My ex-BF's father never wanted to
meet my brother, because he was tattooed, pierced and played the
guitar. I dated this guy for a while, so he eventually brought
his parents over to meet my parents, because they really only lived
a block away. My brother was there. I wanted him there,
because my BF's father was going to attempt to be a smug idiot and
make comments to my brother about how he looked. When I introduced
them, my brother initiated a conversation. This man learned
a thing or two that day about not judging others for expressing
themselves in a way that was other than the way he saw fit.
My brother has a masters in computer science, he also volunteers
as a math tutor for children 7 to 15, and he teaches children of
all ages how to start playing the guitar. Now, this BF's father
couldn't say that he had done half the good deeds or had half the
smarts of this so called tattooed punk. After the meeting
my brother said to me that BF's father didn't know his @ss from
his elbow, and that he was obviously very insecure.
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DH and I have been married
for about two years. One day, the ILs decided to start picking
out baby names, choosing both boy and girl names. They were
really concerned that we must, at some point, have a boy to pass on
the family name. The Problem: I wasn't pregnant, nor did
I have plans to be pregnant any time soon. We moved into a house.
At the first visit with the ILs at the new house they asked, "Which
room will be the baby's room??" Still, I was not pregnant.
Time went on. My MIL seemed to just begin to hate me.
DH and I were both postgraduate students working on careers.
Time went on. MIL hated me more and more. I could not
understand what I had done. Time went on. The gynecological
problems that I'd been having all along became worse, to the point
where I decide not to have children due to the potential risk to the
baby and me. Not to mention, MIL hates me now. I can't
imagine what would happen if I started raising "her" grandchild.
MIL really began to hate me. She made rude comments and sarcastic
remarks when my DH was out of the room. One day, I was having
a conversation with MIL's sister. She told me that MIL treats
me badly because I don't have any children and she is very upset.
DH is an only child. Did I mention that I also hyphenate my
last name, and have a credit card in my maiden name? When MIL
found out that I had a credit card in my maiden name, she said, "What
did you do, inherit a million dollars or something?", in that
sarcastic tone that she is so good at. Her behavior became so
bad that I now limit my time with the ILs. As a result, their
time with darling son is now limited.
Signed - Just A Human Incubator
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When my DH and I were married, we did the customary
thing of saving the top tier of the wedding cake for our first anniversary.
As we were packing up the various wedding items, MIL told my DH that
it is a tradition to have the in-laws and parents over on your first
anniversary for cake and punch. This was the first time that
either of us had heard of that. I know the cake part, but including
your parents and in-laws? Maybe that was OK for later anniversaries,
but not on our first! I have been asking other married couples
if they had ever heard of doing this, but no one had ever even heard
of it! It turns out that MIL's mother (who was very bossy and
intrusive) made MIL and FIL do the exact same thing. She complained
about it then, but that wasn't stopping her from trying to make DH
and me do it! She also mentioned that on the weekend of our
anniversary, which is coming up, there is a garden show that she wants
to go to with us. It is on our anniversary! My DH HATES
garden stuff. Yeah, like that's going to happen. We are
going out of town!!
Signed - Just Say No To
MILs!
RESPONSE: Just Say No To MILs!
Good for you for having a spine!!! It sounds like she was trying
to make plans to suit herself, not you.
RESPONSE: Just Say No To MILs!
Tell MIL that you thought it was tradition to wear a sexy nightie,
and do it like bunnies on your first anniversary. LOL. Why would
you want to spend such a romantic celebration with the ILs?
My MIL has the "too
nice syndrome". Basically, our problem is that she is annoying.
I can tell that she tries so hard to be nice to me, so I purposely
treat her like cr@p just to test her patience. During every
discussion that we have I always go against what she's thinking.
It's hilarious! She is so obsessed with my husband and my life,
it's like we're her favorite soap opera and she just can't wait to
hear the latest scoop, and she needs her daily helping of what's going
on. One day, she called and my husband wasn't home from work
yet because he went to the bar with his boss. She insisted on
knowing why he wasn't home yet and where he was. I refused to
tell her where he was. She called every 20 minutes. After
that, she even went as far as asking me for his boss' phone number
so that she could call to see if he was ok. The last time that
she called I told her, "You know what? He is a 23 year
old man and he can take care of himself. He doesn't need his
parents checking on him." And she said, "Well, honey,
I know that he's yours and it shouldn't be any of our business, but
we're just worried." And I said, "Well, don't be,"
and I hung up. That was the first time that she ever got what
I was trying to tell her, because usually she pretends that we have
a beautiful relationship. I wonder if she'll keep lying to everyone
about her perfect little family!
Signed - Annoying MIL
RESPONSE: Annoying MIL
You're crazy.
RESPONSE: Annoying MIL
And you seem to have the "too nasty" syndrome.
RESPONSE: Annoying MIL
You sound like a nasty piece of work. No wonder your MIL is worried
about her son.
RESPONSE: Annoying MIL
"I purposely treat her like cr@p." Oh my. A DIL from he!!.
RESPONSE: Annoying MIL
If she's trying so hard to be nice to you, why are you such a b!tch
to her?? Read over some of the stories and count your lucky stars.
RESPONSE: Annoying MIL
Okay, you sound like a real b!tch!! You have a MIL who is trying
to get along with you, and you purposely are mean to her.
RESPONSE: Annoying MIL
Wow, you sound really cruel. Heaven forbid she should be nice and
try to have a relationship with you while you are just mocking her
and lying to her. Would it kill you to tell the woman that her son
is late coming home from work?
RESPONSE: Annoying MIL
Sorry, but I don't find your post amusing. This woman has made every
effort to be nice, and is not a mean person. Yet, instead of meeting
her halfway, you have thwarted her at every turn. I think that you
should seek help to find the root of your hostility. You're obviously
mad at someone, but MIL is the person you're taking it out on.
RESPONSE: Annoying MIL
You are a b!tch who gives DILs a bad name! The woman has done nothing
wrong. She clearly stated that he was yours, but she was just worried.
What is your problem? If she is nice after the way you have treated
her, you have a true treasure, and need to make it up to her. Perhaps
getting a real life would help.
RESPONSE: Annoying MIL
I'm not sure that I'm understanding you. Your MIL is "too nice"?
From your story, it seems to me that she is just being nice. There
doesn't seem to be any maliciousness in her behavior. On the other
hand, you treat her like something you scraped off the bottom of your
shoe. You "try her patience" when she's being nice to you?
What the heck is that about? How would you feel if someone was trying
to be pleasant to you, and he or she treated you that way? I can
understand being annoyed at the phone call, but she's a mother. DH
is only 23 years old. You probably have not been married for too
long, and she hasn't gotten used to not knowing where he is. Is there
some other reason that you don't like her? Does she kick her dog
or barge in on you during intimate moments? If your only concern
is the fact that she's "too nice", I suggest that you read
some of the other posts and thank your lucky stars that you have a
sane MIL!
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