Worst gift: I have to
say that I have received some nice things from MIL, but the worst
gift giver is her sister. She is a total compulsive shopper,
a garage sale shopper. She buys all sorts of cr@p to give
as presents. Last year, for Christmas, she gave me 2 pairs
of sox (size children's small, these were for me - not my DD).
I also got a pair of PJs, size extra large, and a box of soap.
This soap set was so old that when I went to open the bottle that
said "bath gel", the top cracked and out plopped the "gel".
It was hard as a rock and smelled terrible. It was better,
though, than the soap set last year (I get one every year ).
There was a crack in the side of one of the "fancy soap"
boxes, and there were dead bugs in it. Yuck! She is
just the most tacky person ever. She adopted her 2 children,
and is extremely jealous that I was pregnant with my DD. On
Christmas Day, when I was exactly 5 months pregnant, in front of
everyone at the dinner table, she said that I should watch what
I was eating because I am not eating for 2 yet. YET?
Have you been around for the last 5 months, moron? I am eating
for 2, and if I wanted more carrots (that's what I was reaching
for), I can have more carrots. All through my pregnancy she
would make comments about my weight. I gained 7 pounds when
I was pregnant (baby and I were very sick), but she still insisted
on giving me advice on losing weight, because 40 years ago she was
a nurse for 18 months. Give me a break. I had toxemia
during my pregnancy (high blood pressure, too) and had been taken
off of work at 5 weeks (yes, 5 weeks). I was on bed rest,
and couldn't even have a shower without someone being home with
me. I was told to rest and not get upset. So, what did
MIL and her evil sister do? They threw "me" a baby
shower. Now, before I get jumped at for being "ungrateful",
I will tell you who was there: Her friends, MIL's friends,
3 members of my family and MILs sister's neighbors. Not one
of my friends, nor the rest of my family were invited. So,
I sat in front of people whom I had never met, opening garage sale
presents, and trying not to cry. It was pathetic. It
wasn't a party for me. I was just the excuse.
Signed - Thank Goodness
My Child Doesn't Have Those Genes!
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MIL is passive-aggressive,
and, as many of you know, that tends to get aggravating. It
didn't take long for me to confront her on it. And, once I did,
all he!! broke loose. Her mind is so muddled that half of the
cr@p she "fights" back with isn't even relevant to the problem.
DH and I live in the southwest, and she lives in the Midwest.
When I first started defending myself, she immediately went from,
"That wasn't meant to be an insult," to, "You're trying
to keep DH from his family!" Not once, mind you, had we
ever claimed that we were moving back to the Midwest. Nor had
she stated this before, it just came out of the blue. We didn't
even live there to begin with! When DH told MIL that it was
he who wished to stay in the state that we are in, she came after
me again and said, "It's not right that you wont let DH move
home." What the heck, psycho. He just told you himself
that he wanted to stay where we were. The woman honestly believes,
and has stated, that she is a "tool of God". It wasn't
as if she was rescuing damsels in distress or saving lost puppy dogs.
It was that she had this "power" to keep men from, dare
I say it, drinking alcohol! GASP! What a coincidence.
They all happen to be men (these guys are usually casual drinkers,
BTW). Yet, for some reason, she could never stop herself from
drinking. I guess her powers can't work miracles. When
DH and I visited, we cut our stay short because of her behavior,
DH made sure that this was apparent. The next thing I knew,
it wasn't fair that we had made her feel unwelcome to come visit us.
We invited her several times. Each time she said, "I can't
afford it." Why? Because she blew all of her child
support on booze? When DH was deployed, he asked me to check
his e-mail for him. Now I'm a "controlling" and "demanding"
wife. So DH again explained to her that he had ASKED me to read
his e-mails and to tell him what they said when he called. And,
yet, again she said, "Not controlling? You can't even have
your own e-mail without HER checking it." Wait. What
happened there? He just said that he ASKED me, you trollop!
Her two daughters, who live with her, have had ALL of their relationships
destroyed because of her. She starts fights. COUGH.
Her son, who lives 10 minutes away, hardly visits (smart lad), and
he told her that he would not jeopardize his marriage for her.
I guess that she has selective sight, as she never seems to grasp
that people avoid her, laugh at her e-mails, and the fact that she
has never been able to keep a romantic relationship for more than
a year. Then, she had the nerve to tell me that DH will "resent"
me for not moving back, and once she's passed on to he!!, or wherever
meddling kids like her go, then it will be even worse. How's
that? Is she going to haunt me? The only true fact that
she's ever said about me was that I was spoiled. Yep, that's
right. Does she want me to give it all back? God forbid
my parents spoil their only kid. She said that I was being selfish
and trying to get my way. I asked if she had been looking in
the mirror, while drunk, and confused herself for me. She actually
believed that by antagonizing me to e-mail her back a mean response
(and I did), that DH would say, " Tisk, tisk. DW,
now I must divorce you for telling my ignorant mother the truth!
You have dishonored me!" I wish I could have seen her face
when DH responded with that. I'll spare you all those details.
Now, MIL is threatening to shut DH out of her life. His response,
" Oh well. Let's play video games!!" Sorry to
go on and on. And thanks for your time.
Signed - Don't Want to
Upset A "Tool of God"
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My ILs are driving me CRAZY!
ALL of them! They have repeatedly disrespected me behind DH's
back in the past, and, recently, they started doing it in front of
him. They make inappropriate remarks constantly. DH has
confronted them on it, and they just tell him that I am trying to
cause trouble or that I am turning him against them. They refuse
to call DH. They expect him to call them all the time.
If he doesn't call them, then it is my fault. If he doesn't
spend enough time with them, then it is my fault. I am getting
really fed up with them. I am almost to the point where I want
to give him the choice between them or me, but . . .
Signed - I Know That Isn't
Right
RESPONSE: I Know That Isn't Right
Why not give him the choice? It should be easy, as they don't treat
him with any respect, either.
RESPONSE: I Know That Isn't Right
Refuse to be with them. And, if you have kids, they do not see the
kids unless they can be civil to you - end of story.
When DD was less than a
year old, we went over to SIL's house to visit. SO EXHAUSTING!
They had watched her a few times and just adore her, almost to a fault.
They have no children themselves, but BIL's mother baby-sits for a
living, and they help out a lot with the children. This, of
course, makes them the supreme authorities on child rearing!
They always found something wrong with the baby and questioned me
about it, i.e., her fingernail length, the wax they found in her ears,
what she ate, when she slept, why she wasn't wearing any shoes yet
(she was not even 6 months old, so she wasn't walking). It just
went on and on. The final straw was when my SIL grabbed our
baby and was trying to bottle feed her. DD was tired and cranky,
not hungry, so she threw the bottle down all the while SIL was holding
her and walking around. SIL slapped her hand so hard that I
heard it loud and clear. We were at least 10 yards away from
them. I stood up and took my baby from her. They never
watched our baby again!
Signed - Tired of Their
Drama
RESPONSE: Tired of Their Drama
I would have smacked HER a good one!
RESPONSE: Tired of Their Drama
If someone slapped my kid, I would have had them arrested for assault.
RESPONSE: Tired of Their Drama
"I stood up and took my baby from her." Wow, you are a
mama tiger! Please tell me you at least ripped the woman a new one
for assaulting your 6 month old.
RESPONSE: Tired of Their Drama
I can't believe that she slapped the baby! Did you say anything to
her? I would have gone crazy on her.
RESPONSE: Tired of Their Drama
THERE IS NO REASON TO EVER STRIKE A BABY!!! This woman has no business
being around children, let alone helping out in a childcare business.
Imagine what she might be doing to those children when there are no
parents around to protect them. She should be reported to Children's
Protective Services. If it had been my child, I would've knocked
her lights out, and I would never allow her near me or my family ever
again. The woman is insane!!
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