Frequent
Fry Her TM
- dwn, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 07-OCT-03
I dyed my hair red one time, and my husband said,
"I always thought she'd look nice with red hair. I think
red hair is pretty." His mother's response? The
next time we were home, she dyed her hair red, and even had it cut
like mine.
Signed - Red Hair, Green
MIL
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Worst gift: Well, this
doesn't top exactly, but just follows in the same strain. After
our first year of dating, my now DF went on a trip with his family
to a state in the northeast. Afterward, he came down to visit
me. Once he got settled in, he brought in a bag from a very
famous, upscale jewelry store to the room where my parents and I were
sitting. He was grinning from ear to ear as he handed it to
me. Now, I didn't really think that it was an engagement ring
or anything, but I WAS anticipating something nice - a necklace or
earrings. Imagine my surprise when I opened the bag to find
it empty. My mother thought it was hilarious. Needless
to say, I did not.
Signed - Disappointed and
Embarrassed
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- keeps getting worse and worse and worse, 1 of 4 needed/Posted:
07-OCT-03
My MIL is a compulsive liar. One of my BILs is
getting married in this fall. She has done such a trash job
on his fiancé that practically the entire family hates her.
This girl is very nice, yet she is shy around people whom she isn't
familiar or comfortable with. She is intimidated by people.
Well, we are a large family, and you have to speak up at times or
you just get walked on or overlooked. It is not really an ideal
environment if you are shy. However, because she is on the quiet
side (I'm sure this will change once she's been around for a while),
she has been labeled as a snob. It is really sad how, because
of MIL's lies, this poor girl is doomed. It is so bad that they
now live five hours away. You'd think that people would get
the hint. One of the worst parts about it is that, because my
MIL doesn't like her, we are all expected to feel that way.
Thankfully, my husband sees his mother for what she is. We really
like our future new SIL.
Signed - Keeps Getting
Worse and Worse and Worse
RESPONSE: Keeps Getting Worse and Worse
and Worse
Make it your duty to correct everyone and report what a nice lady
your future SIL is, and how you are looking forward to having her
in the family.
RESPONSE: Keeps Getting Worse and Worse and Worse
I hope that you and DH are in contact with her to at least make her
feel that the whole family isn't against her. You may have a strong
ally in her in future years.
RESPONSE: Keeps Getting Worse and Worse and Worse
Good for you for not listening to MIL's evil talk about the poor girl,
but are you doing any more than that? I mean, when MIL says something
nasty about SIL, do you or DH speak up and defend her? I really hope
you do, otherwise that poor girl is going to have a heck of a time
with her revolting MIL and spineless and easily-bullied in-laws.
Frequent
Fry Her TM
- keeps getting worse and worse and worse, 2 of 4 needed/Posted:
07-OCT-03
My MIL is the nosiest person I know. If she calls
and gets our machine, she won't leave a message. Yet, when she
does get an answer, we get a rundown of how many times she called,
at what time, and that she got the machine. I've politely suggested
that she leave a message, because a lot of the time I'm actually home
and cannot get to the phone. I'm a SAHM of three boys, and if
I'm in the middle of changing a diaper, well, the phone just has to
wait. She just doesn't get it. Then, if it should be that
we actually weren't home, she asks 20 questions until she finds out
where we were, what we were doing, and with whom. Once, we went
on a long weekend trip, and we didn't tell anyone that we were leaving.
When we returned, she didn't talk to us for two weeks because we had
the nerve to leave town and not tell her. She has 12 other children
to worry about. I can honestly say that she is like this with
all of her kids. Thankfully . . .
Signed - Most Of Them See
Her Faults
RESPONSE: Most Of Them See Her Faults
I like the response that you and your DH got from her when you went
out of town without "informing" her! I'd go out of town
more often and not tell her!!!
RESPONSE: Most Of Them See Her Faults
My mother loves to "play 20 questions" and it drives me
nuts sometimes. Sometimes it's easier to ignore. I always think
that it would be better if I had some siblings, because there would
be others for her to focus her attention on. From your story, I can
see that it wouldn't matter.
RESPONSE: Most Of Them See Her Faults
My FIL is like your MIL. Luckily, you have 12 others to buffer her.
My DH is the only one, so we have no buffer to intrusive FIL other
than basically cutting him (them) out, and not telling them anything.
Oh, and moving far enough away from them!
RESPONSE: Most Of Them See Her Faults
Your story is the exact reason that I would never live in the same
state as my ILs. I would ring someone's neck if they thought it was
irresponsible of me to leave and take my family out of town without
consulting with them. Yeah, right!!! I like my privacy, and I like
family, but I'm not calling people and telling them every little thing
I do. That is just too close, and it would annoy the he!! out of
me to have parents still keeping the watchful eye. Tell her to flake
off and get a life. If she actually had one, she would have been
able to live without you for the weekend.
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