My mother-in-law invited my husband
to have dinner with her while I was in active labor!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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All of my life I have had
to deal with people who didn't give me credit for having some intelligence.
I screwed up my first marriage, and remarried at age 30. I hoped
to finally get a family that appreciated me. Right from the
start, I was doomed. I was divorced with two little girls.
DH was an only child, and was never married before. And, then
his mother had religion based objections to having a ready-made family.
But, I got pregnant, and nine months later we had a son. She
was thrilled, and proceeded to spoil him. She liked the girls,
but you could tell that DS was more important. As the years
went on, she became more of a pain in the @ss. And, to top it
off, my husband would not stand up for me. I was always in the
wrong for disliking the things that she had done. And, how I
hated holidays. She insisted that she always have holidays,
even when my parents were alive. Finally, we would have holidays
at our house, but it was still a bad day. She had a habit of
sticking the knife in and turning it just enough to get my attention,
and then acting like she didn't know what I was talking about.
Her feelings got hurt easily, and my husband would not discuss anything
with her. Instead, he would take it out on me. Finally,
I told him how I felt and he still took her side. Outsiders
do not see her as she is because she pulls the wool over their eyes.
And, on top of it, she acts like I am the best thing that happened
to my husband, and tells people that. But, to my face, she is
nasty. She is known as St. "X" to her friends, because
she has gone through so much over the years. After years of
watching my children grow to adulthood, marry, and have their own
children (6 grandchildren), I try not to do the same thing to them.
And I have . . .
Signed - Moved On With
My Life
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Oh, my gosh, I could write
a dozen stories. I just found this site, and I think it's a
hoot! My MIL told me, on my wedding day, that she thought that
her son was marrying the wrong woman. When I had our first child,
she showed up at my hospital room and told me that she expected me
to get my tubes tied and not have any more kids. She told assorted
relatives at a family gathering that I was not mentally capable of
being a mother (I'm a college graduate and a Mensa member).
Oh, I could go on. Bless her heart. I realize, now that
she's been gone for several years, that she had a horrible childhood
herself, and only knew how to survive by controlling others.
Signed - Bless Her Heart
I Just wanted to add my
story here. My MIL is the most giving person of all - big time
unselfish to her own children. My worst crime is that her daughter
is deprived of the good life that I have because her son married me.
She happens to be living where we are, which I thought was a blessing,
until recently. But, what the heck, it doesn't matter where
I live, I am the living topic of gossip. Did anybody get that?
Plus, SIL has the biggest mouth, and they both confirm the gossip
and then spread it around to everyone who will listen. I will
not go into specifics, but I will admit that she is a good grandma
to my DS, and truly cares for his welfare. Except, she has a
one track mind. She isn't that old, but she holds on to her
beliefs, and often throws pity parties with herself and my SIL.
And, they are never wrong about anything. I am the strangest
creature whom they know. Supposedly, I don't realize what a
good life I have, and nor do I realize who provides it (or, should
I say, do I realize who my sponsor is). How I hate that word.
And, they say it all the time, even as a joke to DS. Does he
know who his sponsor is? Maybe that is something from her heritage
that I will never comprehend. Are there any women out there
who can share a comment or some advice on how to deal with a MIL who
seems nice, honestly nice sometimes, and then hits below the belt
(and not even outrightly). It's done behind my back. Perhaps,
in my naiveté, I have somehow assumed that, after more than
12 years, all bad feelings go away, because tolerance builds.
I dealt with it with indifference, then laughter, then total surrender.
Lately, it has come to my attention that the problem DIL, ME, has
really been getting on her nerves more than ever. Why, how,
and what, I am unsure of. I don't know if they ever liked me
at all. Why do they insist that I remember their birthdays?
And, if I do send a card, I will be accused of hypocrisy (some sarcasm
would surely follow). Here is the text of a precious card that
my SIL sent. "Dear SIL, Congratulations on your birthday.
We hope that you had a nice day, and we wanted to congratulate you,
even though you never remember or think of us on our birthdays.
We felt that we couldn't let this day go by without sending you a
virtual card." This was signed by everyone in DH's immediate
family. Is this a self-serving card, or is this a pity us card?
But, you must agree that one has to laugh. And, that is the
way to do it. Laugh if you can, and do not take it to heart.
It really is funny, until they really yell at you. It has never
happened yet, but I am hanging on to my seat.
Signed - More to Come
RESPONSE: More to Come
Continue laughing. If they yell at you, yell back. Or, just never
see them again, assuming that you can find something else to laugh
at.
RESPONSE: More to Come
Ew! Don't wait for them to yell at you. They're so messed up that
you should give yourself as much space as possible before anything
worse happens.
RESPONSE: More to Come
I personally would have sent them back a virtual card that told them
to go *&%# themselves, and signed my name with love. I wouldn't
put up with morons like that. They were obviously trying to start
something, and they did, so don't give them the satisfaction of the
response that they are looking for. If DH doesn't like it, ask him
if he wants a virtual card to explain how you feel, too.
RESPONSE: More to Come
Your MIL is NOT a good grandma if she makes jokes in front of your
son that disparages you. If you do not cut them off, they will teach
your child to disrespect you. That would be unfortunate. Cut them
off. Tell them to f-off and die right.
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