My SIL was getting married, and my
MIL made it clear that she didn't want me anywhere near the wedding..
Not that I cared, as my MIL and SIL are two of the biggest b!tches
that you can ever find. But, my DH really wanted me to come.
Now, here is the other part. At the time, I had two year old
twins and my MIL made it CLEAR that they weren't to come.
That was fine by me, as I don't think that small children should
be at an evening wedding/dinner. BUT, my MIL would absolutely
not help me find a baby-sitter to take care of the kids while we
were at the wedding. My SIL had a lot of friends with kids,
and they use baby-sitters. Also, there were plenty of nanny
agencies in the city that could be called, but my MIL claimed that
she couldn't find anyone. Unless I could find someone, I couldn't
come. I live in another city from them. And, having
just moved there a year prior to this wedding, I didn't know anybody
well enough to ask them to watch my kids for the weekend.
Fortunately, my parents agreed to drive up and watch them that weekend,
even though my father was undergoing treatment for cancer.
On top of it all, when we got to the wedding, my MIL and SIL both
had appointments at the hairdresser the afternoon before the wedding,
and, of course, they never thought to include me. In fact,
my MIL said to me, "I didn't think that you like to go get
your hair done. I thought that you did it yourself."
Well, that may be true, but it would have been nice to have been
asked. It's been nearly 10 years since this happened, and
now with my kids' bar mitzvah looming on the horizon, perhaps I
ought to be just as nasty and hateful as they were. Then again,
maybe not, as I don't think that I could sink to their level.
My MIL and SIL are in a league of their own.
Signed - I Keep Smiling,
Even When It Kills Me
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Worst gift: My parents
traveled overseas and brought back very cheap gifts for the kids and
grandkids. But, the worst was that she gave my fiancé
a bar of soap. It was hotel soap! I'm glad that my fiancé
has a great sense of humor!
Signed - Clean As A Whistle
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Just after I had started
dating DH, he took me on a trip to my MIL's vacation house.
I was meeting her for the first time, and, therefore, I was being
as gracious as possible. But, this proved more difficult than
I thought, since she had two yapping, slobbery dogs that would NOT
stay away from me. I can't stand in-your-face dogs, especially
when the owners won't make them stop. Anyway, we went out to
dinner that first night, and I had left my suitcase open in my bedroom.
She had neglected to mention that one of the dogs has an affinity
for sniffing out ladies underwear and ripping them to shreds.
You can imagine my surprise when I returned to find two of my gorgeous,
expensive boutique thong panties and the bottom half of a new $75
bikini chewed to pieces and strewn all over the living room.
That Christmas, I got two pairs of $3 panties from my MIL - TUMMY
CONTROL, discount department store granny panties. Perhaps I'll
give them to the dog.
Signed - All Torn Up
RESPONSE: All Torn Up
Pretend that they were given to you as a deterrent to the dogs, i.e.,
pack them on top to deter the dogs from such hideous undies. Good
luck.
RESPONSE: All Torn Up
All in all, this is pretty mild in terms of some of the problems posted
here. Of course, you know it would have been bad manners to give
them to the dogs, unless you slipped them to the dogs under the dinner
table.
My MIL and I have always
had an unspoken tension between us. Many of her complaints were
told to my husband, and in his idiocy, he actually relayed them to
me. But, as I found out later, he didn't always get them quite
right. But, she is still a very controlling, overbearing, and
phony person. Even when we have decent, nice moments, she'll
ruin them. When I became pregnant for the first time, we were
trying to find the ideal way to tell all our family. I insisted
that we do it together, instead of him announcing the news to his
family and me to mine. We told my family, and it went well.
But, we wanted to do something different with his family. They
are more prone to gag gifts and such, so I thought about getting a
"grandma" necklace charm. But, that was very difficult
for me to swallow, since my own mom is deceased, and I could just
see her reveling in the fact that she was the only grandmother whom
our kids would ever know. I did not verbalize this to my husband,
but I suggested that we get an "uncle" charm for his little
brother. And, since he was only 10, it would be cute to watch
him figure out the significance of it. Well, when my BIL showed
off the gift that his "big sister" got him, you could see
the look of shock on her face and the first words out of her mouth
were, "I'm too young to be someone's grandmother!"
My FIL actually gave the response that I was expecting from her; excitement,
asking about due date, etc. She did say, eventually, "Well,
I guess that congratulations are in order, and then she proceeded
to try and force my BIL's crib furniture on us. We successfully
avoided the furniture, but she was very disappointed, stating that
she'd been saving it for my husband's children, and couldn't understand
why . . .
Signed - Neither Of Us
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