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- foreigntemptress/Posted: 18-SEP-03
DF has a considerable sum of money being held for
him in a trust fund. FMIL administers the fund. DF,
about to be married, decides he wants financial independence.
He asked for his money. FMIL refused to hand it over.
"It will destroy the family," says she. Face it,
woman, your boy's growing up. Now she's keeping his money.
We might be able to deal with that, but we know what she does
to other people's property. When she divorced FFIL twenty
years ago, part of the settlement was that she would live in an
apartment belonging to him. She lived in it for a while,
and then she sold it. FFIL doesn't know that she sold it
because they never talk. She SOLD his APARTMENT. And,
by the way, she moved in with her father, and kept the money.
Signed - She Disgusts
Me
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My DH and I have been
married for over 20 years now. My MIL constantly drives me
crazy, even though she is 1,200 miles away! Last week, she
totally sent me over the edge. After 20 years of hearing her
moan, complain, and whine about not having any money (due to the
fact that she had just been in a car accident that totaled her car),
DH and I decided we that we would try to help her out by taking
money out of our credit union account and sending her some money
to put down on another car. After I sent her the check, she
did call to say "thank you". However, I was somewhat
confused because she did not seem more surprised or grateful about
the amount of money that we sent. It almost seemed to me that
she expected it. I dismissed my feelings, though, trying to
give her the benefit of the doubt. Later in the week she called
looking for her DS (my DH). However, he was using the lawn
mower and I told her that I would give him the message to call her
back when he came into the house. She did mention to me during
that conversation, however, that she had been looking at a new 2004
model that would cost her $19,000. I told her that we hoped
that by sending $3,000 for her to put with the insurance money (of
almost another $3,000), it would help her keep her payments down.
At that point she let out a small little chuckling sound that I
found strange, but I did not ask what was meant by it. I took
it as a small chuckle of relief that she would be able to keep her
car payments low. When DH came in from mowing the lawn, I
told him that his mother wanted him to call her, which he did.
After the phone conversation was over (and I listened to only his
side of the conversation), I asked what she discussed with him.
He said that she had sold "some" of her stocks and had
gotten $15,000 for them so that she could buy the car that she wanted
outright, with NO car payments. I came unglued! I quickly
calculated that she now had more than enough money to buy the car
that she wanted outright ($15,000 + $3,000 + $3,000 = $21,000),
and that she only had to cash in "some" of her stocks.
I told my DH that I had been hearing her complain for 20 years about
having no money. I had no idea that she had so much in stock
resources, and if that was the case all along, why didn't she cash
more of them in instead of complaining to us and accepting money
from us? This was not the first time that we have sent her
money, but it was the first time we had sent such a large sum.
After all, I still have a car payment, DH drives an 8 year old vehicle
and we are trying to help put our son through college. I feel
sorry for his mother and send her money. I am sorry to say
that it was actually my idea to begin with, and I was the one who
wrote out and mailed the check. I keep thinking that she will
change, and she has. Only it seems to always be for the worst!
Signed - Fool Me Once,
Shame On You. Fool Me Twice, Shame On Me.
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Worst gift: For my husband's
50th birthday, his mother gave him a 2 foot tall replica of a lighthouse
made out of scrap wood and halved wine-bottle corks. He doesn't
sail or even particularly like lighthouses.
Signed - How long Do
We Have To Keep It?
RESPONSE: How long Do We Have To Keep It?
You've already kept it too long. It's time for the yard sale box!
RESPONSE: How long Do We Have To Keep It?
My MIL would LOVE a gift like this. She is crazy for lighthouses,
and even signed a card to my newborn, "Your Lighthouse Loving
Grandmother". She gave him a lighthouse themed layette outfit.
Goofy -goofy goofy. Keep it through one holiday rotation, and then
tell them that you gave it to a friend who admired it, perhaps DH's
BOSS. We once lived in a culture where this was expected -offering
an admired object as a gift. We got rid of a BUNCH of cr@p this
way.
I went to pick up my
DS from MIL's house. MIL informed me that she had spent their
time together trying to see if there was any of SIL in him.
She then proclaimed that he got his eye color and hair color from
SIL. I have the same eye and hair color as my son. SIL
has totally different coloring.
Signed - I Guess She
Was Talking About SIL's Recessed Genes
RESPONSE: I Guess She Was Talking About SIL's Recessed
Genes
LMAO! What a loon!
RESPONSE: I Guess She Was Talking About SIL's Recessed
Genes
Hopefully, DS didn't inherit MIL's tendency for acting loony.
RESPONSE: I Guess She Was Talking About SIL's Recessed
Genes
I know exactly how you feel. I have a two month old son, and all
I hear about is how much my son looks like my SIL, SIL's kids, and
DH. I have yet to hear my SIL or MIL say anything about what features
of mine my son has, like his nose. My SIL says that he has her
nose. I am sick of hearing it all. I don't even like taking him
to their house.
RESPONSE: I Guess She Was Talking About SIL's Recessed
Genes
How irritatingly dumb! DH's sister says that my DD (her niece)
gets her taste in food and favorite sleep positions from HER husband
(BIL)!" How stupid, considering that my daughter, first of
all, shares no bloodline with this man. And, second, she hardly
spends any time with them at all. How is she to pick up their habits?
The last time we saw them was about 3-4 months ago. We hardly spend
any time with them, because even though they are younger than us
and have no children, they talk down to us AND give us advice on
how to raise our child!!
RESPONSE: I Guess She Was Talking About SIL's Recessed
Genes
Oh, my word. That's hilarious. Mine did the same thing - comparing
my beautiful DD to hideous and evil SIL. But, it was even stupider
of her, because DH was ADOPTED, and therefore, my daughter shares
no genes with any of his family (THANK GOD).
RESPONSE: I Guess She Was Talking About SIL's Recessed
Genes
It never ceases to amaze me that the ILs will see any remote fragment
of themselves in their grandchild, rather than seeing the child's
own mother in the baby! It seems to be the way of human nature,
though. My ILs were the same way. Believe it or not, at one time,
my MIL even insisted that I looked like HER descendants, rather
than my own relatives! It's laughable, really, but if it gets your
goat, give it right back, "Oh, I definitely see MY coloring,
not SIL's." They will disagree with you, but you can just
disagree (with a smile) right back. "Nope, I think baby looks
like mom."
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