My MIL told me to go find a home,
and then she would buy it for us to buy from her (because of self
employment and credit reasons). So, I searched and found a
perfect house at a great deal! We went through so much getting
in. The previous owner had so many offers, but he chose me
because he liked me and our 5 kids. My husband and I have
done so much to the house and yard. We put in so much time,
effort and money. We put in a new roof (which got us in the
house and closed the deal), cleaned, painted, remodeled, added a
new deck, and fixed up the yard, etc. A year later, my MIL
changed her mind and said that she wanted to keep the house, even
though she owns the one she's living in! She said that we
should go find another house because next year she will be moving
in! My husband and I feel so used and cheated! Now we
have to rearrange our lives because of her greediness. Our
kids love their school, friends and neighbors. It will be
so hard to find a home this size for this price. We are devastated.
We have done so much! She has taken loan after loan, using
the house as a bank. At first, she was so happy for us, then
she seemed to get very competitive and greedy! She's already
planned what she is going to do when she moves in. None of
these plans include my children, as usual. I have no idea
why she is doing this. She and FIL would have to drive for
a half an hour every day to work if they moved in! I don't
know what her deal is, or why. DH says that he doesn't know
either. This is not what family is supposed to be like.
We used to be close, and we had a great relationship. I loved
it! Now, for some reason, she has completely changed!
I just want her to be a loving mother who is proud and supportive
of her son and his family.
Signed - I Thought That
I Had It Good With My MIL
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I came across this site
and I read a couple of stories. Then, I laughed till I cried,
and called my mom. Growing up, I saw the cr@ppy relationship
that my mom and GM (my dad's mom) had. My mom warned me, "Make
sure, when you meet someone, his mother is not like your nonna).
Now, I love my nonna to death, but she talks cr@p behind my mom's
back to my brothers and me. Anyway, I met DH five years ago.
I literally bumped into him at the grocery store. He was with
his parents, shopping for groceries. I was with my college roommate.
When we started dating, MIL and FIL where so, so, so nice to me.
MIL made me my favorite pie. FIL called me daughter (they have
only boys). Three years ago, everything changed (as soon as
we started talking marriage). MIL changed. She was nasty
to me and my family. I told her, once, that I am unable to have
children, and that I want to adopt. She got on a microphone
at her anniversary party two nights after we got engaged and sobbed
about the fact that I can't have kids. And, she said that the
family name will be tarnished if DH adopts. If that wasn't hurtful
enough, she banned me from family gatherings. Then, around the
time of our wedding, she made our lives such he!!. We didn't
tell her, and we had small wedding. Only DH, his two brothers,
two SILs, FIL, GMIL and GFIL were invited. When she found, out
she freaked. She came to my house and started a fight with my
mother when I was away on my honeymoon. We adopted our first
child, a DS, three months ago. She ignores him, and tells DH
that she loves his brother's kids better. What a $%$%$.
Signed - Wanting to Kill
My MIL
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Worst gift: I met my
in-laws for the first time a week before my wedding. DH is in
the military and he is stationed on the opposite side of the country.
First of all, they showed up to my parent's house empty-handed.
They freeloaded for two weeks, never even picking up their plates
after eating. After they left, I had to clean the room that
they stayed in, and it took me four hours! There was trash everywhere.
It was my old room that they stayed in, and they took everything off
the walls because it was "distracting". And, they
didn't bother to put the items back up. They never paid for
anything for the wedding (they had previously agreed to some things
- my parents footed the whole bill). Do you know what we got
as a wedding present? Dollar store dishes that were nowhere
near the color that we asked for. Our wedding was three days
after Christmas, and they insisted on being there to exchange Christmas
presents. I got the soundtrack to a children's movie. Um,
I'm not eight years old! The whole time that they were there,
they pitched a fit whenever DH and I hugged or, God forbid, kissed.
They almost had a heart attack when they found us sleeping in the
same bed. Hello, we'd been living together for four months!
Things have only gotten worse since then!
Signed - Oh Yeah, I'm Bitter
RESPONSE: Oh Yeah, I'm Bitter
Your ILs sound like thoughtless slobs. But, I just don't see why
you expected them to foot any of the bill for your wedding. Like
most people, we paid for our own, and didn't expect a thing from anyone
else
It all began the morning
that I went into the hospital to give birth to my son. My MIL
and her mother spent the entire day in the birthing room with me and
my husband. All I wanted was time alone with my husband and
some privacy. By late afternoon we had a crowd - MIL, FIL, MIL's
mother, and my father and step mother (none of whom get along or even
say two words to each other). The nurse was kind enough to "polite-fully"
remove them all from the room around 9pm. Everyone left, except
for MIL. You would have thought that the baby was going to be
hers, not ours. She had no respect for our wishes for privacy.
This was really evident due to the fact that, when I was trying to
push, she opened the door to the room and I had to scream to my husband
to get her the "@#$% OUT" of the room. I eventually
had to have a c-section, and I barely remember anything. According
to my husband, she practically pushed the Dr. and nurse out of the
way to see her grandchild as he was being taken out of the OR and
into the nursery. This was at 4:30am. Around 9am I was
able to see my son clearly for the first time. I was so tired
- I really had not slept in over 24 hours at this point. As
soon as visiting hours started, MIL and her mother were there in the
hospital room looking at me as if I had died. They were going
crazy over DS (which was fine with me, but she took the cake).
When my father and stepmother came in to visit that morning, all of
the fun began. When my stepmother offered to help me out by
taking my son to feed him his bottle so that I could rest a little,
my MIL stepped in on the other side of me and grabbed my son out of
her hands!!!!! I could not believe what I was seeing.
She is insane. I really mean that there is really something
wrong with this woman. I brought my son's baby book so that
his visitors could sign the book. Well, my stepmother signed
the book as "grandma -----", and this frosted my MIL, so
she placed #1 Grandma next to her name. The sad thing about
all of this is the fact that my own mother passed away 4 years prior
to the birth of my son, and this battle is between MIL and stepmother
(two people who do not even know me). At the end of the evening,
my MIL was mad at her mother for speaking to my family. And,
then she continued to snap at my husband, who'd had just as much sleep
as I'd had. And, we never even had time alone with our newborn
son. My FIL was horrified that his wife was even acting like
this. He decided that it was time for them to go home, and she
started yelling outside my hospital room that no one was going to
tell her that she had to go home. The nurse had to look into
the room to make sure that everything was ok, and she had to make
her leave. My MIL is a piece of work. She has managed
to ruin everything in our lives that should be remembered as a special
occasion. She definitely . . .
Signed - Leaves Her Mark
RESPONSE: Leaves Her Mark
Maybe DH should grow a pair and tell mommy dearest to back off. Why
did he allow his mother in the BIRTHING ROOM?
RESPONSE: Leaves Her Mark
That is terrible!! I wish that MILs would get a clue about how they
treat their DILs! Just think though, all mean MILs do go to he!!.
RESPONSE: Leaves Her Mark
Your DH needs to learn to stand up to his mother. I bet that all
those unwelcome people in the delivery room contributed to your birth
ending in a c-section. I hope that your MIL has learned her place
now. If not, keep away from her!
RESPONSE: Leaves Her Mark
No MIL should ever be allowed to ruin more than three important events.
Three strikes and YER OUT!
RESPONSE: Leaves Her Mark
This goes to prove what I think sometimes about people and babies
- they are way too obsessed. That is crazy to think that she couldn't
wait, like a normal human being, to see her grandchild. There is
something wrong with people who absolutely think that they need to
see a baby pulled out of a crotch to witness it being born (and they
could not care less about what the mother needs in order to be comfortable).
RESPONSE: Leaves Her Mark
What I don't understand is this - if you wanted privacy with your
newborn and DH, why didn't you just tell your MIL to leave?? If that
was my MIL, I would have called the nurse and had her escorted out
of the hospital. I would not have cared what she thought.
RESPONSE: Leaves Her Mark
Wait! This is my story!!! REALLY! Or maybe our MILs are twins!
My MIL refers to herself as "Ma Ma". I'm nothing. A few
days after I had my first son (I had a rough delivery) she wanted
us to come over for a visit. I wasn't feeling too well, so I declined.
She was furious, because my mother was staying with us to help out.
She called me and told me that she didn't care how bad I felt, and
that I needed to get on with my life! She said, "I have grandparent's
RIGHTS, and I demand to see MY baby!" She's horrible! You are
not alone!
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