MIL, who is 5'1 and about 280 pounds,
constantly chides DH and me about our weight. I'm 5'4"
and weigh about 150 lbs., and my husband is 6' and weighs in at
about 220 lbs - OF PURE MUSCLE!
Signed -Who's The Fatty?
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I feel sorry for my MIL.
She is a divorcee with three sons. She places all of her self
worth / self esteem on believing that they need her. Yet,
sadly, she fails to realize that we are all adults and no one needs
her anymore. Her sons are 28, 27, and 23. They can handle
life now, without mummy holding their hand. She attempts to
manipulate her sons into believing that they need her. This
is done by attacking their self esteem and putting them down.
She tells them that they can't do things by themselves, and that
they are failures. She once said to me in front of my partner
" I don't know what ( my partner ) would do without me.
He couldn't cope with life without me, could he?" She
was looking at me for support of this comment. I walked out
of the room in silence and shock. When, sadly, the reality
is that she can't cope without him in her life. She just can't
let go!
Signed - Going Crazy
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Worst gift: My MIL was
in town for a work conference, so my husband and I took her to dinner.
Although it was a few weeks before his actual birthday, my MIL made
a big deal about bringing my husband his "present" so
she "wouldn't have to pay to mail it". Out of her
purse she pulled a card and an unwrapped, travel-sized umbrella.
For another holiday (Xmas) we received blue towels that leave the
user covered with blue fur. My husband would not let me ask
for the receipt to return them because he is afraid of her.
Signed - Just the Tip
of the Iceberg
RESPONSE: Just the Tip of the Iceberg
And, the problem is? An umbrella is not an offensive gift. Neither
are towels. If you wash them a couple of times, they will no longer
leave you fuzzy. This happens with most towels.
RESPONSE: Just the Tip of the Iceberg
Good for DH. While it's nice to put the receipt with the gift in
case the recipient doesn't care for it, it is incredibly rude to
demand the receipt from the gift giver.
RESPONSE: Just the Tip of the Iceberg
Okay, those are not great presents, but not mean-spirited ones,
either. I would never *ask* for a receipt to return a present;
it's just too hurtful. Quietly donate the towels to charity, or
demote them to car washing status, and buy some that you like better.
RESPONSE: Just the Tip of the Iceberg
And, your point is? What's wrong with the umbrella? Doesn't it
rain where you live? Blue towels that leave lint? Big deal. Don't
use them. Throw them out. Get over it, and get a life!
I think that I can beat
everyone's story! My MIL has had it in for me since day one.
The first time I walked into her house, she looked me up and down
like I was rubbish. Within the first three months of our relationship
she threatened me, told me to break up with her son, and told me
to move back to my state, or else. She told me that I was
ruining her son's life and that I was from a "bad family",
that I have no morals, and that I "don't know how to live".
My parents happen to be divorced, but I am from a wealthy, respected
and loving family. She now tells me that I was nothing before
I met her son, that I didn't know how to dress or act, and that
she made me what I am. Her marriage is a sham. She racks
up thousands on credit cards, which she can't afford, to buy designer
clothes because she has to be better than everyone else. She
constantly criticizes everyone, including my SIL, and says that
she hates people and that some shouldn't even be allowed to breathe.
She is racist and says that people "don't belong here",
even though she is from overseas and can barely speak English!
She tells me that I have tried to steal her son from her, which
is cr@p, as we moved in with my ILs to shut her up when she wouldn't
allow her 30 year old son to leave home. That was a year ago,
and she still wont let him go. He wanted to propose to me
and she stopped him. This was not before she screamed at me
that he tried to get her to buy a ring for me, which is a lie, just
to spoil it for us. She starts screaming fights with me all
the time, and accuses me of things like trying to make her fat by
the food I cook. She says that I do not clean up, even though
I have spent all day every Saturday and at least an hour on other
weekdays cleaning the entire house and doing washing to try to help
out. Also, it's my fault that he has a cr@p job and isn't
completely best buddies with my BIL. BIL and his wife have
never once invited us over in 2 years, and we often invite them
out and have them over. Also, I have given them all presents
on their birthdays, Xmas and Easter, and I have never once received
one, even though they came over on my birthday to see my MIL.
My MIL bought the presents that they have given to my man, even
for his birthday. She frequently tells me I don't deserve
her son, and that I am a b!tch (to my face). She also says
I have broken her family and changed her son into an evil person,
even though I have busted my @ss continuously for all this time
to try to help and be the perfect DIL. She also constantly
criticizes my family to the extent of saying that they are ugly,
and even that her son is so much better looking than my sister's
partner. She also has a sick habit of reminding me where her
son "came from", and that I will never have him, he will
always belong to her etc., etc.
Signed - Any Story You
Can Tell, I Can Top!!
RESPONSE: Any Story You Can Tell, I Can Top!!
MOVE OUT!!!
RESPONSE: Any Story You Can Tell, I Can Top!!
Why are you still there?!?!?
RESPONSE: Any Story You Can Tell, I Can Top!!
Move out of her house. If your boyfriend really wants to be with
you, he will move out. He doesn't need her permission to move.
He is an adult. Stop being a doormat to these people.
RESPONSE: Any Story You Can Tell, I Can Top!!
And you stay because? Let me get this straight. You come from
a wealthy family, etc., but yet you live with his parents?!?!?
You live with his parents because your MIL (it doesn't sound like
you are married to begin with) wouldn't let him leave? Does this
sound NORMAL to you? It sounds like a living he!!, but it also
sounds as though you like it!
RESPONSE: Any Story You Can Tell, I Can Top!!
Leave. He won't stand up to his mother, to the point where you're
living with her? Plus, he's got a "cr@p job"? Sorry,
you've got yourself a grade-A Loser Mama's Boy. Get out now.
RESPONSE: Any Story You Can Tell, I Can Top!!
She is one sick lady, but where is DH in all of this? Does he stick
up for you? Or does he let his mommy get away with this sickness?
RESPONSE: Any Story You Can Tell, I Can Top!!
So, you aren't even married to this man, is that right? She won't
"let" him move out?? What a total wimp. Are you sure
that you want a man who is so totally controlled by someone else???
RESPONSE: Any Story You Can Tell, I Can Top!!
So, why are you still there? Leave that sissy mommy's boy, and
find yourself a real man. He can't leave home at 30??? Doesn't
that tell you that something's wrong with him?
RESPONSE: Any Story You Can Tell, I Can Top!!
I'm confused - are you actually married to this man or just "engaged".
If you're not legally bound, I don't understand what could possibly
be holding you there. Otherwise, I say that you should stop being
a doormat. Stop trying to be the perfect DIL, as there is no such
thing and she'll criticize you to bits no matter what you do. Stop
trying to please her.
RESPONSE: Any Story You Can Tell, I Can Top!!
Are you still living with her? Why the he!! would a 30 year old
"man" let his mama tell him to stay in her house? Move
out and tell him that he is welcome to come with you, but you won't
be going back to his mama's house. Where is your self-worth? Has
this woman totally stolen it? You don't have a MIL problem, you
have a DH problem. Tell him to find his backbone and use it, then
leave.
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