My MIL has done many bad things,
but here is a real kicker. What does everybody think?
MIL invited my wife's ex and his new wife (out of state) to her
house for a club golf tournament and a 2 day visit. My wife
had been telling her for months that this was unacceptable, and
that it would really hurt her. We have not spoken to her since
the visit (for about 8 months now). Again, this is only the
latest "bad" action the MIL has done. While the
visit may not seem like an earthshaking thing, it seems inappropriate.
What does it say about her regard for her daughter, or, for that
matter, me? Your opinions are valued. By checking in
the box, please answer the following question:
The MIL / wife's ex-husband's visit was INAPPROPRIATE, TO SAY THE
LEAST. Thanks all.
Signed - Inappropriate
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- squidofthefuture/Posted: 30-SEP-03
When my husband told his parents that he was going
to ask me to marry him, his mother's reaction was, "Oh God, she's
pregnant!" He told her no, but she refused to believe that
there could be any other reason why her son would want to marry me.
She watched me like a hawk for signs that I was hiding a pregnancy,
until 9 months had passed. Now that we've been married for 3
years, I actually am pregnant. But, luckily I don't have to
deal with MIL, because DH severed ties with his family a few months
ago after finally getting tired of their manipulating and lies.
Worst gift: Here's a
twist. This is about a cr@ppy gift that my poor MIL received
from her own mother. My MIL always goes through so much stress
to find her mother an awesome gift. Her mother is pretty wealthy,
and has absolutely everything that she could ever want. And,
what did good ol GMIL get her? A CHEAP string of freshwater
pearls that were strung on elastic. Sad stuff here, sad stuff.
Signed - My Poor MIL
RESPONSE: My Poor MIL
Just because a person is wealthy, that does not mean they have to
spend all their money on gifts. It amazes me every time I read one
of these stories. Why does the gift have to be in proportion to the
income of the gift giver? Are poorer people more deserving of expensive
gifts, so the wealthy must supply these for them? Give me a break!
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- thorn in MIL's side DIL, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 30-SEP-03
According to Merriam-Webster, schizophrenic means contradictory
or antagonistic qualities or attitudes. Boy, does that describe
MIL! Also, she has more than her fair share of paranoia.
However, she claims that I have these problems because I am somewhat
of a victim advocate. If I see an injustice, I try to right
it. That's all I do. I also let people/companies know
if someone/something was great. This is a two way street, as
far I am concerned. I take action, unlike MIL who sits on her
rear in her house, watching the goings on across the way, and b!tching
under her breath about how the cashier at the local store gypped her
out of change. This woman threw a fit that I am from the next
county over, from the country, as I mentioned earlier. She acts
as if I have no education. Let me see. A curve is a bend
in the road. A curb borders the street, and you park your car
at the curb. According to her, a curve is interchangeable for
both meanings. You and I might take "Tylenol" for
headaches. She takes "Tyenoll". Now, I admit,
I have a mental block where math is concerned. MIL doesn't,
and that is fine. I was adding something one time, and I made
a mistake. She said, "You can talk fancy, but you are dumb
when it comes to math." I just replied, "At least
people can follow my conversations." She was pissed, but
such is life. I did very well in English, both in school and
at college. Of course, when I vent about MIL, I get erratic.
I do try to use proper grammar and such, though. MIL dropped
out in the eighth grade, and when her kids were in high school, she
got her GED after a hard struggle. Kudos to her, though.
I am sure that it must be hard to do that at any age. She also
dislikes the way that I clean house. I am not a perfectionist
when it comes to housework, unless it is Christmas. That is
when the house stays spotless, as I go all out for the holidays and
love to have people over for an open house. She once told DH
that I was a nasty @ss woman. At the time, I was ill with the
flu. Who's going to clean at such a time? Yet, this is
the same woman who, when she takes a tub bath, would put her dog in
the tub with her and bathe it at the same time! Y'all, that
is nasty! I am serious. The first time she did this while
DH and I were visiting. I was so floored. Incredible.
She also claims that the wastebasket in the bathroom is for looks
only. If we visit her when I have my period, she insists that
I take the disposable items to the kitchen to throw away. The
last time that her (now former) boyfriend was at the house, I told
her that I was not going to walk from the bathroom, in front of him,
to dispose of something so private. She replied that she didn't
want him to see a used sanitary item. I told her that he wouldn't
if he didn't look in the wastebasket! That shut her up.
Now, MIL had a hysterectomy, and so did BIL's wife. I had one,
also, due to endometriosis. All I heard was how I'd opted for
needless surgery to get DH's attention, and how MIL and SIL had suffered
for weeks, maybe months after their surgeries, because it had been
so hard. Me, I was up and about within a week. I had mine
done a different way, no incision, no stitches. Again, MIL was
pissed. Why, I do not know. I had the surgery while overseas,
so it's not like she had to help out. DH was allowed to take
leave, so there was no problem there. I do not get sick at the
drop of a hat, but when I do get sick, I get very ill. I recently
had an attack of kidney stones that kept me bedridden for a whole
month. I told DH that I wouldn't wish that amount of pain on
my worst enemy, not even MIL or the devil himself. I guess there
is some hope for MIL where I am concerned after all. By the
way, I call myself "Thorn in MIL's Side DIL" because MIL's
name is that of a flower that typically has thorns. I think
it's cute.
RESPONSE: Thorn in MIL's side DIL
I am totally LMAO off over your MIL taking a bath with the dog! BLECH!
You seem to have things pretty well under control in the standing
up for yourself department, though. LMAO, A DOG!
RESPONSE: Thorn in MIL's side DIL
This is really just an aside about sanitary napkins. While it's rude
to ask that of guests, she probably considers you family. Dogs have
a tendency to sniff things like that out in wastebaskets, and I'm
assuming that her kitchen trashcan has a lid, while her bathroom basket
does not. Nonetheless, I agree, it *would* be embarrassing to walk
across the house with a used sanitary napkin. I wouldn't be comfortable
with that, either.
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