I have been married for 3 years now,
and MIL has said and done all these to me: " I OWN MY
SON AND HE IS MINE!" I said that he is over 21 and that
no one owns anybody! MIL said, "GO BACK TO WHERE YOU
CAME FROM." I said, "Sure, your son will come with
me!" MIL answered, "WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?
I said, "Ask your son. He will tell you who I am!"
DH told his mother, "THAT'S MY WIFE. WE ARE ONE!"
My MIL gossips about me and spreads lies about me in the family.
She got BIL and SIL against me (I never did anything bad to them).
MIL got her town thinking that it's me (no one really met me).
My father passed away, and no one from DH's side even sent a card
to say that they were sorry. I always show up at wakes for
my husband's family and I send cards to all if they are sick, and
at their birthdays. We went to a wake, and DH's brother came
up to him, and not me. MIL poisoned my BIL's mind against
me. MIL can't control my husband like she does with my BIL
(he's a mama's boy). BIL goes against his own wife for his
mother! DH doesn't, and it makes his mother very angry.
She blames me for everything. We don't see her much, because
DH is mad at the way she treats me, and she poisons my name to the
family! I stay out of her house, because she always jabs me
with unkind words. I'm nice to her and send her cards and
gifts in the mail, and she complains about anything that I do for
her that is nice. I took her to the doctor one day for her
eye. The doctor came out and asked her, "Who took you
here?" MIL said, "My son," like I was a can
of tuna! I was sitting on a table with my husband and his
family after memorial services, talking to my other SIL, who married
DH's brother. MIL said, in front of everybody, to me, "GET
ME COFFEE and CAKE!" I did get it for her. I never
got a thank you. A few minutes later MIL said, "GET ME
ANOTHER PIECE OF CAKE!" I said to her, "ANOTHER
PIECE OF CAKE?" DH said to her on the side, "MA,
my wife is not your slave!" I don't mind doing nice things
for people, but my MIL is the rudest, meanest, coldest and most
evil person that you'd ever want to ever meet! She stops everyone
from coming to our house! She had a house of her own, and
I heard that she wanted to leave it to my husband because he is
disabled. We own a house of our own because, in the beginning
my husband asked his mother if we could live in her basement and
fix it up." She said, "NO!" So, I felt
that she didn't want me there, and now we own a house. My
MIL and BIL won't stop to look at our house or even congratulate
us! People told me to stay away from my MIL! She wants
everyone to bow down to her and roll out the RED carpet for her.
She wants RESPECT! She doesn't give it in return. She
is always right! Everyone else is always wrong! There
is no pleasing this lady, no matter what I do.
Signed - Not Part of
Her Family
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While planning my wedding,
I sent an email to all of my bridesmaids entitled "This is the
one!" It was a picture of me in the bridal salon, trying
on the dress that I fell in love with and ordered. One of my
bridesmaids was my SIL, who was only in the wedding to keep the peace.
It was not because we are friends (and that is by her choice, since
she is rude and unfriendly to everyone whom she meets). She
forwarded the email to her mother, who forwarded it to my husband.
She changed the title to "Check this out!" What exactly
was she trying to pull? Everyone knows that brides, for the
most part, like to keep the gown a secret until the wedding.
It's as if she wanted to take something from me, and she most certainly
did. I hated the idea that my husband knew exactly what I was
going to look like on our wedding day, and that there was no element
of surprise there. Everyone tried telling me that it wouldn't
matter; he would still be surprised; it would look different when
I had the veil and the whole nine yards, etc. That is not the
point! It is the fact that she did this to ruin things for me.
And, for that I forgive her because I am better person than she is.
But, I will always see her as an immature and spiteful person.
Signed - Unsurprising Bride
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My ILs are middle class
and live in a nice neighborhood in another state. I don't know
why, but my MIL is obsessed with "the elite" in her town,
and will sit and gossip about these people to me. They have
absolutely no idea who she is. And, I have no idea who they
are. It doesn't make sense. It's pretty funny sometimes,
but it is annoying. And, she is always looking for validation,
so I can't just nod and smile when she tells her stories. She
will say, "Dr. X's daughter just had a baby and she isn't married
yet! Do you think he is embarrassed by that?" And,
then she waits for my answer. But you can tell that she expects
that I will agree with her! What I really want to say is, "I
have no idea who Dr. X is, and don't care what his daughter is doing
or how he feels about it. Why do you care????" But,
I don't want to start anything with her. DH just told his parents
that one of his childhood friends bought a new house. His parents
have known this friend since he was 4 years old. Instead of
being happy for the guy, my MIL launched into her usual routine, "What
kind of neighborhood is it? Is it a large house? How much
did they pay? Who lived there before them?" Good
lord, woman! Why do you care!!!???? She is so weird!
Signed - MIL Wants Into
The Country Club
RESPONSE: MIL Wants Into The Country Club
When she tells you some gossip and asks your opinion, just say, "I
don't know Dr. X or his daughter, so I don't know how he feels about
it." Leave off anything about not caring. If she can't get
a reaction from you, she'll stop. She may, of course, start telling
others that you are a lousy storyteller. Gossips never admit that
they are gossips, they think they are news reporters or epic storytellers.
RESPONSE: MIL Wants Into The Country Club
Why don't you call her on her gossip? I guarantee that your MIL is
interpreting your silent nods as 100% agreement with her. This will
cause big problems for you later on!
This story is about my best
friend's MIL. Although I have my own horrible MIL, what this
woman did to my friend totally takes the cake. The banquet hall
where my friend got married expected payment in full 3 days prior
to the wedding. My friend's MIL had told her and her fiancé
that she would lend them the money to pay for the reception, and they
could pay her back after. Seven days before the wedding, she
took my two friends out for breakfast and asked them what they planned
to do about paying for the hall. She said that she "forgot"
to speak to her husband about lending them the money, and now it was
too late for them to withdraw that amount. Who FORGETS something
like that???? To make a really long story short, my friend called
me completely distraught. Her fiancé had a really bad
anxiety attack as a result of his mom's "announcement".
And, to top it off, his mother refused to drive him home so that he
could lie down! My husband and I drove to meet them to save
them from her evil clutches (he was the best man and I was maid of
honor). We told them (in front of her) that we would lend them
as much as we could to help them out. She started crying about
how we were all making her feel like "The Bad Guy".
DUH - maybe because she WAS. On the day of the wedding, we had
to sneak out, right before they started serving dinner, to count the
money box and pay the balance. Needless to say, neither me,
my husband, nor my friend said a word to her MIL during the entire
wedding day. And, they got the satisfaction of throwing a beautiful
wedding without her help!!
Signed - They Don't Need
Your Dirty Money!!!!!
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