I had no idea what I was getting
myself into when I started dating my DH. Sure, I thought it
was strange that his mother still made his bed for him, did all
his laundry, and paid all his bills, even though he was 20, but
I knew he was special, and I figured that if we got serious enough,
he'd grow up. She liked me then. We dated for about
a year and a half, and then he asked me to marry him. I was
elated! He's a wonderful, caring man, and I was so excited
to spend the rest of my life with him. And, then we told her,
and my life was over. She insisted, sometimes in front of
me, that we were young, and he still had to sleep with lots of other
people and drink himself to sickness every weekend. Our usual
Sunday evening dinners turned into torture fests, as she either
ignored me, or got into raging arguments with now-FIL over BIL.
She thought it appropriate for a then 15 year old to drink, smoke
and stay out all night. FIL didn't. FIL would then drink
so that he wouldn't have to deal with her. I don't blame him
a bit. She started "working" all day, every day
(even though she would never let FIL see any paychecks, and sometimes
wasn't there when he looked for her). We had about a year
and a half to plan the wedding, and no matter how hard I tried to
get MIL involved, she just became more despondent and incredibly
rude (you're going to spend how much on that, you're going to have
one of those?!). Let me set the record straight by saying
that I did everything possible to cut corners on prices. I
made ALL of my own flowers (compared to $400 - $2000), bought my
dress used for $200, didn't have my hair, makeup, nails or anything
of that sort done by anyone but me, myself and I. We knew
someone who worked for a caterer who could get us a discount.
So, in essence, the caterer chose us. No limo - we drove our
truck. You get the picture. Meanwhile, DH and I decided
that we wanted children, and what better time than the present.
We had a two month window to "try" so that we could have
baby a few months before the wedding, and we succeeded in month
one. It was something that we had planned after counseling
from our church and much thought, but MIL still insisted that our
beautiful DD was an accident. More about that later.
After MIL and FIL met with my parents, they decided to graciously
split the costs of the wedding fifty-fifty. I believe that
MIL didn't think the wedding was ever going to really happen at
that time. The day after the wedding, she said that it was
FIL who agreed to pay half, and she would have nothing to do with
helping with the costs. And, she accused us of using her for
her money! She consumed herself with what dress she would
wear (she bought 4 or 5 of them) and making sure that I (not hubby)
got all of the invitations out for her family, as if I was trying
to sabotage her. The day finally came, and she didn't say
a word to me while taking pictures. She didn't even acknowledge
me in the receiving line. It got worse at the reception.
She ran around like a sixth grader with her friend, got sloppy drunk
and made a fool of herself (and me) on the balcony when she shouted
to everyone about how I stole her baby away. I heard later
from an aunt, who was breastfeeding her baby in the bathroom, that
she bashed everything about me to everyone in there. SHE COULDN'T
KEEP HER MOUTH SHUT AT MY OWN FREAKING WEDDING! DH heard about
it and tried to get her to apologize. Sometimes, she denies
that she said anything, other times she insists that she did nothing
wrong. We haven't spoken to her since then.
Signed - Where Did The
Nice Woman Who Made Cookies For Me Go?
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Worst gift: I am not
a collection person. I like my home to be uncluttered and spacious,
but my MIL doesn't care. That is mainly because hers is a house
of collection after collection of cheap whatnot cr@p, which she has
no room for. That's her house, so that's her business.
A couple of years ago, my husband and I planted flowers by our walkway
(this was our first new home purchase, and we were proud and motivated).
DH saw a small, but cute outdoor rabbit and turtle, so he bought them
to put in the flower bed. My MIL came to visit and saw the turtle,
I suppose, because now she will not stop buying my hubby turtles for
indoors. She buys him turtles for his birthday, Christmas, etc.
But, then she tells people that we collect them in order to get them
to get us turtles, too. So, now we see her every month or so,
and she has more turtles to give! I am in turtle HE!!.
DH won't speak to her about it. In 10 years, she has never given
me a birthday present, but this year what did I get? Freaking
turtles. Please. I was looking forward to nothing again!!!
This is just aggravating. I can't speak to her about it, because
any time I have told her something, she doesn't want to hear it.
She doesn't listen, or she starts crying. But I am having a
garage sale this weekend. Bye, bye turtles.
Signed - In Turtle HE!!
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- cantstandja, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 9-NOV-03
DD was born with a full head of hair, so by 6 months,
around Thanksgiving, she needed a haircut. I decided that I
would do it myself. Besides, it's just a baby. Well, my
MIL just so happens to be a hairdresser. On Thanksgiving (at
her house), she announced, in front of everyone, "So, you gave
her a haircut, huh? And I'm the beautician." So I
said, "So what. I did a pretty good job." And,
so, she said, "Well, maybe you should come work with me,"
in a sarcastic way. I got up and walked away. She didn't
see me or DD for the rest of the day.
Signed - BEASTician
RESPONSE: BEASTician
Get over it. That was nothing.
RESPONSE: BEASTician
You are totally overreacting, and maybe you should have let her cut
his hair. Let's face it, she probably would have done a better job
and she would have felt good if you gave her the chance to do it.
It doesn't hurt to let someone feel good about themselves, does it?
My MIL is not "evil",
just plain stupid! She has tried several times to convince me
that I married the wrong son. She would go into detail about
how my husband was ugly, and how his brother (her youngest) was sooooo
handsome and much better looking than my husband. And, she even
went as far as to say that if she were a young girl, she'd go after
him (her own son?). She told me this three times. The
first time I ignored her. The second time DH heard her.
And, the third time, DH heard me b!tching her out. Since then,
she has gotten closer to the label as being "evil".
SIL (DH's sister) got married last June, and all of the "family"
took pictures. I'm not in one. I was in some of the "candid"
pictures, but they threw them away. They have a collage of photos
from the wedding. There is a picture of DH alone, and you can
almost see my arm next to him. After that (we had stayed with
my in-laws for a few months to pay off bills), when we were planning
to move out, MIL took my DH aside and asked him to PLEASE not leave.
She said that he should let ME go and move out, and SHE would pay
for our divorce. DH flipped out on her. She has also said
horrible things to me. We have been trying for a baby, but she
told me months ago, "Stop trying now. If God was going
to give you one, you'd have one already." SO, now that
we've moved out and away from them (it's been two months), I get to
limit the time we spend with "it". WE went to dinner
last Saturday, and that was the first time in 3 weeks that we saw
them. AND, we were only there for an hour! Yippie.
Freedom Rings!!
Signed - Disgusted With
MIL's Infatuation With Her Own Son!
RESPONSE: Disgusted With MIL's Infatuation With Her Own
Son!
Your MIL is EVIL, CRAZY and CRUEL!! How could she say those things
about her OWN son?!? Yep, she's EVIL!
RESPONSE: Disgusted With MIL's Infatuation With Her Own
Son!
Wow, I hate your MIL! Congratulations on getting away. I hope this
is a lesson to the rest of us NEVER to live with our ILs!
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