My MIL is completely insane.
Right before DH and I got married, she felt it necessary to set
me down and tell me everything that her ex-husband, my husband's
father, did to her and the kids. That included the fact that
DH's stepmother used to be my MIL's best friend. She neglected
to tell me that her present husband's ex wife used to be her best
friend! Anyway, it was 3 weeks till my wedding, and I was
just getting the wedding invitations in. My sister made the
invitations on the computer, and they were beautiful. I took
them over to my MIL so that she could look at them. All she
could say was, "Why is X's (my FIL) name first on the invitations?"
I told her that this was the way that they were supposed to go.
The father always goes first. Well, she didn't say anything
else, so I went on home. DH and I were already living together.
I got a call from her the next day while I was preparing the invitations.
She told me that she wanted her sister to redo the invitations with
her name first, instead of FIL's. I was pissed! I told
her that the invitations were already late, and that I had to send
them out as soon as possible. She then proceeded to yell at
me, telling me that neither she nor her family would show up to
the wedding unless I changed them. I told her that she needed
to stop being immature and to start thinking of her son. MIL
told me, out of the blue, that DH would always love her more than
he will ever love me! I told her that if she wants to compare
the love, then that was just disgusting. DH heard us arguing,
and he told me to send the invitations off anyway. So I did.
About 3 hours later my soon-to-be aunt-in-law called to tell me
that my wedding invitations were waiting for me at the post office
to be picked up! I couldn't believe it. This was a small
town. She knew a lady at the post office and she called to
let her know that we needed them stopped due to errors on the invitations.
I had no idea what to say. I guess that I was tired of fighting,
so I went and picked them up, but not before sending off the old
ones to my family. Well, they redid the invitations and sent
them off. During this whole time she didn't even call us once.
DH and I already had a 2 year old daughter before this, and she
and my MIL were really close. But, she didn't call even once
to see her or anything for 2 1/2 weeks. It was one day before
my wedding, and I had already planned that my mom would baby-sit
while we went on our honeymoon. My MIL called and told us
that SHE wanted to watch our daughter while we were gone.
There was no way that I was giving in again, so I flat out told
her that I already made plans. She tried to argue, but I just
hung up on her. Well, it was the wedding day. You know
how when the bride walks down the aisle, she is supposed to give
her mom and her new MIL roses? Well, I gave my mom one but,
not my MIL!!! I could tell so many stories that it isn't even
funny. Many are much worse than this one. DH and I have
been married for 3 years, and there are shocking stories that I
could tell you.
Signed - No Roses For
MIL
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I haven't written for a
while, as everything has been quiet on the in-law front. A few
months ago things came to a head, and I told them that I didn't appreciate
them TELLING me that they wanted a relationship with my DD, while
not actually DOING anything about it. A few weeks later, I agreed
to talk to them on the phone, and told them that, while I didn't want
a relationship with them (other than a polite stranger type one),
I wouldn't stand in their way with their son and our DD. Since
that time, about 6 months ago, they haven't called or made any attempt
to contact either my DH or DD. I recently found out that they
were telling other family members that I wouldn't let them ring the
house, even though I specifically said that I wouldn't stop them.
I have never been a vindictive person, and would never be rude to
them in any way, and I never have. Anyway, DH had had enough,
and sent them a letter saying that this was all nonsense and he would
like to have a polite relationship with them. His mother wrote
back talking about how good forgiveness is, and blah, blah, blah.
She quite often reads or hears what she wants, so I was not surprised.
So, my DH started talking to her again. Now, my DH has started
going to counseling because he has incredibly bad communication problems
stemming from his family life. He's trying to be honest with
his feelings. And, as much as it is sometimes hard to hear,
I'm supporting him, as I'm sure it's hard after 35 years to start
expressing yourself. So, he told his mother that he was having
a hard time listening to her go on about some kid whom she helps where
she lives, as she has done nothing to help things between her and
DD. To this she replied, "Your wife has told me to have
nothing to do with her. I have so much love for her. When
things change, please let me know, and all the love I have will be
sent her way." Isn't that nice? My point here is
that, no matter what we say, it will never get through their thick
heads. They hear what they want to hear. My MIL certainly
could not have heard me say that she's more than welcome to have whatever
relationship she wants with DD, because then she couldn't play a victim
to her friends and cry about it. Oh well, just one more thing
that she can add to her list of why I've ruined her life.
Signed - The Home Wrecker
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Worst gift: My MIL is
a piece of work. Three Christmases ago she gave me a blanket
that I had ordered for myself - it was accidentally shipped to her
house (she lives across the street). Are you feeling my pain
yet? I also got a cheap kitchen knife, a muffin pan, and a pack
of the cigarettes that I smoke. We bought her outfits, perfumes,
and lots of nice stuff. She bought DH and FIL big ticket items
- really nice gifts. What she did was apparent to everyone.
Signed - Still Trying to
Forget
I actually have a problem
with both MIL and FIL. Today's story, though, is about my FIL.
He has this "sense of humor" that I do not find funny at
all. Once my DH, DD, and I were at the IL's for dinner, one
of the last times that we were there. I decided to make a popular
Mexican drink, rice water. FIL had never had it, and he is quite
closed minded. But, I asked if he wanted me to pour him some.
He had the nerve to say, "I'll try it later. I don't want
to ruin my dinner." I thought, "What an @ss."
My MIL makes double baked potatoes. I don't like them.
FIL asked me, "Don't you want to try a potato?", and I said,
"No thanks, I wouldn't want to ruin my dinner." Well,
he didn't find that too funny, but my husband and his little brother
found it quite hilarious. Later, DH told me not to take it too
seriously, because he was probably just kidding.
Signed - I'll Pass On The
Potatoes!
RESPONSE: I'll Pass On The Potatoes!
Great ending!!!!
RESPONSE: I'll Pass On The Potatoes!
F#$% 'em if they can't take a joke right on back.
RESPONSE: I'll Pass On The Potatoes!
LOL! Don't you know that you're only supposed to TAKE it, not dish
it right back out? Good for you. I think that it was hilarious,
too.
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