I bought a gift for my MIL.
She liked it. I bought flowers and cake on her birthday, too.
We went out for dinner. It was a chilly day. I made
my 3 month old daughter wear a hat, which made DH and I get into
an argument. He cannot control his temper. However,
we went out. We had starters, and, finally, my baby started
crying too much. She cried so much that we all had to leave
the place. And, my MIL blamed me, because she said that while
leaving the house, I made bad luck by arguing with her son.
She said, "I did not like your cake with icing."
Is this my fault? She even gave me a hard time when I was
pregnant. She often criticizes my mother and my relatives.
She makes me . . .
Signed - Really Tired
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I have to make a point about something,
and it has everything to do with ILs, the child we carry for 9 months,
and ILs thinking that we have to name our children after people
on their side only. My husband and his family seem to think
that his side of the family should be the only ones to pass themselves
on through their names to the child that I carried for 9 months.
I don't think so!!! My side of the family is just as important,
if not more important than his side, because I'm the mother, and
I will be raising this baby, like most of us do. While sitting
with my baby in the hospital bed, my ILs were throwing around possible
names for our little girl. They were speaking to my DH.
They gave names of great aunts, grandma's, etc., - you name it,
it was from their side. I got very annoyed at this, and I
thought to myself, "Why, after everything that I just went
through, and will be going through while DH is at work and playing
golf on the weekends with his buddies, would I name this child after
his side of the family, especially when the baby already gets HIS
LAST NAME?!!!!" I automatically opened my mouth and hushed
them all. I told them that they were all wasting their time,
because I was going to be naming the baby the name that I chose,
and it wasn't even a name on my side of the family. It was
just a name that I thought was the prettiest name I had ever heard
(since I was a little girl). They looked shocked, and argued
some, but I simply stated that I wasn't that old fashioned, and
I wanted to name the child that I had carried for nine months.
I'm the mother, and I dared any of them to argue with me.
They all were silent. When I heard them all talking about
the names that were only from their side, it really was nothing
more than a glorified pissing contest to put themselves into the
future. Name or no name, they will always have existed, and
they will always live on through our children. But, I really
just realized how much I detest women putting up with such an old
fashioned, arrogant tradition that makes us feel like nothing more
than incubators. So, all I'm saying is to name your children
what you want, because they do get DH's last name. DH argued
that, because we had a girl, he should name her, because she will
get married some day. Well, guess what? Even if she
gets married, she will always have a maiden name, and she will always
be his daughter. She can pass his so called glorious legacy
on in other ways than . . .
Signed - Just A Name
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This isn't the meanest thing
that my MIL has ever said, but it rates pretty high on my personal
gross meter. It happened back in the days when she actually
made the effort to visit and spend time with her grandchildren.
Like most people, I never think twice about making up a clean bed
for house guests. But MIL suggested, "Next time, I'll bring
along some of my own sheets so that, between visits, you won't have
to wash them. You can just store them away." The
idea of her grubby sheets next to our clean ones in the linen cupboard
made me feel downright nauseous. So, I politely declined.
Signed - Eeeewwwwwwwwww!!!
RESPONSE: Eeeewwwwwwwwww!!!
What's so bad about that? It sounds like she's trying to think of
your feelings.
RESPONSE: Eeeewwwwwwwwww!!!
That is really, really GROSS. Did you point it out to her???
RESPONSE: Eeeewwwwwwwwww!!!
LOL! I guess she's so sparkling clean that she doesn't dirty her
own sheets. I wonder how often she changes her own bed linen. Eewwwww
is right!
This isn't about my MIL.
DH and I just bought a house, and the previous owner left behind the
refrigerator and stove. Unfortunately, the fridge had been turned
off for a while, so it had mold inside it and smelled really bad.
We weren't bothered, because we had planned to buy a new one anyway.
So, we removed the doors and put it on the curb for trash pickup.
As I was carrying the doors out to the curb, an older man and woman
stopped their BRAND NEW CADILLAC on the street and came over.
She was wearing a fur coat and he was wearing a very expensive suit.
They asked if they could have their son come by and get the fridge
that we were throwing out so that they could give it to their other
son and his wife for a wedding gift! I was dumbfounded.
I didn't know what to say. I told them that it smelled and that
it had mold in it. They said that it didn't matter, their future
DIL should be thankful to get a fridge as a gift, regardless of its
condition.
Signed - Glad They're Not
In My Family!
RESPONSE: Glad They're Not In My Family!
I'm sure that we'll be hearing from their FDIL here on this site.
What cheap losers!
RESPONSE: Glad They're Not In My Family!
That sounds like something my GPs would have done to my mother. You
should have found out their names so you could locate and warn their
FDIL!!! LOL.
RESPONSE: Glad They're Not In My Family!
I think I would have taken pity on the DIL and smashed it up in front
of her so that she could not take it.
RESPONSE: Glad They're Not In My Family!
Oh, man, I think that had to be the saddest thing I have heard. I
can see why many times marriages don't work. It is, I think, due
to all the impoliteness and hatefulness that goes on like that.
RESPONSE: Glad They're Not In My Family!
So, that's where my ILs got our wedding gift! After picking up your
fridge, they went a block over and picked up some broken lawn chairs
for us. And, to this day, MIL wonders why I hate her so.
RESPONSE: Glad They're Not In My Family!
I would have told them that they were @ssholes, and that no, they
couldn't have the fridge. I would have also told them that they should
be glad that you don't know their son and DIL, or you would tell their
son that they are @SSHOLES, too.
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