around her. I don't want to top anyone with my story.
I just want to know if anyone has had similar experiences, and
what they did about it. Her daughter isn't any better.
At her house, once, she and her daughter actually kept tabs on
who burned me the most. Yet, they wonder why we don't go
there anymore, and why I don't invite them here. They liked
me, at first, or maybe it was all fake. The other DILs had
the same problems. Mine are worse, only because I was around
longer. I hate people who are fake. This family has
lied about everything, and my spouse sees it too.
Signed - I Feel Bad
For Him
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Worst gift: This is
not about my MIL (who I like), but my DH's GM (my MIL's MIL), who
is fairly well-off, and not in the least senile. There are
too many atrocities to list, but the worst gifts from her reported,
as reported by various family members over the years include:
(1) Her dead husband's wadded-up, crusty-food-stained ties.
(2) Obviously used infant girl clothes for a male toddler.
(3) A subspecialty (name brand) cookie gift box, in which
everything was past its expiration date (that repeated several years
running, so she must have stocked up at a sale). And (4)
A set of cocktail trays decorated with real pressed dead-and-crumbling
butterflies under glass. The strange thing is that she consistently
gives 2 of her grandchildren (my DH and BIL) the junk gifts, but
the others sometimes get large checks and cruise vacations.
It would be easier to understand if she was just cheap, but there
does seem to be some intent behind it. Since we don't really
expect or need anything from her, there's no point in being bitter.
So, we try to appreciate the humor of the situation. And,
each holiday season we anticipate how she might try to top herself.
I suppose you could say that she gives us the gift of laughter.
Signed - Baffled and
Bemused
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Try and beat this:
MIL just asked me how often DH and I have sex!!!
Signed - Try And Beat
This
RESPONSE: Try And Beat This
Ugghhhh. I hope that your response was, "None of your damned
business."
RESPONSE: Try And Beat This
Tell her, "Every time, right before you come over!"
RESPONSE: Try And Beat This
Whoa. That's one of those situations where all you can do is smile
and say, "Why do you ask?"
RESPONSE: Try And Beat This
Tell her 3 or 4 times per day. That ought to shut her up.
RESPONSE: Try And Beat This
You poor thing. If my MIL had done that, I would have RUN, not
walked, to this list to post about it, too! Yikes. I bet that
nobody will catch any of us (if we're MILs someday) doing that!
RESPONSE: Try And Beat This
LOL. I can't beat your story, but I think that I can match it.
When DH and I happily announced to MIL that we were expecting our
first baby, her response was, "Well, now that X is pregnant,
you two have to be careful when you are having sex!" Ugh!
Even my mom would have been too embarrassed to say this to me.
These types of things can only come from my MIL, who is lacking
in tact and class!
RESPONSE: Try And Beat This
Sigh. I guess that I can't exactly top it, but I quite surely can
equal it. My MIL has asked me more than once over the years, especially
in our early years of marriage, how the romance is between DH and
me. ICK! The first few times, I was too stunned to put her in
her place. I gave her vague, general answers that indicated that
all was fine. But, the questions just got more personal. She has
stopped asking this question, though, because the last time she
did, I had grown a little older and wiser (and more fed up) and
responded with a laugh, saying, "If there WERE problems in
the romance department, do you really think I would discuss them
with YOU?" As I said, that ended that line of questions!
This happened about 8
months ago. I was 8 months pregnant at the time, and in our
custom there is a ceremony that is performed. Usually the
girl's parents buy a necklace made of black and gold beads for the
mother-to-be. But, dear MIL wanted to be the one to do that.
My mom said that it was ok, as she was not too bothered and neither
was I. My parents came here, then, and were present for the
ceremony. That day, I wore the necklace and earrings that
my MIL sent. In the evening, when we were talking, the MIL
told me that the black beads were given to her by DH's cousin.
She does not like the person, so she decided to give them to me.
Then, she casually mentioned that she had purchased a diamond ring
that totaled almost $1,000!!! WOW!!! Where did she get
the money from when she and FIL are always crying that they have
no money? I have no grudge against her for buying diamonds.
But, when she told me that the earrings and the pendant in the necklace
that she made for me were not gold, but fake, I was really upset.
This ceremony comes once in a lifetime, and this is what she did.
Now that the in-laws are here, I found out that they spent $10 on
my jewelry, and they are still crying about it!!!
Signed - Not Even Worth
$10
RESPONSE: Not Even Worth $10
Buy a fake baby doll, and when they ask to spend time with their
grandchild, hand them the doll and let them have at it!!
RESPONSE: Not Even Worth $10
That's really nice of your MIL to tell you all that and ruin what
is a beautiful moment/memory for you. It sounds like your MIL needs
attention. Ignore her. Good luck to you.
RESPONSE: Not Even Worth $10
Well, no need to sweat over ideas for your next gift to MIL. Give
her a $10 bill with a note saying that you know that she has always
felt that your beads had set her back, so you thought that the $10
reimbursement would be a gift that should please her!
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