My FIL passed away 15 years ago,
and my MIL was lost. So, the good son, my DH, said, "LET'S
MOVE IN with her to help her." She was a spoiled woman.
Her husband did everything, and she would throw a fit whenever she
did not get her way. So, we moved in together and bought a
house. There were six of us, 3 adults and 3 kids. My
MIL was very jealous of my kids. One day, she did not know
that I was home, and I heard her cussing at my DS and telling him
that she was going to tell my DH that he had broken the window,
when, in fact, it was she who broke the window after she found out
that my DH taken me to lunch, and she was not invited to go along.
She has done this for over 20 years and is still doing this to my
kids and my grandkids.
Signed - Stuck With Senior
Brat
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Worst gift: Recently,
while I was heavily pregnant, my SIL gave me a couple of very small
dresses. They would have been much too tight for my average
frame, even if I wasn't pregnant. Also, while I was pregnant,
she referred to me, loudly, at a wedding as "the human beach
ball". She asked me, prior to Christmas Day, if there was
any food that I couldn't eat due to being pregnant, and I said that
I couldn't eat shellfish. So, what do you know? The Christmas
dinner consisted of scallops, prawns and boiled potatoes. Nice!
Signed - Need to De-Brief
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- sugarbear, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 27-SEP-03
My MIL has been planning to hold a garage sale for
almost 2 years now. She has filled her garage to bursting with
junk that was leftovers when my DH's grandfather (FIL's father) passed
away. My hubby and I just bought a house a few months ago, and
up until we started moving, the garage sale was a distant memory.
Of course, in the middle of our move, MIL decided that this was the
time that we must come and remove ALL of my DH's junk/childhood toys
etc., that had been stored in a closet and in the garage on shelves,
well out of the way and not bothering anyone. Also, for 3 weekends
in a row, she demanded our time to help her in some form relating
to the "garage sale". We hardly got to unpack anything
for over a month. You see, she wanted to get "HER house
in order". Never mind that we were frantically trying to
get moved out of an apartment, and we both worked at different times
of the day (me day, DH nights). It is . . .
Signed - Always About Her
RESPONSE: Always About Her
Ever thought about saying NO???
RESPONSE: Always About Her
It's always about her, because you and your DH ALLOW it to be always
about her. Had I been in your shoes, I would have removed the childhood
mementos, and then told her that she was on her own.
RESPONSE: Always About Her
Your MIL is jealous. Instead of being happy for her DS and DIL buying
a home, as most normal parents would be, MIL needed the attention
of her DS drawn to her - so as to force him to ignore the needs of
his marriage. Your mistake was in helping MIL every time she asked
for help with the suddenly urgent garage sale. MIL is not going to
change. What has to change is how you and, most importantly, DH,
react to her demands. Simply because MIL wants something, whatever
it may be, does not mean that the two of you have to comply. Your
marriage comes first, and this is something that your DH is going
to have to make his mom realize, by his words and actions.
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- sugarbear, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 27-SEP-03
IL and FIL came up to see our new house. We told
them that we were recovering from bad colds, and maybe next weekend
would be better, but that wasn't soon enough for MIL. It also
happened to be the weekend after my DH's birthday. So, they
arrived and MIL rushed in and planted a big kiss on DH's cheek.
This surprised us both, because in the three or more years that I've
known my DH, I've seen MIL kiss him exactly 3 times (once was on our
wedding day). Remember, I said that we had colds, right?
Anyway, she gave him his gift and he was messing about with it (CD
box set, so he was in his own little world). She jumped up and
said, "Let's see this house." So, I showed her and
a reluctant FIL (he really didn't care to wander about). MIL's
only comment (nice one, that is) was "those chairs go good with
that table," (because she gave us the chairs). We appreciated
the chairs, but they are UGLY and not very comfortable. But,
at least we had some extra seating. She did not mention a word
about our painting the bedroom, or the bathroom décor, or anything.
She then spent the remainder of the visit talking about the past,
i.e., times when I wasn't around to mess up their perfect little family.
So, not only do I have nothing really to contribute to the walk down
memory lane, I was made to feel like an outsider, and . . .
Signed - Left Out IN MY
OWN HOME!!!
RESPONSE: Left Out IN MY OWN HOME!!!
I feel for you, as I have been there. Your MIL is obviously very
insecure, as SHE is the outsider, not you. I would save up for some
new chairs so that you can give the ugly chairs she gave you away
to charity. Tell her that you like to select your own furniture so
that YOUR house reflects your own personality.
RESPONSE: Left Out IN MY OWN HOME!!!
Oh, do I feel your pain!!! My MIL decided to call one night and announce
that she was coming! I was deathly ill with a bacterial infection.
My eye was infected and swollen shut. I had bronchitis and a sinus
infection. I couldn't speak above a whisper. DH tried to talk the
MONSTER-in-law into coming another time when I was better, but she
insisted that she was coming to "help". RIGHT!!!! When
he told me she couldn't be talked out of coming, I cried for a while,
and then I wrote on a piece of paper (because I can't talk, remember)
to call her back and ask her what would she like for me to have on
hand to eat. I didn't know her very well, and wasn't sure what she'd
like to have, and I certainly didn't want to torture her the way she'd
torture me by fixing everything that I hate! When DH called and asked
her my question, she went off and started screaming that I wasn't
going to treat her like a piece of *expletive*!!! Huh? DH corrected
her, and told her that I was trying to be NICE, and make their stay
PLEASANT, and that he didn't know what her problem was. Well, we
all know what it is - she's a psycho nut woman. She called back the
next day, and said that she was on a diet, and not to buy anything
sweet or any junk food. She didn't give me any clue what to cook
for her, so I went to the grocery store and bought whatever. Getting
ready for her to come, I crawled on my hands and knees in our junky,
extra room, trying to get it cleared out to hold an air mattress for
her. I was very, very ill. I crawled around and dusted furniture
and cleaned bathrooms. When she got here, she went straight to the
cupboard and opened it up and made a comment to her son (DH's half-brother,
who is 20 years younger than DH) that we didn't have anything to eat.
So, they got back in the car, after having driven 400 miles to get
here, and went to the grocery store. They came back with pound bags
of chips, big 60 cookies, candy, etc., etc. To "help" me
out, since I was sick, my MIL dropped cookies on the floor, smirked
at me, stomped them and ground them into my wood floors, my carpet,
and the linoleum. They scattered chip crumbs all over our couch.
The half brother lit a firecracker in my kitchen sink, burning my
counter and flooring in the kitchen. I was in tears. They were going
to leave on Thursday morning, when DH said, "You're leaving already?"
They stayed until Saturday morning. I wanted to kill him. When they
were getting ready to leave, I helped them pack the car, and I made
it OBVIOUS that I wanted them OUT of my house. You should see the
pictures of my DS, who was 7 months old at the time. He hated them.
He would laugh when I'd put him down for a nap. He was so relieved
to get away from them and their constant picking. It took me the
entire weekend to straighten the house back out, to put my furniture
and pictures back the way I had them, and to get up all the cookies
and chips. And, thank heaven, they have NEVER been back!
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