The year of planning my wedding
was he!!. My ILs wanted nothing to do with the wedding (they
were mad because it wasn't where they wanted it to be), showed
no interest, and said that they couldn't help financially as well.
That was fine. So, when it came time to plan for the rehearsal
dinner, my parents offered to do that for us. They sent
out invites (our wedding was not in the state where all of my
husband's relatives are from). My parents invited ALL of
my DH's relatives who were traveling from out of town to the rehearsal
dinner. When my MIL got the invitation to the rehearsal
dinner, she called me up and asked if "things" were
done differently in the state that I was from. On the invitations
under "hosted by" it said my parent's names, so she
wanted to know why her name wasn't there! HELLO! My
parents were footing the bill!!!!! My mother offered to
redo the invites and send new ones out, changing it after she
received a check for $1,500 to cover the cost. Funny, how
all of a sudden my MIL shut her mouth.
Signed - Funny
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My MIL and I had a fairly
decent relationship early in my 23 year marriage. I still
enjoy her on many levels, but she really needs a life. She
actually mostly has one, but still enjoys controlling. Two
of her three children have difficulties. One has learning
disabilities and an alternate lifestyle. The other has mental
problems (severe) and a marriage to a man with similar problems
(who makes me nervous). And, their young boy, in my opinion,
doesn't deserve any of this. MIL wants us to break with a
nicely established, 4 year pattern of doing Thanksgiving at my house.
They live about 6 hours away. She wants us there. I
wouldn't care, but I don't want to do an overnight at her house
with my screwed up SIL and her husband. My husband will probably
be fairly supportive. She also recently accused me, oh so
nicely, of not opening her e-cards, which I find a drag to download.
She also forwards me just about any e mail that anyone sends her
(items which were not really intended for me). I'm getting
cautious about what I send her. Advice?
Signed - Getting Cautious
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At my wedding, my MIL
managed to piss off every vendor there (they all complained and
asked what her problem was), and she was cold to just about everyone,
especially me. She refused to wear a corsage. I asked
her why, and she said that it bothered her with her shawl.
This was an outdoor wedding in mid-July, and it got to be in the
90s that day. Do you think that she or anyone else wore a
shawl? Nope! It was just a personal slam to me, and
it was pretty darn rude.
Signed - Pretty Darn
Rude
RESPONSE: Pretty Darn Rude
That was wrong of her to mistreat you and your guest. But, as long
as you weren't wearing the shawl, who cares? You can't tell anyone
how to dress. I'm sorry if you didn't like my response, but I'm
just being honest. Good luck!!!
My MIL decided that she
wanted to be involved in "all aspects" of our wedding
planning, despite the fact we told her that we would let her know
when we needed her help. She actually called a "family
meeting" with (my fiancé's family only, why include
mine?), and proceeded to go through her typewritten list of 50 (no
kidding!) questions. She tried to force responses to everything.
To most things I said, "We have not decided on that yet,"
the only way to deal with someone so invasive.
Signed - She Wanted To
Be Involved
RESPONSE: She Wanted To Be Involved
Why did you stay after the first question? The first 10? The first
15? Get it?
RESPONSE: She Wanted To Be Involved
My MIL was also interfering in every aspect of our wedding planning,
so I was pleased when my husband suggested that we take off and
get married in Las Vegas on our own. It took her 6 years to realize
that the original wedding was called off due to her interference.
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